The Primal Happiness Show (Interview)

This week's show is with Lynette Allen, for 20 years she has been grounding & inspiring women in the corporate world and female business leaders, running female empowerment workshops, courses & retreats.

A published author, presenter & broadcaster, her work took her all over the Europe & the UK speaking about equality & the rise of the feminine. Lynette currently lives with her family in Bali, she works with Cacao, Women’s Circles & Ritual to help her guests and clients balance their lives and emotions, and supports women worldwide on their continuing self and professional development.

In this episode, we explored the importance of reclaiming ritual in our modern lives. We talked about the fear and misunderstanding that gets in the way of us embracing ritual and ceremony, the power and magic that arises when we do so and lastly some simple ways for you to get started with creating ritual if you're feeling the pull in this direction.

This might not seem like a particularly relevant topic to you at first glance but personally, I think this is SUCH an important reclamation, it's a portal into so much of our primal power. I've seen that personally and with the women I work with in ceremony and circle... we are all so thirsty for ritual without even realising it. Now's the time for you to quench that thirst.

Direct download: Lynette_Allen_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:18am EDT

This week's show is with Kendra Cunov, the Founder of Fierce Grace: Practices of Embodied Wholeness for Women, Kendra has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for the last fifteen years.

Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression.

She co-founded Authentic World, as well as The Embodied Relationship & Intimacy Training Salon, and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet. Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & is currently on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world.

She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success - in business & in love.

So in this show, we explored the juicy topic of women feeling that their man isn't meeting them, and that they could be warm, loving and open if only their partner was meeting them in all the ways they desire. This is something that Kendra and I see show up so often with our clients but also in ourselves! We then shared some ways to expand past this sense of waiting to be met.
 
I adored this show, Kendra is such a rare gem and is overflowing with wisdom - I think you're going to love it too.
Direct download: Kendra_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:20am EDT

This week's show is with Michael McCaffrey. Michael began the invaluable practice of meditation and contemplation in 2010. He remains dedicated to the practice and and a generally curious soul, always seeking to deepen his understanding of life and live as wholeheartedly as he can. He runs a business delivering meditation, as well as other wellness modalities to some of London's busiest workspaces.

Michael and I spoke about something we've both noticed happening a lot lately in our various communities... a growing trend of spiritual bypassing. We explored how we see this showing up, the (very understandable ) reasons for it and the downsides or pitfalls. And then we shared what we both see is a more holistic and heartful path from this place.

Direct download: Michael_McCaffre_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:40pm EDT

This week's show is with Neilon Pitamber, an all round bodyworker and founder of BodyFirst. He has been teaching and coaching bodywork (working with bodies in a conscious way), for around 15 years.

Born in Zimbabwe and bred in London where he gained a BSc Hons in Zoology at Imperial College. Since then he has been on a continuing journey of self-development and education. His broad experience allows him combine a deep understanding of human nature in a holistic and organic way with the latest revelations in biology, health, fitness and self-development.

Neilon has struggled with serious health conditions from childhood, including a congenital back condition, but despite or perhaps because of that, now at 45 years of age, he is stronger, more flexible, deals with less back problems, is happier than ever before. Neilon’s passion is to share some of his knowledge and to empower people on their journey to wellness, happiness and all out celebration of this amazing gift of body that we have.

In this show, Neilon and I explored what it means to live a body first life - in a world in which we've largely become disembodied and value our minds more than the rest of us. We talked about human history, different movement and embodiment practices - both in the past and modern day, the benefits of living 'body first' and then dived into some practical steps you can take to become more intentional about living this way.

Direct download: Neilon_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:27am EDT

This week's show is with Darren Deojee, Darren is all about bringing Positive Masculinity your way. He is firmly rooted in the Oral Tradition and the Toltec Mysteries and their irreplaceable power to bring transformation, realisation and connection. With 10 years teaching, and over 20 years practical experience in Toltec Gender and the Art of Spelling and Sound, his approach has transformed the relationships, perspective and personal power of thousands over the years.

He calls his work Mental Healing to tackle a western pandemic he refers to as ‘mental disembodiment’ and return us to our indigenous nature of Integral Mind and embodied language.

This week’s show is exploring how we can navigate this gender-confused world. We talked about what we know of gender and sex when it comes to human history, how we've arrived at our current controversy and confusion, and the challenges that come with it, and lastly: what we can do to navigate this terrain for ourselves, our communities and our families.

Both Darren and I were aware that this is both a very sensitive topic and also one that we feel is so important for us all to be able to discuss openly. We did our best to speak with our hearts wide open, conscious of the actual human beings with lived experiences that our words might affect.

Ultimately, we both share a pure intention to help create and cultivate a world where open conversations on this topic are happening everywhere, and we're willing to risk any heat arising from this episode if it goes some way to achieve that aim.

If we as humans are to live free, connected and meaningful lives that truly honours our differences - there doesn't seem like there's another way than us being able to talk openly and honestly about the things that matter.

 

Direct download: Darren_Deojee_3_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:51am EDT

This week's show is with my third-time guest, the amazing James Tripp, an internationally recognised and respected educator, consultant and coach in the fields of personal transformation, hypnosis, influential communication and personal efficacy. Working from an eclectic background including philosophy, music, mentalism, martial arts, movement culture and NLP, James is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.

Beyond his work with private clients, James runs open workshops internationally, with his London and UK based workshops typically drawing students from around the world.

In today’s show we spoke about being at cause with our beliefs. As we grow in our understanding and experience of the power of different beliefs... whether that be religious, spiritual or any other kind... we can move past the dogma and begin to choose in and out of empowering whatever belief will create the rich, juicy and useful experience we want, moment to moment.

You'll hear that this is a particularly timely conversation for me - I love the invitation that James is making and it's one that I'm increasingly playing with myself.

 

Direct download: James_Tripp_3_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:33am EDT

This week's show is with Zakiya Gayle, Zakiya is The Confident Woman's Secret Weapon. Her mantra of "every woman deserves to feel like a goddess" has led her to bring over 300 powerful women's inner Fire back to life on the beaches of Tobago, Barbados, and St. Lucia.

Known to captivate a crowd or close high ticket programs to people she happened to sit next to on a flight, Zakiya understands intimately the power of connection and mystique. Using her signature Z Method, Zakiya helps a select group of women per year discover the secrets of true connection and learn how to use it to improve their business, relationships, and life.

In this week's show, Zakiya and I explore the incredible topic of women living their potential... what gets in our way and what we can do to expand through those limitations and obstacles. We spoke about all kinds of juicy things... including getting to know who we really are, pleasure, embodiment, and going naked!

Direct download: Zakiya_Gayle_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is with Alexandra Pope & Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, co-founders of Red School teaching a radical new approach to women’s leadership, creativity and spiritual life based on the power of our menstruality consciousness.

I was so excited to have Alexandra and Sjarnie on this show, I'm a huge fan of their book Wild Power and think the work they're doing in the world is incredibly powerful and so so needed.
 
So in this show, we explored how women are coded for power, and the journey to realizing the fullness and beauty of that power – your Wild Power – lies in the rhythm and change of your menstrual cycle.

We explored how women can learn to love their menstrual cycle - from a practical view point and and also in a deeply spiritual way - and the benefits of doing so, not least that it is the key to understanding yourself, what you came here to do and ultimately accessing your full authority and power as woman.

Alexandra and Sjarnie are sterling examples of women in their full power - they were such a delight to interview.  This episode was one of my all time top 3 shows - it really was that good!

Direct download: Wild_Power_Podcast_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:53pm EDT

 
This week's show is with my good friend Adam Quiney, Adam is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. A former software developer and attorney, Adam’s learned the hard way about the costs that come from keeping your heart safe and chasing after external rewards to feel whole and complete.
 
From love, Adam is connection, passion, presence, wit and brilliance. From fear, he is awkward, robotic, apathetic, irrelevant and arrogant. He’s learned to embrace all these parts of himself, and works with others to do the same in their own lives. He is a man on a mission to bring the world to a more inspired and fully-expressed place.
 
So in this show, we will be diving deep into the juicy topic of how to navigate the next edge in your leadership, we’ll talk about stages of leadership, blurting, taking responsibility and more. And if you don't identify as a leader, I really encourage you to listen anyway - you'll discover it's absolutely for you too.
 
We actually recorded this as a special Behind The Scenes live on fb - and if you'd like to watch the recording of that, there'll be the link on the show notes.
Direct download: Adam_Quiney_Leadreship_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 3:30pm EDT

This week I'm talking to Keeley Olivia, Keeley Olivia is a Female Sexuality Expert on a mission to Unleash the Female Orgasm of the World. She wrote a Masturbation Memoir - Unleashing the Female O - detailing her journey to discovering orgasm and delivered a TEDx talk - Masturbation is the New Meditation- where she offered new paradigm thinking on female sexuality and self pleasure.

She is a Professionally trained Sex, Love, Relationship & Transformational Coach, and worked for a decade as an academic researcher & scientist at some of the world’s highest rated research institutions. Keeley holds a first class Chemistry degree, studied Regenerative Medicine at postgraduate level and has a Masters degree in Medical Statistics. She is now bringing Anarchy to the UK via the Sexual Revolution!

In this show we did a deep dive into all things self pleasure, the why, what and how! And how self pleasure links to other gorgeous topics such as body acceptance, sexuality and intimacy.

This is one of those shows that I would love all women to listen to - it really is that important.

Direct download: Keeley_Tomkinson_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:09pm EDT

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work. The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP’s clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work.

In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90’s, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves. Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world’s billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world world without borders.

At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being. Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children’s library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures.

In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London. In this conversation, JP and I explored consciously wielding deception as an act of love to create forms that express the truth of who we are and can be. Or put more simply lying with love, creating from soul.

Resources and stuff that we spoke about

 

Direct download: JP_Morgan_April2018_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:23am EDT

This week's show is with Shanti Zimmerman. Shanti is a coach who facilitates the crafting of boundaries, emotional resiliency and ownership of a life worth living. What I personally adore about Shanti is how she's so fully expressed and how OK she is with who she is. In this show we explored giving yourself permission to be who you are. We went into how we choose that (because it's very much a choice), creating boundaries, being able to continue being ourselves in the face of other people's disapproval of how we're showing up.

What you'll learn from this episode:

Choosing to give yourself permission to be yourself - it really is a choice, there isn't a magical moment where it happens to us, it's a choice we can make in any moment to take responsibility for ourselves and what we're putting out into the world.

Start speaking to learn what your voice is. We don't need to wait until we have this crystallised sense of who we are and what our voice is before we start speaking ourself into the world. We can be responsible for our impact without shaming or making ourselves wrong for how our actions have landed on others. We have the choice to take full responsibility to be open to receive what the other person feels and to take an action to move things into different place.

Shanti sees boundaries as a vital aspect to being fully you, it's about having an internal sense of feeling right with yourself in alignment with your values. It's doesn't need to be something that pleases anyone else in the world, if you feel right with yourself then then that's the boundary right there.

Direct download: Shanti_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:00am EDT

This week's show is with Jørgen Rasmussen, who has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jørgen and I explored the fascinating topic of what he calls waking up and growing up. Or you could call it enlightenment and personal development. And after we dived into those two pretty humungous and contradictory fields we then bravely jumped into the deep end of how to live from the paradox of both waking up and growing up!

Direct download: Joergen_Mar2019_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:41am EDT

This week's show is with Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz. Kenny was called "The Man Whisperer" by Newsweek because, not only does he help men achieve their life, relationship and career goals, he also helps men to be more authentically and powerfully who they truly are.

