Why you can't be resentful and happy at the same time. A Happy Hour Conversation with Phil Goddard

This week's show is with Phil Goddard, an internationally renowned coach, author, speaker, leadership trainer, and lover of life and humanity. He is a published author and the host of The Coaching Life Podcast. His work centres around transforming relationships through a deeper understanding of love and the nature of how our experience of life is created. With humour and sincerity, he combines over twenty-one years in I.T. and Telecoms corporate leadership with twelve years as a professional coach, to help organisations build harmonious teams utilising the most potent force in leadership - love.

He also works with individuals to help them develop a deeply grounded understanding of the principles behind our human experience and live wonderfully productive, happy lives, connected to love, ease and compassion for humanity. He has coached Hollywood actors, international models, journalists, artists, authors, film directors, corporate executives, and numerous business owners, leaders and entrepreneurs.

In this week's show, Phil and I explored whether it's possible to harbour resentment in one part of your life and be truly, deeply happy in another. This topic was inspired by a post that Phil wrote in which he said 'True happiness is the heart that holds no resentment, the crystal clear untainted by drops of red.' we explored this through our own personal experiences and insights. It was actually pretty revealing for me personally!

I always love talking to Phil - he has such honesty, humour and depth and as ever, he didn't disappoint - this is a delightful episode!

What you'll learn from this episode:

Resentment often comes with a potency and a proactivity which means it takes up our time and energy to engage with it, when our thoughts are filled with resentment they can't also be filled with joy.

Whilst it's pretty normal to feel resentment for someone doing someone negative to us is that part of our deeper nature to feel that way or is it simply our conditioning? As Phil said 'normal isn't always natural'. If we were living in a more primal way, it may well be that a lack of resentment is what we would consider normal!

As we understand why people are behaving the way they are - that they're doing the best according to their thoughts in the moment - it makes little sense to feel resentment, instead a natural outcome is that we feel compassion. The wonderful thing is is that we all have the capacity for this to happen: to lose resentment, and to gain love and happiness.