As one of the UK’s leading men’s personal development consultants, Kenny runs workshops and sees individuals and couples for private consultations and has been running men’s groups in London for 14 years. Kenny was traumatised at the age of seven when his family had to flee certain death at the hands of the brutal dictator Idi Amin and were resettled as refugees in rural Wales via refugee camps. As a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome, Kenny developed several mental health issues, including obsessive-compulsive disorder, Tourette's syndrome, body dysmorphia and depression with intrusive and suicidal thoughts. Thankfully that’s all behind him now. When asked how he turned it all around, he’s fond of saying that he sat with the shadows that owned him, unlearned the untruths and turned that energy into the fuel to walk his path and live his purpose.

In this show we explored what men fear. We spoke about communication amongst our own sex and between the sexes, toxic masculinity, toxic femininity, relationships and how to make them work. As ever, Kenny dropped some real gold - I loved this episode.

Direct download: Kenny_Dcruz_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:13pm EDT

This week's show is with Phoenix Na Gig. Phoenix lives in the wild beauty of Cornwall, England. and works with women around the world. Remembering the nature of our womb consciousness, she is part of the ushering in of a new paradigm of awakening feminine nature on the planet.

She is fascinated by both the history and the contemporary embodiment and re-emergence of women's wisdom as a journey to healing, balance, wellness and power. She is also an academic research student writing towards a thesis recording the awakening womb experiences of contemporary women in the eco-feminist movement and anthropologically she draws parallels with the suggestion of similar devotion and ancient sacred/religious experience in the womb caves of the Palaeolithic.

Her own journey began with a sense of magic and wonder and reverence for the natural world. As a young woman she was called to heal after ovarian surgery and look deeper into the uncovering and healing of childhood trauma and assault as an adult, that led her way back to the wisdom of her body and the body of the earth.

Phoenix was then diagnosed with Essential Tremor a degenerative condition with (medically) no known cure. She now calls this her Sacred Tremor, without her continuing journey to find balance with the condition she turned it into an advantage and found her way to her womb and the earth.

In this show, we explored what Phoenix describes as feminine-inspired leadership, which comes out of the spiritual connection between body and Gaia. This was a delicious episode, overflowing with wisdom and love. I hope you found it as inspiring as I did.
Direct download: Phoenix_Nagig_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:22am EDT

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian talked about...

  • The books, products and stuff I'm loving right now 
  • Why we want everyone to like us - and what we can do about it 
Direct download: ATE_Feb_2019_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:00am EDT

This week's show is with Daniel Fox. Daniel is a Speaker, Coach, and Author of Masculine & Feminine Archetypes and Sacred Masculine Rising, Daniel’s purpose is social revolution by helping people align with their life’s purpose.

Facilitating personal and organizational transformation for over 12 years, Daniel has created powerful space for thousands of people both in-person and online to experience permanent, life-changing transformation around relationships and dating, as well as their career and business.
 
In this show, we explored Daniel's work around guiding his clients to understand their signature archetype on the pole of Masculine and Feminine, as well as his added distinction of Light versus Dark. Daniel describes his method as a way to create insight about the instincts and hidden motivations behind everyone you interact with throughout the day. It's a set of lenses that honours everyone for what they bring and finds new ways to work together.
 
I personally really saw the value of the additional Light/Dark distinction. I also have to say that Daniel's story is fascinating - all in all, it's an incredibly fascinating show.
Direct download: Daniel_Fox_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:37am EDT

This week's show is with Tania Elfersey. Tania is an award-winning author and publisher who has spent several years researching what causes and cures the emotional and physical symptoms associated with perimenopause and menopause. By weaving her knowledge of midlife women's health with the principles of innate health, Tania successfully cured her own range of symptoms, 100% naturally. 

Tania is committed to helping women learn more about their bodies at midlife and through coaching, teaching and writing, Tania guides women to the simple and natural cures for perimenopause and menopause symptoms, which are available to us all.
 
In this show, we explored the power of women deeply understanding this aspect of their natural cycle - the perimenopause and menopause. Tania shared what can happen when we don't understand this sensitive time and the gifts that come with aligning and even celebrating this time of powerful natural change.
Direct download: Tania_Elfersy_mixdown_2.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:14am EDT

This week's show is with Rion Kati. Rion is a Reiki Master,  an Advanced Tantra Educator and he is the voice of the Powerliminals meditations and founder of the Natural Grounding method of sex transmutation which has 1000s of male practitioners.

He has been serving men for 16 years as a natural dating and soul purpose alignment coach and he is now focusing on his work with women. Rion has a unique background in that he has meditated for 14,000 hours with meta feminine archetypes giving him special abilities and practical insight into allure, sexuality, archetypes, reading energy and professional image.

In this show we explored allure - what it is and isn't. Why so many women today lack it and how we can embody and express more of it.

This is a fascinating topic - I felt that Rion and this show provided a uniquely deep journey into a topic we as a culture typically obsess over but only at a shallow level. I loved it!

Direct download: Rion_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:21am EDT

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian explored the topic of New Year‘s resolutions, intentions, themes and ‘words’. Even if you've already committed to a resolution or decided not to, it would be well worth you listening to this show as it's actually relevant to whether and how to commit to any kind of path.

Direct download: ATE_Jan_19_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:04am EDT

This week's show is with teacher, consultant and change management expert Patrick O’Neill, author of "The Only Certain Freedom: The Transformative Journey of the Entrepreneur," an unconventional and highly-acclaimed business book that draws its teachings from the wisdom of the Hero’s Journey, and what modern entrepreneurs can learn from the ancient myths of heroes like Hercules and Odysseus.

Patrick certainly has the expertise to back this up: he is a nationally renowned consultant and teacher, specializing in organizational dynamics and conflict resolution. His company, Extraordinary Conversations Inc, has clients across the world, advising corporations in North America, Europe, and Asia-Pacific; townships of South Africa; and even the peace process in the Middle East. His insights on leadership are regularly featured in national newspapers such as the Globe and Mail.

In this conversation, we spoke about the four archetypes: the Leader, Healer, Visionary and Teacher. Each archetype corresponds to a cardinal direction: North, South, East and West - and each direction contains a set of practices synthesized from worldwide shamanic traditions.

I loved this show - it has so much depth and also practical, applicable wisdom.

Direct download: Patrick_ONeill_4_Directions_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:43am EDT

This week's show is with someone we're delighted to introduce you to... Craig Richardson. Craig joins many today who are engaged in asking the question, "What does it mean to be fully and authentically human?" As an advocate of the human rewilding movement he is interested in applying this question to all areas of life, including parenting, nutrition, education, lifestyle, and spirituality. He works both professionally and informally to help individuals to move towards authentic humanity and break free from the domestication model. He and his wife have unschooled their son since birth, and as a family they are interested in camping, hiking, natural family living, fire spinning, organic cooking, ancestral skills, and being as Earth-friendly as possible.

In this show we spoke talk about the power that comes from understanding and aligning ourselves with the cycles of the natural world. We explored different kinds of cycles, such as seasonal, lunar and solar, and how they parallel our lives in many ways, revealing truths about life stages, the huge benefits of having a deeper connection to those cycles, and how we can get started.

Direct download: Craig_R_Seasons_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:21pm EDT

This week's show is with Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz. Kenny was called "The Man Whisperer" by Newsweek because, not only does he help men achieve their life, relationship and career goals, he also helps men to be more authentically and powerfully who they truly are.

As one of the UK’s leading men’s personal development consultants, Kenny runs workshops and sees individuals and couples for private consultations and has been running men’s groups in London for 14 years. Kenny was traumatised at the age of seven when his family had to flee certain death at the hands of the brutal dictator Idi Amin and were resettled as refugees in rural Wales via refugee camps. As a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome, Kenny developed several mental health issues, including obsessive-compulsive disorder, Tourette's syndrome, body dysmorphia and depression with intrusive and suicidal thoughts. Thankfully that’s all behind him now. When asked how he turned it all around, he’s fond of saying that he sat with the shadows that owned him, unlearned the untruths and turned that energy into the fuel to walk his path and live his purpose.

In this show we explored the power of men's circles, why they're so needed, what happens during these mysterious circles and how you can join or even create one yourself.

Direct download: Kenny_Dcruz_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:20am EDT

This week's show is with Bryan Reeves, a former US Air Force Captain turned Author, Coach, Speaker, Bryan has triumphed through multiple dark nights of the soul after hurling himself into the transformational fires of intimate relationship over and over again. With massive insight gleaned through countless adventures, Bryan now coaches men, women and couples. He is a regular blog contributor to The Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, The Daily Love, Raw Attraction Magazine, Conscious Lifestyle Magazine, Sexy Conscious Awake and more. His book “The Sex, Flirting, Dating, Hunting and Hoping Diet” is available on Amazon.

In this show we explored the power of having clear, articulated boundaries in relationships, what gets in the way of us creating them and how we can empower ourselves to do so.

Direct download: Bryan_Reeves_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:15am EDT

This week's show is with Gillian Pothier, a LA-based writer and coach. Women work with Gillian to reclaim their instinctual knowing. She guides them to write and create from their deepest Feminine essence: their pussy. Gillian believes that women alive in their deepest truth and in the fullness of their erotic expression is the medicine that will save the world.

Gillian's actually one of my own mentors and coaches and I've been dying to get her on the show to share her with you!

In this show we explored power of learning how to tell the truth - which is something Gillian is particularly passionate about and also beautifully placed to guide others in. We talked about why telling the truth can be so challenging and scary, and how we can learn to go to and name the our hidden places, and the power that truth can have out  in the world.

Direct download: Gillian_Pothier_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:41am EDT

This week's show is Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding For Women, she has had a profound impact on thousands of women across the globe. She is one of the most provocative, raw and passionate personal development trainers in the world.

Known internationally for her unique workshops on spiritual growth, reclamation of the divine feminine and the awakening path that is unique to women, Sabrina has designed and developed remarkably effective transformational practices that address awakening in mind, body, and heart.

Sabrina brings 12 years of teaching, speaking, facilitating, and coaching experience to her work, having taught at some of the largest organizations in Australia. She has studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.

Sabrina currently hosts the popular weekly ReWilding For Women podcast and leads international audiences through ReWilding For Women workshops, retreats and online programs. Her audiences connect with her down-to-earth approach and often experience remarkable transformation, healings and shifts.

In this show we spoke about the role of myth and archetypes - how we can listen to them, how they can be an incredibly transformative healing power and how to be held through the journey with them.
Direct download: Sabrina_3rd_show_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:13am EDT

This week's show is Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding For Women, she has had a profound impact on thousands of women across the globe. She is one of the most provocative, raw and passionate personal development trainers in the world.

Known internationally for her unique workshops on spiritual growth, reclamation of the divine feminine and the awakening path that is unique to women, Sabrina has designed and developed remarkably effective transformational practices that address awakening in mind, body, and heart.

Sabrina brings 12 years of teaching, speaking, facilitating, and coaching experience to her work, having taught at some of the largest organizations in Australia. She has studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.

Sabrina currently hosts the popular weekly ReWilding For Women podcast and leads international audiences through ReWilding For Women workshops, retreats and online programs. Her audiences connect with her down-to-earth approach and often experience remarkable transformation, healings and shifts.

In this show we spoke about how the modern's world's cult of productivity doesn't typically serve women and how we can instead open up to our soul's calling, the wisdom of the heart, womb and body and therefore benefit from greater levels of creativity.
Direct download: Sabrina_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:08pm EDT

This week's show is the first of a brand new monthly format! It's Lian's All The Everything where she'll jam on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about. In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions: The relationship of Primal Happiness teachings to the 3 Principles (thanks Karolina!) Why I have a coach (and probably always will) What I mean by Masculine/Feminine Female creativity (thanks Tali!) Feminine embodiment

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:35pm EDT

This week's show is with Robert Kandell. Robert is the host of the Tuff Love podcast, co-founder of OneTaste (orgasmic meditation) and the author of the new book Unhidden. He is a relationship expert, life coach and of course has his own personal breakup stories to tell. In this show we explored the state of the world today and what that means for our men. What the struggles are that are unique to men in these times, including the effect of free porn, the change in their roles, the masculinisation of women.. and what they can do to create positive change in their lives and relationships.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:52am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music. During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development. His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. This was a very different episode to the usual, Ryan took me through an hypnotic induction into a state of deep relaxation, and it's also something that you can take part in whilst listening at home too. He then followed up with some tips and habits you can use afterwards to create more relaxation in every day life. IMPORTANT: This is an episode that's likely to guide you into a deeply relaxed state and therefore isn't one to listen to whilst driving or any situation which wouldn't safe if you're not fully alert. It's one that's best listened to when you have a spare 45 minutes to lie back and let yourself be carried away to the delightful land of deep relaxation. If you're ready, sit back and let's relax together.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:22am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music. During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development. His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. In this conversation, Ryan kindly gave me the space to ask him all of the weird and wonderful questions that I've been pondering around hypnosis. We recorded this, knowing it might never make the show given it wasn't going to be of interest or helpful for everyone but then once we'd finished speaking, we both agreed that actually it was worth sharing with those of you who are more into diving deep into this stuff.

Direct download: Ryan_Simbai_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:08pm EDT

This week's show is with Isis Leeor. Isis is responsible for a movement of whole, ripe, and unapologetic women who are finally coming out of the closet. For 15 years, she has been passionately teaching people (women and men) how to connect both hearts, the one in their chest and the one in their pelvis.

Isis Leoor has been featured in a myriad newspapers and radio shows alongside people like Storm Large, Dan Savage, Deborah Anapol and Sark. She is a counselor with an extensive background in Body Psychotherapy, Tantra, Hypnotherapy. Basically she does some kick ass embodied work online and in person, through workshops, intensives and private sessions. She is currently working on her book entitled “Feral Female.”

In addition to a lot of official studies, Isis has also howled at the moon, been saved by Qi-gong, taken drugs with a therapist, smoked a peace pipe, flipped off a Shaman, learned and unlearned emotionally responsible language, danced with her shirt off in public, avoided marrying an Essene guru, and worn cocktail dresses all over the world while going commando.

In this conversation, Isis and I explored the glorious topic of becoming a feral female! Isis shared her own story of going from numb to feral and then we talked about the reasons this is an enquiry that's relevant to almost all women in today's world. I hope you feel Isis's living invitation in this show and are able to respond to it in how you live your own beautiful life.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:41am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music.

During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development.

His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. In this conversation, we spoke about the incredibly fascinating topic of 'innate wellbeing'.

It's something that's spoken about a lot in various spiritual and rewilding communities I've been part of and of course, is very much something that we're pointing to with our work at Primal Happiness. So Ryan and I dived deep into what 'innate wellbeing' really means, what's true about it, and what's not. This was such an interesting show - with so much food for thought!

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Mark Matousek is the author of two acclaimed memoirs, Sex Death Enlightenment: A True Story (an international bestseller) and The Boy He Left Behind: A Man's Search For His Lost Father, as well as When You're Falling, Dive: Lessons in the Art of Living, and Ethical Wisdom: The Search for a Moral Life. A former editor at Interview Magazine, he is a featured blogger for PsychologyToday.com and the Huffington Post, and has contributed to numerous anthologies and publications, including The New Yorker, O: The Oprah Magazine (contributing editor), Harper’s Bazaar, Yoga Journal, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, and The Saturday Evening Post.

A popular speaker and teacher, he offers courses in creativity and spiritual growth in the U.S., Canada, Australia, and Europe, based on his book, Writing To Awaken: A Journey of Truth, Transformation, and Self-Discovery. A founding member of V-Men (with Eve Ensler), an organization devoted to ending violence against women and girls, he lives and works East Hampton, New York.

His most recent book is Mother of the Unseen World: The Mystery of Mother Meera (Random House).

In this conversation, Mark and I explored the topic of writing for self enquiry. Mark teaches a method of using writing as a path for transformation, we delved into how and why it works and then Mark gave some practical suggestions to get you, the listener started. I found this an incredibly insightful episode and I've personally adopted Mark's method since recording the show. The changes I've noticed in that short times have been unbelievable - more awareness of my shadows and surprisingly to me, more freedom to write and share my truth publicly too.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode:

Writing as self enquiry works because it gives us distance and perspective on our thoughts, just like any forms of self enquiry, it's just easier to see something when it's out of your mind and written down.

Don't write for an audience, don't worry about perfection, or grammar. Just write to the question, for yourself. Give yourself permission not to do anything with your answers that come up in the writing. The practice is about asking and answering the questions, not necessarily taking action.

Write every day, for around 15 mins and then review a day or two later. Don't edit unless it's to deepen on something. Ask the questions that matter most to you.

Here's a couple that Mark mentioned on the show: Take five minutes to write about a story you tell yourself on a regular basis that you know isn't true. Take five minutes to write about what you would do if you were free (whatever freedom means to you).

Direct download: Mark_Matousek_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:49am EDT

This week's show is with Darren Deojee, Darren is all about bringing Positive Masculinity your way. He is firmly rooted in the Oral Tradition and the Toltec Mysteries and their irreplaceable power to bring transformation, realisation and connection. With 10 years teaching, and over 20 years practical experience in Toltec Gender and the Art of Spelling and Sound, his approach has transformed the relationships, perspective and personal power of thousands over the years.

He calls his work Mental Healing to tackle a western pandemic he refers to as ‘mental disembodiment’ and return us to our indigenous nature of Integral Mind and embodied language.

Darren lives in Suffolk, England, is in a committed long term relationship, and has 4 children.

This week’s show is a part two to last week's episode with Darren, in this conversation, Darren and I explored his incredible understanding of Toltec wisdom on gender and gender relativity and why this is something that is applicable to those of us living in today's world. This isn’t a conversation that’s being had in the world right now, it is deep, deep stuff. It's not really the most easy of listens but it's unbelievably worthwhile one, it’s packed with gold.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:27am EDT

This week's show is with Darren Deojee, Darren is all about bringing Positive Masculinity your way. He is firmly rooted in the Oral Tradition and the Toltec Mysteries and their irreplaceable power to bring transformation, realisation and connection. With 10 years teaching, and over 20 years practical experience in Toltec Gender and the Art of Spelling and Sound, his approach has transformed the relationships, perspective and personal power of thousands over the years.

He calls his work Mental Healing to tackle a western pandemic he refers to as ‘mental disembodiment’ and return us to our indigenous nature of Integral Mind and embodied language.

Darren lives in Suffolk, England, is in a committed long term relationship, and has 4 children.

In this conversation, Darren and I explored what's going on for men living in today's modern world. There's a rise in addiction, suicide, escapism, and depression. Men have got to point of feeling shame about being a man, even judging of themselves for it.

Darren believes the answer is in healing of the connection to the gifts of the masculine. We dived into what he means by those gifts, why he sees them as the answer for not just men but our world as a whole, and how we can heal that connection.

Direct download: Darren_Deojee_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:46am EDT

This week's show is Eli Jaxon-Bear  is the author of An Outlaw Makes It Home. A life long search for freedom took Eli around the world and into many spiritual traditions from a Zen monastery in Japan to a Sufi circle in Marrakesh, among others. His search ended when he was drawn to India (1990) where he met his final teacher, Papaji; a direct disciple of the renowned Indian Sage Ramana Maharshi.

Confirming Eli’s realization, his teacher sent him back into the world to share his unique psychological insights into the nature of egoic suffering in support of self-realization.

Eli infuses his teaching with his teacher’s living transmission of silence and peace.  He presents a unique map of egoic identification as a vehicle for ruthless self-inquiry and final realization of true freedom. His life is dedicated to passing on the transmission of his teacher.

Eli founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization, as well as The Leela School

In this conversation, Eli shared the power of self enquiry - what it is, how it works and what it can help you to discover. As a bonus, Eli has an incredibly fascinating story himself which illustrates what he's talking about - we explore his time as a revolutionary, LSD and immortal consciousness... It was quite a trip!

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:28am EDT

This week's show is with Kendra Cunov, Founder of Fierce Grace: Practices of Embodied Wholeness for Women, Kendra has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for the last fifteen years.

Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression.

She co-founded Authentic World, as well as The Embodied Relationship & Intimacy Training Salon, and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet.

Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & is currently on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world.

She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success - in business & in love.

So in this show, we spoke about what it means to experience life as a woman in today's world and what we need from our environment, from other women and from ourselves. Kendra and I we also aware of the fine line we were dancing between talking about men and women as one homogenous mass and talking "this is what it means to be a woman' as if women have to be a certain defined way. We spoke about feeling like 'the wrong kind of woman' - maybe not feminine enough, feminism, nature, intuition, competition, sex and more. Just like feminine energy, this conversation flowed everywhere!
 
Although this episode is about women, it's not just for women, if you're a man you will understand far more about women if you listen in too!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's a deep longing in women to be connected to nature. We are moved by cycles which are connected and reflected by the cycles in the natural world and we suffer when we don't find a connection to nature.
  • We don't need men anymore so it's a choice. If we choose to be together, what shall we create? We have the opportunity to create something extraordinary and beautiful.
  • What would be really radical would be to value the work that women typically do as much as we value the work that men typically do. It's about opening up choice.
  • We got sold this lie of a need to compete with other women but what's natural for us is for us to gather together to support, encourage and love each other. The magic that's created in those spaces isn't just powerful for us as women but can ripple out to the world around us. Something aligned to that is what Kendra talked about in terms of the response to adrenaline in women which is to gather! Love that!
  • When we base our culture around what's best for mothers and children, an entire eco-system is created from there which allows the entire community to thrive.
  • The practice that Kendra shared at the end - a regular practice of going in and listening to your body - your mind, your heart, your gut, your vagina. Be incredibly honest about what you hear AND give yourself permission not to follow its guidance too!
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:14am EDT

This week's show is with Jørgen Rasmussen, who has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jørgen and I explored the illusion of the mind/body split and its implications for our health and wellbeing. We spoke about lots of examples such as how Jørgen's worked with people on their allergies, and the opportunities that can open up for people when they see that the mind-body split is fiction.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We collectively as a culture agree the mind and body are separate but there's no real basis for doing so and there's plenty of examples of things that don't fit that paradigm, which we then see as exceptions to the rule rather than seeing that they could be pointing to the fact that the split is an illusion.
  • An allergy is like a phobia of the immune system and given the mind/body connection, allergies can often be resolved by someone recognising the way the mind and body act together as one.
  • We collectively agree that certain symptoms are common and then that creates a spike in those symptoms. Even the way we create reality differs between cultures depending on the agreements we've made about how our bodies work.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:11am EDT

This week's show is with Jaclyn Costello. Nothing is more satisfying to Jaclyn than helping people make breakthroughs to understand themselves more deeply. This is the heart of her role as a Spiritual Development Coach at GrowWithSoul.com. Jaclyn's background in spiritual guidance evolved over years of personal work, immersion in sacred, shamanic ceremonies, and one-on-one mentorships with respected teachers & guides. Jaclyn is also an Assistant Professor in the Honors College at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. As well, she is a writer of poetry, fiction, and non-fiction. Her work has been published in a variety of literary journals & magazines; she just finished her first novel.

In this show we’re talking about different forms of death and rebirth that we as humans can experience, and how and why we might choose to experience death, which is the opposite of what we typically think about death - that it's something we might choose! And lastly, Jaclyn shares her story of a big death that she went through recently and all the changes that have happened for her since.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Jaclyn described how almost all types of death are followed by a rebirth - that can be so hopeful and helpful to know as we travel through our own death experiences, which at the time can feel very final and therefore scary.
  • Typically the size of the death is equal to the size of the creation that follows. Understanding that means we can choose death knowing the rebirth to come will be worth it.
  • You can practice self-love in all kinds of ways, some of Jaclyn's suggestions include looking at yourself in the mirror or a photo and feeling love and appreciation for yourself. You can also meditate on the Buddhist poem that Jaclyn shared during the show.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:52pm EDT

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent’s Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She’s passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what’s in their way of living from a place of wholeness.

In this conversation, we spoke about what's wrong with modern day parenting - where typically the focus is on short term results, rather than the long term implications. And what the alternative is... getting back to what nature intended, which not only feels easier and more enjoyable in the short term but also has long term positive impact.

This show is for you if the usual mainstream advice doesn't feel quite right - your instincts are telling you that's something off, or you've heard a lot about peaceful parenting but you don't know quite how to make it work, or maybe you're already feeling peaceful parenting is right for you but you're still feeling doubtful because you don't know anyone else who does it that way.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Instead of looking at latest fad or theories, look at what has worked for human animal over millennia. Though our lives have evolved, our bodies and needs haven’t. Connect with your instincts, trust your own inner voice and values.
     
  • Something that's worth remembering is: every behaviour is an attempt to meet a need. If you only focus on addressing behaviour, you’re doing nothing to address the underlying need, whereas if the need is met, the behaviour will naturally disappear.
     
  • Come up with mission statement or a set of core values for your family. This can be such a helpful guide for both your children and yourself - you're then all able to check in and ask yourselves whether the current behaviour will create what you most want, in both the short and long term.
     
  • Even when you've made the choice to parent peacefully, you'll probably still be surrounded by people who still think the mainstream way is the right way. It is so important to get support from like-minded parents, ideally from people farther along in parenting journey, who have been through your current stages, and can keep pointing you back to your own instincts.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:16pm EDT

This week's show is with coach, speaker and trainer, Ankush Jain. Ankush is a 3 Principles based life coach and trainer, based in the UK with clients from New Zealand to Canada. He especially enjoys helping clients step into their own inner power and create the lives they had dreamed of. In 2012, whilst enjoying a successful corporate career, he started his coaching training. What this led to was an introduction to the 3 Principles and the start of an incredible journey of personal and business transformation including getting married in 2016.

Ankush is the founder of the Powerful Mens Group and has run sold out Powerful Men’s Immersions in the UK for 4 years. Since 2016 he has also run Powerful Women’s Immersions with great success. As well as this he coaches other 3 Principles coaches to do this incredibly important work whilst staying true to their heart and the spirit of the Principles. He was the host of the successful Relationship Series podcast and in 2018 start the new Business Series Podcast aimed at a corporate audience.

In this conversation, we explored what's really going on in the creation of a heart-centred business. Do you need to sell a bit of your soul to be successful? Or do you need to starve to do good works? Or is it possible to create a successful business in a way that flows from your heart and allows you to use your head in service of it. And spoiler alert... We absolutely see that it's possible to do just that and we share what makes that happen.

What you'll learn in this show:

  • If we're doing work which doesn't come from our heart and isn't having a positive impact on the world - it'll typically not feel good. And what's the point of that? What's the point of having money without a sense of fulfilment and happiness too? And that makes even less sense, when we see we have the choice to be successful and soulful. People and businesses who are heart-centred feel great about doing business and they're magnetic... people want to be around them and people want to give them their business.
  • The more we understand that our own wellbeing is a given, is taken care of, the more we can have fun creating all kinds of things in the world. That's true on the deepest level of understanding of who you really are and also on a practical level of taking care of your physical and emotional needs first.
  • The devil is often in the detail or put another way, how we do anything is how we do everything. If you take a look at the emails you send, the way you ask for money or your marketing - are you truly coming from your heart in all of those places? Can you customers really feel you in all of your interactions with them?
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:12am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is a part 2 to the last conversation Adam and I talked about spectrums of being - another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. That show was a brilliant one so if you haven't already listened to it, I'd very much encourage you to do that straight away! I'm in the process of doing the exercise that Adam suggested as the end of that show and it's blown my mind how much I'm discovering about myself and how others experience me. I'd love to hear if you try that exercise and what you find out about yourself.
 
So in this show, we explored 'zones of excellence' which are the ways that we've created to enable us to operate in the world whilst we're not able to fully be and express our unique essence. This was another episode that was full of laughter and insight - I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed making it!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Adam described our zones of excellence as the strategies we've constructed to either hide or improve on our essence. We typically create our entire lives and especially our careers on our Zones of Excellence. We typically have a lot riding on our Zones of Excellence which makes it particularly challenging for us to identify and to grow out of them.
  • We create these Zones of Excellence usually based on events that we experienced as children when it was shown to us that our Zones of Genius or our unique essence weren't fully acceptable or desirable and therefore weren't safe to be.
  • We avoid the break-through because we don't want the break-down. We don't want to give up 7/10 in case we never get it or better again. But the capacity is there for all of us to discover and to be our true selves, to be 10/10.
Direct download: Adam_Quiney_Part_2.1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:15am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam Quiney is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is basically this is an hour of he and I geeking out! It's on the topic of what Adam calls spectrums of being. Another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. We explored what is it, why we struggle to know ourselves and then, you'll be pleased to know... how we can begin to discover who we are.
Direct download: Adam_Quiney_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:44pm EDT

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

In this conversation, a second part to the last show that Dr Snyder and I recorded together, we spoke about sex in long lasting relationships: what the obstacles are to having good sex in the long term, and how to overcome them to have ridiculously great sex.

Direct download: Dr_Stephen_Snyder_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:54am EDT

This week's show is with Richard Abbot, a professional numerologist and teacher of all things spiritual, cosmic and mystical.

Combining mathematics and spirituality his unique approach has helped thousands of people find their core identity and purpose. He has written numerous books and magazine articles, appeared on TV and radio and at events in the UK and the USA.  He teaches and consults from his base in Northamptonshire, and is also a consultant and teacher at the College of Psychic Studies in London.

In this show we explored the whys and wherefores of numerology - basically answering the questions that might be on your mind: what is numerology and why should you even care? And then I was the guinea pig, Richard gave me a consultation on the show so you can hear how this stuff actually works. I've got to say it blew my tiny mind!

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:05pm EDT

This week's show is with Dave Booda, a writer, teacher and musician. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest, an annual festival in Southern California that celebrates connection, sexual self-expression and community. He writes weekly at Boodaism.com and his work has been featured on ABC, NBC, National Geographic, Elephant Journal, Good Men Project and Thought Catalog. He is the host of three podcasts, Dude Panel Radio, Darken the Page and Boodaism.

In this show we explored one of Dave's recent posts about how we rarely go after the medicine we need. When it comes to our personal growth we typically do what's comfortable and what we're already good at. If we can instead lean into discomfort and things that we're not so good at, that’s when real transformation can occur.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We tend to do the same things over and over when it comes to personal growth, this is amplified because we're often surrounded by people with similar beliefs and preferences. It can take some effort to go outside of our normal surroundings to look for the medicine we actually need!
  • Self-awareness can only get us so far if we're only listening to ourselves, real awareness and growth comes from being part of a community and listening to others about what they see in us.
  • We don't necessarily have to completely change how we approach our personal growth, sometimes it's powerful to just lean a bit in the opposite direction.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:14pm EDT

This week's show is with Jeremie Mercier. Jeremie is a natural health coach who helps his clients to find the nutrition, emotional hygiene and natural health practices that will bring them back to full health. An interesting factoid is that Jeremie is married to one of our previous guests, the amazing Flora Douville who we had on the show a month or so ago talking about her incredible approach to expressing your unique essence. What an amazing couple they are! In this conversation, Jeremie and I talked his research into the Blue Zones - the regions of the world with the highest concentration of centenarians - and what he's seen about the three most impactful things you can do to create a long healthy life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

The importance of eating a wide range of fresh, natural foods, especially plant foods such as legumes and grains. This can be challenging in this modern world where we typically don't have access to locally grown food but I thought the example of Loma Linda in California was a great one for showing that it's possible to still eat healthily when living in a city.

What's seen to be true in all of the Blue Zones is a lack of chronic stress. Stress is a natural feature of humans, it's only when it becomes chronic that it often creates health issues. As we often talk about on this show, when we're in our natural state, our primal state, we move in and out of stress when it's useful.

Movement (and the all important rest) are a common feature of all the Blue Zones. It's not typically intense, high impact exercise like going to the gym for a session of cardio, it's more lots of natural movements such as walking, stretching and crouching as they're going about their day.

Direct download: Jeremie_Mercier_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:20am EDT

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

In this conversation, we spoke about understanding how we got to where we are today where so many people are having bad sex, what good sex is, and how can we let ourselves have it. I suspect it's much easier than you might think.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Good sex is about feeling 'dumb and happy'. A similar way of experiencing the world to when we were babies who could just relax and enjoy sensations without feeling responsible for creating them.
  • As a culture we're not cool with men having pleasure. Women are seen attractive on based on being whereas men are seen as attractive based on what they're doing. Be relaxed about these expectations and have a sense of humour about them. Be open about what you would like and what would give you pleasure.
  • Finally, we're designed for around the year sexual attraction and sex. As Dr Snyder said "We're the sexiest species on the planet!" I think that understanding that about ourselves allows us to be lighter and more playful about something that we probably going to spend a lot of time thinking about and doing!
Direct download: Dr_Snyder_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work.
The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP’s clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work.

In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90’s, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves.

Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world’s billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being.

Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children’s library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures.

In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London.

In this conversation, a follow-up to the last episode with JP (about how to create your dream life via the energy of thought), we got stuck into how growing our awareness of our creative potential can actually produce tangible results out there in the world.

We explored all kinds of interesting stuff including creating abundance, whether we're spiritually bypassing by always going into creation of new stories or beliefs rather than exploring through the shadow, and the biggie of responsibility vs innocence!

This episode has stiff competition from last week's show, that was blooming awesome but this one might have just edged it.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Magic happens when we embrace the marriage between recognising the illusionary nature of life whilst using our ability to create amazing things in our lives - JP's story about Byron Katie and Steve Hardison exemplifies this perfectly! As JP quoted Steve "If you want peace: drop your story. If you want to produce: create your story."
  • The topic of money kicks up thinking in almost everyone - it's something that looks very real. That can make it a cool place to explore, as JP said "Go where the pain is". I particularly loved what he said about the relationship many of us have with debt vs being grateful that we can get the money to allow us to invest in ourselves as an asset.
  • Our state of being has a tangible and direct link to what is created in the world. From a grounded state of being everything flows towards us - people, experiences and money. I think we all kind of know this at some level but it's something we seem to forget and then think that success, connection and all kinds of good things comes from somewhere else. So I think it's a brilliant reminder that how we are in the world is what creates results in the world.

 

Direct download: JP_2.1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:43pm EDT

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work.
The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP’s clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work.

In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90’s, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves.

Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world’s billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being.

Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children’s library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures.

In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London.

In this conversation, I took the opportunity to mine JP's wonderful mind for his take on creativity and living an incredible life. JP and I explored what it means to be a creator, the potential we all have to create the experience of life that we want whilst also recognising the paradox that it's all illusory and made-up.

I loved this episode so much that we suddenly realised that we were out of time and still had so much we wanted to get into so we then agreed to come back and do a part two.

Direct download: JP_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:54pm EDT

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent’s Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She’s passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what’s in their way of living from a place of wholeness.

In this conversation, we spoke about one of the main reasons many parents who try gentle parenting struggle and why adding in the missing ingredient of leadership makes so much difference. It's actually quite magical! What I especially love about Eliane is that she grounds everything she talks about in what's natural for humans and also what's she's seen herself as a parent and as a parenting coach. She's wonderful! I know you're going to love her too!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Why is leadership in parenting so important? As Eliane says: imagine if you were moving somewhere with a completely different culture. Or even to a different planet. Picture yourself being there alone, not knowing the language and not knowing any of the local customs; not knowing what is considered rude or might upset people or possibly even make them want to harm you; not knowing how to operate any of their technology or how to operate in their society, organizations, businesses, etc. How would that feel?

    And now imagine that you have a local guide who is there to help you acclimate. Would you do whatever you want, or would you check with that trusted person to find out what's appropriate? Would that person be controlling you or helping you adapt to the culture?

    As far as that guide goes, would you prefer someone who is afraid to give you information, who is apologetic and who avoids giving you directions as much as possible? Or would you want someone who knows you well, knows what you already know and what you haven’t encountered yet, and matter-of-factly presents you with the information you need when you need it.

  • Find your tribe: Surround yourself with parents who are parenting this way, this stuff is so much easier when we're not doing it alone! And be very choosy about who you talk to parenting challenges with  - Eliane's suggestion of having a phrase to politely rebuff unwanted parenting advice is a great one!
  • Understand your non-negotiables, personal non-negotiables and preferences and give your children clear and benevolent leadership around them accordingly, I love Eliane's example of crossing the road - almost all of us will know that feeling of guiding children to cross the road safely - it's that same feeling that informs clear, benevolent leadership elsewhere.
Direct download: Eliane_Sainte_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:06pm EDT

This week's show is with Kerri Hummingbird. Kerri is a Soul Guide, Best-Selling Author, and Host of Soul Nectar Show where she interviews luminaries and spiritual thought leaders about essence and purpose. Kerri's has a powerful story of total transformation from a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder and Manic Depression into being a renowned empathic intuitive healer and spiritual mentor.

Kerri believes that many empathic and clairvoyant people are being told there's something wrong with them, and are being given a pill for life, when all they need are some new skills in energy management, emotional transmutation, and awareness.

In this conversation we spoke about her traumatic and also beautiful story, her work with earth spirituality through healing through natural elements, and she shares ways you can personally use her practical approach to bring about healing in yourself.

This is yet again a great example of something that would come very naturally to us if we were living in more natural ways, and is a wonderful baby step back in the direction of reclaiming your primal power.

Oh and there's a bonus in this episode... Kerri's incredible singing!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we store trauma as a child (especially between the ages of 0-5), it isn't something that can usually be healed with words, especially if the trauma happened when we were pre-verbal. That's why it's so powerful to allow energy to be moved in other ways.
  • Instead of focusing on your sight and thoughts, focus on your experience, the sounds, the smells, the textures, your feelings. Reconnect to the consciousness of the earth, water, the four directions, the stars and the sky. Allow yourself to open up to feeling and knowing something new.
  • Create an earth painting by making a sacred space, finding objects to represent the parts of your life you'd like to change, breathe your feelings into the objects, and then be a witness to it. And when you're ready start moving the objects around and see what feels right. You can even burn or bury the objects if you like! I know this can seem like a really out there or woo thing to do but logically it makes sense to me that using tangible objects as metaphors to see your life from a new perspective could be powerfully transformative.

 

Direct download: Kerri_Hummingbird_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:39pm EDT

This week's show is with Flora Douville, an anti-image consultant. Flora is a hybrid of an intuitive and a mystic, plus a personal coach and a professional consultant. She is an expert in teaching you to feel the different layers of your personality — who you are and how you show up in the world. She can help you put more of YOU in your life, business and relationships. She will also ​match your energy to the right clothing to have your life and wardrobe fully aligned on who you are at your core — so that you feel invincible in your everyday life, all by being you.

​She has been refining her process with her clients for over 10 years and has trained 50+ ​professionals who now use her method with their own clients. She lives between France, the US and Costa Rica, where she works with leaders, coaches and artists who are making a difference in the world.

In this episode we spoke about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world, and how that shows up in clothing, the colours, textures and shapes that work for you and represents who you are.
 
For those of us who have come from a spiritual path such as the 3Ps, it can seem irrelevant or shallow to focus on our personality, let alone our clothes but the more I've contemplated this stuff, the more I've seen that we live the richest lives when we accept and unleash our unique gifts and traits. Yes, it's all one, and yes, that oneness shows up in all kinds of weird and wonderful ways!
 
I adored recording this, so much so that you can probably hear the excitement in my voice throughout the show!
 

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Flora is all about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world so you can show up as who you truly are, free of conditions and expectations.
  • When you put an item of clothing on, instead of looking in the mirror, close your eyes and see how something feels. Does the weight feel right? Does the fabric feel good against your skin? Flora has gifted us with a list of specific questions that you can ask yourself to really understand whether something's right for you (see below for the link to download Flora's questions).
  • We're made up of three layers: Physical: colours, Emotional: textures, Mental: shapes. The elements are fire, water, earth and air and we can be a combination of all different elements or can have repeating elements. Even without knowing Flora's method in depth, I think most of us can connect to an intuitive sense of the elements and develop a practice of listening to your body and contemplating what we pick up, from there we can begin to understand our uniqueness more deeply.
Direct download: Flora_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:23pm EDT

This week's show is with Phil Goddard, an internationally renowned coach, author, speaker, leadership trainer, and lover of life and humanity. He is a published author and the host of The Coaching Life Podcast. His work centres around transforming relationships through a deeper understanding of love and the nature of how our experience of life is created. With humour and sincerity, he combines over twenty-one years in I.T. and Telecoms corporate leadership with twelve years as a professional coach, to help organisations build harmonious teams utilising the most potent force in leadership - love.

He also works with individuals to help them develop a deeply grounded understanding of the principles behind our human experience and live wonderfully productive, happy lives, connected to love, ease and compassion for humanity. He has coached Hollywood actors, international models, journalists, artists, authors, film directors, corporate executives, and numerous business owners, leaders and entrepreneurs.

In this week's show, Phil and I explored whether it's possible to harbour resentment in one part of your life and be truly, deeply happy in another. This topic was inspired by a post that Phil wrote in which he said 'True happiness is the heart that holds no resentment, the crystal clear untainted by drops of red.' we explored this through our own personal experiences and insights. It was actually pretty revealing for me personally!

I always love talking to Phil - he has such honesty, humour and depth and as ever, he didn't disappoint - this is a delightful episode!

What you'll learn from this episode:

Resentment often comes with a potency and a proactivity which means it takes up our time and energy to engage with it, when our thoughts are filled with resentment they can't also be filled with joy.

Whilst it's pretty normal to feel resentment for someone doing someone negative to us is that part of our deeper nature to feel that way or is it simply our conditioning? As Phil said 'normal isn't always natural'. If we were living in a more primal way, it may well be that a lack of resentment is what we would consider normal!

As we understand why people are behaving the way they are - that they're doing the best according to their thoughts in the moment - it makes little sense to feel resentment, instead a natural outcome is that we feel compassion. The wonderful thing is is that we all have the capacity for this to happen: to lose resentment, and to gain love and happiness.

Direct download: Phil_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week's show is with Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova, founder of Birth Into Being, an international collective; dedicated to conscious evolution. Working with the healing modality of Limbic Imprint ReCoding, utilising concepts of epigenetics and neuroplasticity to effect lasting change in the inner worlds of our consciously evolving community.

Since 1982 Elena has been inspiring people all over the world to bring Consciousness into making and raising children. She was one of the organizers of the birth camps at the Black Sea in Russia, where women gave birth in shallow lagoons, in the presence of wild dolphins.

Elena is the creator of the revolutionary documentary 'Birth As We Know It’ (2006; full DVD is 3,5 hr, incl. all bonus features). She is a Spiritual Midwife to thousands of people, perfecting her “Birth Into Being” Method, training other facilitators, who are now using her Method in 28 countries in all major languages. Elena is featured in the recently released UN sponsored book, “Force Such As the World Had Never Known - Women Creating Change,” as one of the 30 most influential grassroots women in the world.  She recently received the 'Legendary Leader' Award, and was a featured keynote speaker at countless conferences.

In this week's show, we explored how adults can suffer from trauma sustained during birth or early childhood and how Elena's 'Birth into being method’ helps people to heal.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There is a heritage of trauma, passed down through the generations via conception, pregnancy, birth and early years. If we want to give our future generations the best chance of a beautiful life, we need to shift the focus earlier and earlier - even pre-conception in terms of choosing the right partner, someone who is conscious and aware of their connection to the source they come from.
  • The Birth into Being method is based on 40 different methods or ceremonies, specific movements and breathing which activate our cortex, limbic and reptilian brain together. It takes the nervous system and sorts everything out in a slightly different way.
  • When we've healed our birth trauma we are open to be who we truly are to flow over with love, sexuality and creativity.
Direct download: Elena_Tonetti-Vladimirova_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:49pm EDT

This week's show is with Nicky Bartley, she is an International Coach and Trainer who has a passion for working with women.  She has done work with corporates, prisons, small charitable organisations and panic attack sufferers.  

In this week's show, Nicky shares her incredible story of going from being £150k in debt and about to be made homeless to working as a successful coach, loving life and being free of her overthinking about money.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Nicky's story of the two different times she was homeless (or about to be) show how our thoughts about something are creating our experience of it. The first time was one of the most fun times of her life whereas the second was filled with fear and shame.
  • When we stop overthinking money and the risks of not having it, we can be open to life and to connection with other people. Nicky's stories of enrolling clients in circumstances when money and enrolling clients were the last thing on her mind are great examples of that!
  • I loved Nicky's summary at the end: "Money flows when I flow"
Direct download: Nicky_Bartley_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Katherine Bird, a transformational leader, healer, Shamanic channel, and guide here to help facilitate the shift in human consciousness and the raising of the vibratory frequency.  She supports people through the processes of healing themselves and bringing their magic to the world.  Utilizing energy work, channeling, hands on healing, practice cultivation and deep coaching she shepherds people through their awakening and the journey to become the healers, coaches and guides they were designed to be. She helps people to open their channel and bring through wisdom, healing and guidance while remaining stable and grounded.

She supports high-performing coaches, healers and leaders to manage their energy, boundaries and demands on them personally and physically, in order to sustain and scale their impact in the world.

In this week's show, we explored the gift of sensitivity - what it is and why we humans have it and then how we can honour and grow this gift. This episode isn't just for people who know they're a healers, psychic or empath - I really think it's for all of us.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • High sensitivity can show up as anxiety, depression, strong emotions and an aversion to some experiences and people. It's so poorly understood in today's world that we often medicate ourselves in various ways into deadening our sensitivity.
  • 25% of the population is highly sensitive though it might well be more like 100% of us in a more natural lifeway where it hasn't been conditioned out of us! We would have needed these sensitivities to hunt, to find plants, to heal and to understand the world we were deeply connected to.
  • Channeling can look like all kinds of things - art, music, or healing - and it's usually unique in how it shows up, so it won't look like other examples you've seen. We're all special snowflakes :) In order to honour your sensitivities: ask for help and guidance, follow the breadcrumbs, and play!
Direct download: Kat_Bird_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:52am EDT

This week's show is with Ed Anthony and Charlie Turner, founders of Mental Wellbeing in Schools. This organisation is dedicated to delivering workshops and coaching sessions to students, parents, staff and teachers around how to access wellbeing via what Ed and Charlie describe as an 'Inside-Out understanding'.

In this week's show, we explore why there is such a high occurrence of mental health problems in children of school age now. Eating disorders, self harm, anxiety, depression, lack of self confidence, and suicidal thoughts have become commonplace, even in children as young as 10 years old. And we then talked about what Ed and Charlie are seeing is at least part of the solution to this problem.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The level of pressure on children these days is immense - Ed and Charlie see that this is due to pressures from the school which is exacerbated by the lack of true connection with their families and spending huge amounts of time on social media. Their minds are so busy and filled with negative thinking.
  • Children today are in a system that's inherently designed to create pressure for them to be different to their natural tendencies, they have so little time and freedom to play, to try things out, to make mistakes, make their own decisions, and to be in nature.  Teachers are under similar levels of pressure and aren't shown how to have wellbeing themselves, let alone do the things that would allow their students to be happy and well.
  • Ed and Charlie's work is based on the premise that everybody has innate mental health (they just don't know it yet) and they don't understand how their ability to think affects them. When children feel that Ed and Charlie see them as whole and well, instead of seeing them as their diagnosis or as damaged, it allows them to begin to open up to feeling that way about themselves - from there incredible changes happen.
  • Ultimately, the hope for the future is that we can create a culture that's built on a foundation of understanding how children really learn - through their natural curiosity.  Wouldn’t that be a cool thing?

 

Direct download: Ed_Anthony__Charlie_Turner_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:46pm EDT

This week's show is with Jorgen Rasmussen, who has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jorgen and I explored the possibilities for humans that things like hypnosis, the placebo effect, and multiple personality disorders (in some ways a form of self-hypnosis) show us - I find it super intriguing how much power the human mind has over the reality that’s created. Does it only have that power when we truly believe the thought? How does hypnosis even work? And what does that tell us about the human mind consciousness more broadly?

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The capacity for hypnosis relies on absorption (the ability to be completely absorbed in an experience - for example a movie), disassociation (feeling separate from the experience, for example an artist saying that their hand painted the painting, it didn't seem to be them making it happen), suggestibility (the ability to make an experience feel completely real). Most of us will have these qualities in varying degrees and around 5-10% of people are highly hypnotisable.
  • Most of us engage in rather a lot of self-deception. Our mind creates a belief and then we try to rationalise why we have that belief, which only confirms and solidifies it further, when actually we don't usually form beliefs through logic and reason.
  • When we believe something it can completely change our experience, even to the extent of our physical processes. This can be particularly powerful when its a belief that's been implanted by an expert, such as when it comes to a diagnosis or a prognosis made by a doctor to a patient. It's wonderful that the reverse can also happen like the example that Jorgen gave of his client who marched out of his office but then returned weeks later free from depression!
Direct download: Joergen_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:27pm EDT

This week's show is with Jess P. Shatkin, M.D. An acclaimed adolescent psychiatrist and educator, Shatkin has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and on Good Morning America.

Jess is one of the country's foremost voices in child and adolescent mental health. He serves as Vice Chair for Education at the Child Study Center and Professor of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry and Pediatrics at New York University School of Medicine. He has been featured in top print, radio, TV, and Internet outlets, including the New York Times, Good Morning America, Parade, New York Magazine, Health Day, CBS Evening News, New York Daily News, Wall Street Journal, and the Los Angeles Times. In addition, for the past eight years Dr. Shatkin has been the host of "About Our Kids," a two-hour call-in radio show broadcast live on SiriusXM's Doctor Radio. He lives in New York City with his wife and two teenage children.

Jess brings more than two decades' worth of research and clinical experience to the subject, along with cutting-edge findings from brain science, evolutionary psychology, game theory, and other disciplines - plus a widely curious mind and the perspective of a concerned dad himself.

In this week's show, we explore how even though adolescence is a risk-taking time, it is also a time of incredible potential. As any parent of a tween, teen or 20-something knows, adolescents take risks. In fact, those aged 12-26 are hard-wired to take risks, but how do you not just handle but even harness these natural impulses? 

Jess also gives practical examples of what parents and teachers can do to honour adolescents journey of risk-taking - in everyday interactions, teachable moments, and specially chosen activities and outings - to work with teens' need for risk, rewards and social acceptance, not against it.

So if you've got an adolescent in your life, this show will allow you to navigate the tricky waters ahead in a much calmer, safer and more rewarding way for all concerned! And if you haven't, this is still an awesome show for understanding more about our evolutionary heritage and how it shapes our behaviour in weird and wonderful ways!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Our drive to take risks as a young person is an entirely natural and beneficial aspect of humans, which has developed to take both personal growth, our community and the human species forward. Seen from that perspective it makes a whole lot less sense to demonise young people's behaviour and a whole lot more sense to harness it.
  • It's a huge step forward simply to understand why your adolescent is behaving the way they are. That allows you to be more supportive and understanding of them. Supportive families benefit the brain: Studies show teens raised by parents with low levels of conflict in their homes have less demanding brain reward centers; these teens will engage in less risk-taking behaviour because their interpersonal relationships are rewarding. 
  • Young people assess risks and make choices differently to older people. Teens know that they’re not invincible. In fact, studies have shown that, when teens engage in risky behaviour, they often overestimate their chances of being harmed by that behaviour. Understanding that means we as parents can help our adolescents to connect them to the real emotional impact of their choices as well as support them to make good decisions.
  • There's a value and benefit of all ages in human life, being aware of that and honouring and harnessing it allows all of us to be better understood, to feel more connected and more useful as part of our community.
Direct download: Shatkin_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:58pm EDT

This week's show is with Jules A. Lalonde. A super-smart guy who we had to get on to share him with you.

By day, he's a financial wizard, and by night, he's a super-hero of science and philosopher. He has an MBA in Behavioral Finance, a degree in biochemistry and has completed graduate research in Non-linear dynamics (ie chaos theory). Are you getting a sense of what I meant by 'super-smart' yet?

Jules has studied many subjects and his curiosity and interest continues to be drawn to many topics including cognitive biases, fundamental neuroscience, the science of emotion, unconscious communication, social behaviour and the nature of human consciousness. Jules is currently working on course on Science and Critical Thinking for change workers entitled “Keep Science in Mind” which'll be available in the new year.

In this week's show, we explored current neuroscience and evolutionary biology, in particular the aspect of our primary affective (feeling) networks in the lower brain that govern much of our subjective experience (what Jules likes to call our personal holodeck).

In simple terms, we talked about how our minds have evolved to work and why. In fact, in many ways our modern minds aren't too different to the average cave man's - what is radically different is the environments we each inhabit. Understanding this allows us to set up our modern lives in a way that makes them a lot more enjoyable.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Jules talks about our personal 'holodeck' which is our internal system which allows us to create and interact with our subjective experience. Our personal holodeck is created through usage, especially when we're young so it is vitally important that we're able to use and develop our senses through interaction and play.
  • The seeking part of our mind drives so much of our feelings and behaviour. That means that the treasure IS the search!
  • Humans have a tilt towards negativity - it's a trait that's been selected for because it's what keeps us alive. Many of us in this modern world are being bombarded with triggers which create a lot of negative thoughts and feelings - most of that fear is not useful and makes our experience of life pretty crappy. However, when we're in a more 'primal state' it is worth recognising fear can contain message that can be worth taking notice of and adjusting course as a result.
Direct download: Jules_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:01pm EDT

This week's show is with Robert Kandell. Robert is the host of the Tuff Love podcast and co-founder of OneTaste (orgasmic meditation). He is a relationship expert, life coach and of course has his own personal breakup stories to tell.

In this show we explored what's going on in relationships and between men and women in this crazy modern world, as Robert said and men are acting more like boys. Women are acting more like men. So we talked about that, what's caused it and what we can do about it!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We all have a masculine/feminine ratio - a man can have some feminine and a woman can have masculinity. This is absolutely natural and fine and the ratio often changes during our life.
  • In this modern world, men are acting more like boys - The whole Peter Pan thing of being part of an urban tribe and having fun. Women are acting more like men - being the strong one and being the provider. This behaviour is in contrast to what Robert believes that a powerful underlying drive for the masculine is to get approval whereas the feminine wants to feel beautiful.
  • If you're not happy with how your masculinity or femininity is showing up in your life and relationship then the first step is just to be honest with yourself: take an inventory - job, relationship, and purpose. Then take responsibility for what you've co-created.
  • Get into the habit of success. We're surrounded with potential connections in the world - go look! Build allies around creating the changes you want.
Direct download: Robert_Kandel_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:04pm EDT

This week's show is with Sean Merrick. As a Holistic and Functional Medicine Expert, with over 18 years of clinical & allied health experience, Sean utilises a unique approach to optimal health. He uncovers root causes of ailments in an exceptional way. He uses contemporary, 21st Century lab investigations to uncover insults hidden in the body. Also, he uniquely believes that there is a deeper correlation between stored emotions and illnesses. With lab results and a distinctive wisdom, Sean’s clients are able to detach from damaging stories and move towards optimal health. Sean not only coaches clients but he is counsel to many holistic practitioners worldwide.

In this week's show, we spoke about how and why our stored childhood experiences and stories affect us in struggles such as chronic pain and illnesses in the present - and what we can do to heal.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Our experience as adults is largely determined by our childhood selves - how we perceive and respond to the world is created by the imprinting of our 7 year old selves. Two people could experience the same event and their perception and response to it is largely determined by how they experienced the world as children.
  • Our disconnected, noisy society only hampers our healthy response to trauma further, if we could return into a connected and loving community after trauma we'd be affected by it in much less negative ways.
  • As Hippocrates said "All disease begins in the gut.” Our gut is the root to so much of our experience, emotions and how we respond to the world. Make the time to spend time with yourself and get to know yourself. Listen to your instincts, listen to your gut!
Direct download: Sean_Merrick_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Jorgen Rasmussen has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jorgen and I explored what really creates big changes in people and how Jorgen uses all kinds of weird and wonderful thought experiments, games and paradoxes as pointers to allow his clients to see something different that will create the desired change.

It's a corker of a show, Jorgen is a genius and also very funny, and I so appreciated this opportunity to explore his gem of a mind!

 

Direct download: Joergen_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:50am EDT

This week's show is with Maggie Minor who believes that what we surround ourselves with has a profound affect on our subconscious and that by simply making a few changes in our home décor we can uplift ourselves and open up our mind to new possibilities. She is the founder of Maggie Minor Designs, an online resource for colorful furniture and artwork, tips for making your home a more positive place, and consulting services to help you design a home that aligns with what you want.

In her former life, Maggie spent almost 15 years traveling the world…as a graduate student in Australia, a student and backpacker in Europe, a Peace Corps volunteer in Bulgaria and a humanitarian worker working in Asia and Africa. Her memoir, Adventures of a Curious Sculptor, recounts her long journey from adventurer to artist, and her appreciation for all of the beauty that surrounds us.

In this show we explored how and why what we look at in our homes and offices has a profound subconscious impact what we think about and therefore how we feel. There is a revolution going on right now about about food, spirituality, relationships, and exercise, but no one is really talking about curating what we look at everyday. 

Maggie would like to help people think more about how they create their environments with a special emphasis on things that they look at most. It’s a simple shift that can make a huge difference.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Humans throughout history have been wired to be impacted by their visual surroundings - it's imperative to our safety- whether it be to locate fruit (or remember where the poisonous ones are) or to hunt or avoid animals. Our environment is constantly being perceived via our senses and is in our awareness, whether we realise it or not - so we can either leave our environment to chance or we can curate environments that serve us.
  • Go around your house and ask yourself: "How do I want to feel in this room?" Look at each item in the room and decide whether it creates the feeling you want.
  • Easy starting points include: What do you look at first thing in the morning? What's giving you 'Should' messages? What do you see when you first enter your home? What do you see when you leave your home? Start with those places first.
Direct download: Maggie_Minor_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:39am EDT

This week's show is with Marina Pearson. Marina, is the No1 best-selling author of the multi-award winning book Goodbye Mr Ex, and international speaker. She supports professionals and entrepreneurs to transform all types of stress into effortless results and living through her coaching and events. She is known for catalysing busy and stressed entrepreneurs and professionals out of their stress and struggle into effortless results so they leave feeling at peace and free.

In this week's show, Marina shared how has recently broken up with her husband and father of her young son and has been going through the process of creating a new way of relating to and co-parenting with her ex-husband.  In essence, we talked how to have a healthy break-up.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Even when we're in challenging period and it seems as though everything is dark and awful, we all have moments when we don't feel that way - when our thinking clears. It's so freeing to notice that because we understand that our experience isn't coming from the break-up but from our thoughts but our thoughts about the break-up. "We're not on a rollercoaster, we are the rollercoaster."
  • Everything's going to be fine, no matter what. Who we really are is always perfect and untouched by the stuff that's going on in our human lives. We all have the capacity to connect into the true self beneath the turmoil.  We have innate resilience, we are never broken or f*cked up
  • There's a universal force thats constantly rearranging things - in ways that we can perceive as being good and lucky and in ways that we can perceive as being bad and unlucky but really it's not personal, it's just life unfolding as it does.
  • In any relationship, the other person's level of awareness or state of mind is largely irrelevant  to your experience of it - for example, Marina described how her own level of awareness was key to how she experienced the break-up.
Direct download: Marina_Pearson_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:31am EDT

This week's show is with Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realised she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding.

Kat's been on the show twice before and was so fabulous we had to get her back on to talk about one of her favourite topics: Ayahuasca itself! We explored the history of Ayahuasca and other plant medicines, the active component DMT (also known as 'the spirit molecule') and its role in the human body and what this could help us to understand about the subconscious and universal consciousness. All in all, it's a deeply fascinating show!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The active component in Ayahuasca is DMT - which is present in our pituitary gland and shows up in dreams and as we die. It's known as the 'spirit molecule' because it seems to allow us to access the space of universal consciousness.
  • Deeply understanding and fully experiencing our deeply held traumas, baggage and pain allows us to move on - as Kat said: We need to feel to heal.
  • It's important to be and feel safe whenever we're accessing a space of complete openness. In Ayahuasca ceremonies this is the role of the shaman, in other situations a different form of safety and guidance would be more appropropriate but regardless it’s a necessary aspect of this kind of absolute openness.
Direct download: Kat_Aya_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:10am EDT

This week's show is with Kim Kaase. As a professional business coach, consultant and transformational trainer she supports her clients by working with them to craft a clear personal vision while creating results that are important to them. She uses her background as a designer to creatively solve problems and approach challenges as a coach from a very unique perspective. 

Kim’s experience in creating breakthrough sales results as well as executing company vision and goals melds perfectly with her coaching career. As a dealer principal, Kim led sales and sales support teams to grow the dealership from $14mm in 2003 to $38mm in just 4 years while industry trends were going in the opposite direction.

Kim graduated from the University of Houston in 1990 with a BFA in Interior Design and a certification in Transformative Coaching. Her career has included work with a vast array of professional services firms and successful entrepreneurs.. She is the Principal at her firm, LEAP Business Coaching. In her free time she enjoys transformational work, bird watching, cooking and creating memories with her son, Rex. Kim’s vision includes creating a world where everyone leads lives that they absolutely love!

In this show we explored Kim's experience of reclaiming her inner juiciness and intimacy with both herself and her partner. As ever, Kim was totally open and shared the insecurities and surprises that she has experienced and what this relationship has shown her about control and vulnerability. Although this show is particularly relevant to anyone entering the dating world later in life or after a break-up, I actually think this show is relevant to anyone at almost any stage of a relationship!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Falling into flow, into the space of presence just doesn't allow any room for thought-created baggage and insecurities. Kim said the strategies and techniques she'd tried in the past to get over her insecurities around sex didn't work, however when she felt fully engaged and in the flow, they just weren't there!
  • The need for control is very common because it's a way that we can feel safe, however it's that very safety that stops us really living and feeling.  Kim said she would now take juicy over safety any day!
  • When we let go of trying to be someone that we believe people will love, instead we radiate who we really are - and as Kim says, others will be drawn to us like a moth to a flame. It's totally attractive!
Direct download: Kim_Kaase_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:59pm EDT

This week is the second show in which the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the second part of the story of her life.

f you haven't yet listened to to Part One I would highly recommend you do so before listening to Part Two. But if you have, you'll know that part 1 was amazing, just packed full of crazy, funny stories of Lian's life up until her mid-20s.

And on this week's show we carry on that exploration and while there might not be as many of those types of stories, this show is full power. We get into some key events that rocked Lian's world - including her experience of being attacked and then the aftermath, the surprising impact of losing her father, and discovering what was really creating her feelings - these events were the catalyst for incredible growth and transformation.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved how Lian cured her chronic facial pain and panic attacks simply through seeing the nature of thought and how it was creating her experience of life.However it is worth saying that Lian’s experience is probably on the rarer side certainly in terms of how quickly she made a full recovery yet understanding the role of thought seems to always have a profoundly beneficial effect, even if it’s a more gradual one. It can be helpful to focus more on the direction you are going in rather than the speed at which you are traveling in that direction.

  • Lian shared how when her father died she became aware of her connection to something bigger than her sense of self. No matter what you wish to call the intelligence all-creating force behind life - whether that’s God, spirit, source, Universal Mind or what we here at Primal Happiness call the Spirit Fundamental - what is undeniable is that it exists. And once we open up and deepen our awareness of it we can’t help but feel more connection, joy, love, meaning, and guidance.
Direct download: Lian_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 5:42am EDT

This week's show is with Jeanne Catherine-Gray. Jeanne is deeply committed to transforming the landscape of contemporary psychology and its applications in the real world, Jeanne earned her MA in Psychological Well Being and is currently working on her Ph.D. in the Neuroscience of Psychological Experience.

Jeanne has successfully built a community of practitioners and provides training programs for coaches and therapists. Her voracious intellectual curiosity and comfort with listening for insight are complemented by her capacity for action and genuine care for other human beings.

Jeanne values a principle-based understanding that naturally improves listening and well being; increasing peace of mind, community satisfaction, and desirable outcomes. With twenty-four years of experience working with groups, Jeanne’s willingness to go straight to the heart of the problem, and not be afraid of anything, reaps great benefits at work, as a host on the radio show, Waking Up: The Neuroscience of Awareness and as a volunteer mediator & parent educator in Charlottesville, VA.

In this week's show we're talking about Jeanne's transformation from trauma through PTSD to coming out the other side as someone who is now successfully helping others to overcome their challenges.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we talk over and over about trauma it means we experience the trauma again - with all of the same feelings as we did during the original trauma.
  • Realising that her thoughts aren't true is what made change happen in all areas of Jeanne's life - not as a practice but as a realisation that naturally occurred.
  • Our brains are always changing, we can go back to an old way of thinking (or an 'old neighbourhood') but understanding that we can move to a new way of thinking (or a 'new neighbourhood') is a powerful choice that we have.
Direct download: Jeanne_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the story of her life. She covered her early years living as a single parent family with her father, travelling Europe, her struggles with fitting in at school and work, and discovering the possible reason for those struggles.

This show is packed with so many fascinating, inspiring, slightly weird :) and incredibly funny stories that I know you'll love. In fact, there was so much awesomeness that we had to make this a two part show so this is part 1 and part 2 will follow shortly. In part 2, Lian will share the surprising impact of losing her father, discovering what was really creating her feelings, and more.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved the example of how the universe always provides when you’re open and aligned to its flow. That’s something we have become so disconnected from in this modern world. And I appreciate for some that’s a hard thing to get your head around let alone believe, but it’s true. It’s only because of the domestication of the human animal that this law of nature has been hidden from view.

    Have a play with breaking free from your domestication and reclaim your alignment to nature’s great flow.

  • I also wanted to highlight the power of the Socratic approach to learning that Lian’s father used with Lian and Lian subsequently uses with her children. This approach is around drawing the learning out from the student as opposed to pushing it onto them. In this world of google where we've been conditioned to crave instant answers, instant gratification without first taking a journey of exploration ourselves to arrive at the answer is stunting the growth of our consciousness and the collective consciousness of the world.

    If you have children or even young family members the next time they ask you something, instead of just giving them the answer maybe take the time to have a mini adventure with them and simply reply “I’m not sure... what do you think?” and see where that takes you. 😃
  • And lastly, Lian shared her story of being a misfit and the challenges that came from that. And how as she’s got older she’s become more accepting of who she is and that’s allowed her gifts to shine brighter. As ever, when we accept and embrace our uniqueness and the uniqueness in others, it has the power to do incredible things in the world.That’s the design of the system that’s the default setting, it’s just that we've lost touch with how to cultivate inspire and nurture the uniqueness in humans. We no longer celebrate people's unique gifts as we’ve been conditioned to turn inward in a never ending and soul destroying pursuit of the status quo. A world where we are all trying to be the same simply does not work!

    How can you celebrate and nurture your unique gifts and how can you do the same in others?

Direct download: Lian_Podcast_mixdown3.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:04am EDT

This week's show is a very different show to the norm, this week, we’ve got Jonathan Wilkinson, the co-founder of Primal Happiness on to tell you about his story. Next week he’ll be interviewing me - we thought it was long overdue for you the listener to get to know us both a little better first.

It’s just the start of monthly Lian & Jonathan shows on a range of topics. This is all part of big changes afoot, there’s lots more cool things to come - I'll be telling you more about that at the end of the show.

Unless you’re part of one of our programs you’re unlikely to be familiar with Jonathan - who’s actually the other half of Primal Happiness. He's actually the man behind the voice you just heard during the podcast intro at the beginning of the show.

Jonathan's story is actually relevant to almost everyone living in today's modern world and acts as a cautionary tale of what can happen to us and our children if we continue living the kind of disconnected lives that are considered normal today.

Whilst there's some pretty grim parts to Jonathan's story, I'll let you know in advance that it does have a happy ending. If you're anything like me you'll like to know going in that there's a happy ending!

I really think it’s a must listen show for everyone who is interested in understanding more about the little known challenges of living in today’s modern world and how to live a happy and fulfilling life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We typically think of trauma as an input of a traumatic event but there are so many people in the western world that are been brought up deeply traumatised by a lack of something, by a disconnection to something. There's been a normalisation of the 'trauma of lack'. 
  • Almost all dis-ease be it mental or physical has disconnection at its root cause. Health is actually natural and normal!
  • Jonathan recognised how he was lacking connection to several of the Primal Fundamentals - which is true for most of us living in this crazy modern world. We can remedy this disconnection and adapt... when we understand how. And that's where The Primal State Formula comes in!
Direct download: Jono_Podcast_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:29am EDT

This week's show is with Michael McCaffrey. He began the invaluable practice of meditation and contemplation in 2010. He now speaks publicly on the many benefits of meditation as well as the misunderstandings and misconceptions that act as a block to developing a practice. He also offers meditation in workspaces and runs retreats in the UK.

As I said on last week's show, meditation is something that I'm on a real personal journey with at the moment - I used to meditate years ago in the hope of calming my mind, and now when I have a calm mind much of the time, I'm interested in discovering whether I can still benefit from meditation and if so, how. I'm inviting you along for the ride with me.

In this week's show, I certainly got what I wanted... Michael shared his incredibly inspiring journey of going from crack addiction to becoming a meditation teacher - and he shares the insights and obstacles he experienced along the way.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Addiction to something (not just drugs) is almost always a way of escaping some kind of suffering. It's not a choice. Instead of demonising sufferers, how can we offer some support and understanding?
  • When we make the regular practice of sitting and noticing the thoughts - without distraction - we allow ourselves the powerful recognition of what's really going on for us.
  • From that recognition of our true self, we can move from searching for escape to an acceptance of what's going on in the moment.
Direct download: Michael_McCaffrey_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:14pm EDT

This week's show is with Alex Mill, a Zen Life Coach, facilitator, leadership trainer and public speaker. He spent nearly 14 years training in a Zen monastery and is now offering his years of experience to transform people’s lives and businesses through mindfulness, meditation and compassionate self-awareness practices.

In this week's show Alex agreed to me throwing questions at him about all things meditation. This is something that I'm on a real personal journey with at the moment - I used to meditate years ago in the hope of calming my mind, and now when I have a calm mind much of the time, I'm interested in discovering whether I can still benefit from meditation and if so, how. I'm inviting you along for the ride with me.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The benefits of meditation are typically that you're more in the present, more focused, less lost in thought, more able to direct your attention. I loved what Alex said: we are either here or not here.
  • Meditation gives the regular practice of noticing that your thoughts are not you and giving you access to the space of insights, peace and connection.
  • Take time for yourself to remove the barriers to meditating: just take 5 minutes to sit and focus on the breath.
Direct download: Alex_Mill_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is with Victoria Kate. Victoria is the founder of Free2bme, the training for teachers and parents in mental health wellbeing for young people. Victoria is qualified as a Mind Calm trainer, NLP and Reiki Master and using her personal experience and expertise Victoria delivers self-development courses and one to ones for clients worldwide.

Victoria is a single mum, writer and lover of life. She lives by the sea with her 10 year old son and enjoys watching sunsets, eating chocolate and travelling this wonderful world. She is writing a book based on rebuilding yourself after a relationship breakdown, how to thrive single parenting (including travelling with them) and then on to meeting Mr Right! She provides compelling insight, along with other single parents, that one of the most challenging lifestyles can help you wake up and find great peace, serenity and joy in your life.

She also happens to be one of my very best and oldest friends!

In this show we’re talking about what happens after a painful relationship break-up: life afterwards. We explored all kinds of aspects including making conscious choices, forgiveness and letting go, authenticity, human vs spirit, life as a single parent, and creating a whole-hearted relationship with your ex.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's a time for grief and pain - allow yourself that time before you move forward into acceptance.
  • The importance of spirituality - allowing the space for intuition and connecting to your higher self and something bigger than yourself. From there acceptance comes which is the foundation for making conscious choices - large and small.
  • Holding a vision of what'd love life to look and feel like is what allows us to create a life that's in alignment with that vision.
Direct download: Victoria_Kate_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:02am EDT

This week's show is with Jaclyn Costello. Nothing is more satisfying to Jaclyn than helping people make breakthroughs to understand themselves more deeply. This is the heart of her role as a Spiritual Development Coach at GrowWithSoul.com. Jaclyn's background in spiritual guidance evolved over years of personal work, immersion in sacred, shamanic ceremonies, and one-on-one mentorships with respected teachers & guides. Jaclyn is also an Assistant Professor in the Honors College at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. As well, she is a writer of poetry, fiction, and non-fiction. Her work has been published in a variety of literary journals & magazines; she just finished her first novel.

In this show we’re talking about the juicy topic of intuition. What it is, how we can listen to it, how we can get more of it showing up in our lives, and what we can do with what it tells us! In other words, how we can live our most congruent, aligned, and heart-centred lives.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We all have intuition and it's like a muscle that the more we use it, the stronger it gets. Find ways to get space for intuition into your life.
  • It's a choice: Check out or check in. Nearly everything in life is a choice and we have such creative power when we're aware of the choices we're making.
  • Sometimes our intuition tells us something we really don't like and are scared to act upon. It's helpful to remember that that tension is what something new can be created from.
Direct download: Jaclyn_Costello_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:09pm EDT

And this week's show is with Robin Charbit, one of the founders of Insight Principles. Although Robin is a chemical engineer by training, he has spent most of his 35 year career in the world of business, first as a the leader of one of Exxon’s large international businesses based in Europe, and then as the Director of a consulting practice in Boston, Massachusetts.

About 16 years ago, he came across the work of Syd Banks and saw it as the missing element in the world of business. That led him to found Insight Management Partners, to explore how to bring this understanding into business. About 10 years ago, he met Ken Manning and they joined forces to create Insight Principles.

In this show we’re talking about getting anything done at work or in life without bother or stress.

We all have had moments where we surprise ourselves, we leap that tall building without effort, we solve that issue with ease, or we just see what to do without apparently having to think too much about it. Most people agree when you say this to them. Most people also agree that this is a fleeting occurrence. Robin explains what this phenomenon is, where it lives, and how to have more of it. The interesting thing is there is nothing to do when you know where to look.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's an alternative to the bother and stress of today's busy lives and it's to live from an understanding of what allows us to access insight, ease and peace.
  • Remember a time when you were at peace on the inside. Psychologically peaceful. Try to remember what qualities were present in you at that time: Open, at ease, settled down. Were you doing them or did those qualities just show up? If they just showed up, where did they come from? Inside or innate. Not something to get - something to connect to.
  • How to connect to that space? The more we understand how the system works the less we get caught up in thought and have access to that space.
Direct download: Robin_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:55am EDT

This week's show is with Kelly Noonan Gores, Director and Executive Producer of the documentary HEAL, Kelly Noonan Gores had spent 20 years in front of the camera before deciding to turn her attention to filmmaking. In 2012, Gores launched Elevative Entertainment, an independent production company based in Beverly Hills, and transitioned into a career of writing and producing.

However, Gores’ time in front of the camera continued as she starred in and was the executive producer for the award winning films Beneath (2013) and Take a Seat (2011). Gores also produced the feature film Tooken (2015), a spoof of the Taken Franchise. She considers her latest project HEAL, her greatest passion and life’s work as it shares the powerful message that it is never too late for the body to heal. A combination of the books “Biology of Belief” by Bruce Lipton and “Dying to be Me” by Anita Moorjani, inspired and taught Gores that we are not victims of genes and biology but through our thoughts and beliefs we can recover and heal.

As a seeker of truth, Gores and her team have a passion for creative, consciousness raising projects. After taking a class at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York City, Gores learned how food effects our health and how no one way diet, toxin release method, etc. works for every person in the same way. Gores’ inspiration for the documentary HEAL stems from a collection of attending classes and conferences, reading and sharing her knowledge with others.

Gores is a Los Angeles native, soccer player and has been practicing yoga and meditation for 8 years.

In today’s show we spoke about the power of our thoughts when it comes to healing. Kelly's film reveals that we have more control over our health and life than we have been taught to believe. It features interviews with Deepak Chopra, Bruce Lipton, Marianne Williamson, Michael Beckwith, Gregg Braden, Anita Moorjani and other leading scientists, teachers and experts on the mind-body connection, who describe and highlight the relationship between spirituality and science.

It turns out that we are not victims of our family genes, but truly have the power to heal virtually any “dis-ease” through our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions and emotions.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The possibilities of the human mind and body are something we're only just starting to uncover but the examples in HEAL show that we're only limited by our beliefs.
  • The placebo effect actually creates the same chemical response as the drug it's controlling for. There's an incredible opportunity to better understand and exploit this effect.
  • The way we think about about something can have a greater impact on how it affects us than the actual properties of that thing. For example, whether we see our food as harmful or nourishing can affect whether it harms or nourishes us.
  • Happiness is a great indicator of whether we're in alignment
Direct download: Kelly_Noonan_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:52am EDT

This week's show is with Shiv, who is a motivational speaker on self awareness and consciousnesses. His message emphasises Self Love as a means to inner awakening and deep meditation. 

Shiv believes that being our true self is what the journey of life is all about. Life is to be lived without any delusions stated in words from past experiences. True self cannot be stated in words but lived as an experience. Shiv refrains from attaching himself to any definable label, be it of status, gender, religion, nation or any other description that would define and therefore limit. All that he is, is.

In today’s show we spoke about judgement - why we judge, how it affects us, and what's possible on the other side of judgement.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We're born completely pure and without judgements and then start gathering judgements about ourselves and others - often starting with our gender.
  • We judge others in order to know ourself but it's a limited version of ourself - it's not our true self.
  • The first step to letting go of judgement is recognising that you can. Just observe your thoughts and notice that it's not the real you who is talking. Observe and be a witness.
  • Surrender to yourself and you will become who you really are. As Shiv said "Tension is who you want to be, relaxing is who you are."
Direct download: Shiv_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:08am EDT

James Tripp is back! James is an internationally recognised and respected educator, consultant and coach in the fields of personal transformation, hypnosis, influential communication and personal efficacy. Working from an eclectic background including philosophy, music, mentalism, martial arts, movement culture and NLP, James is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.

Beyond his work with private clients, James runs open workshops internationally, with his London and UK based workshops typically drawing students from around the world.

In today’s show we spoke about the Chaos Wave - or what James describes as how we choose to participate in life in a way that brings things into the world that we want, it seems effortless and allows us to dance with the chaos - it feels like magic.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The world doesn't work like a coffee machine - it doesn't work step by step following a set process. It's constantly changing and isn't something that we can plan for linearly - even though we convince ourselves that we can. Life isn't like a game of chess, it's like a game of Tetris.
  • Surfing the chaos wave is about letting go of focusing on all of the things that you can't control, choose how you meet the wave, moment by moment, co-creating with the wave. Knowing when to hold and when to fold (as Kenny Roger sang!)
  • Look at where you're struggling in your life - where you don't want to take the steps that you see as necessary to achieve the result you desire. Connect to your vision (your high vibration state) so you can come alive with enthusiasm. Allow your intuition guide you and allow your action emerge from your vision.
  • A pattern of chronic worrying is about trying to control the future - which is impossible. Connect into the trust that allows you to be in and respond to the moment.
  • Letting go of the 'cause and effect' model which doesn't apply to the social-psycho world. Stop struggling and start dancing.
  • When someone inspires themselves and speaks from their inspiration - that inspires others.
  • Vision - we are not who we think we are, we are not the stories that we tell ourselves. Self-narrative is destiny. We are living from our self narrative. Starting to create a sense of who you are - connecting to a self-narrative that's inspiring. Feel inspired by who you are. Live into your own personal inspiring myth. What's coming through you - how do you work with that and shape it? How do you co-create with what's coming through and what's out there.
Direct download: James_Tripp_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:28am EDT

This week's show is with Jez Hughes is a British shaman, having studied intensively the path of shamanism for nearly 20 years, he has worked full time as a practitioner for the past 12 years. He teaches and initiates people onto this path from the heart of the woods in the south of England whilst also working closely with indigenous tribes from Central America.

Jez’s passion is empowering people to reawaken their ancestors, the land where they reside and their spiritual heritages to heal the relationship between the human and natural world. He is the author of the book The Heart of Life- Shamanic Initiation & Healing in the modern world.

In today’s show we spoke healing and how we can better align ourselves to our natural, joyful nature. Jez says we're currently living in paradox - with dark, heavy times and trauma and juxtaposed with healing energies. Healing and growth doesn't come without friction - pain is often growing and part of the process. We spoke about how we can better align ourselves with the natural forces that are starting to come forth.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We have got out of balance with ourselves and the natural world, by opening our hearts and giving back to the land and the natural world, we can fall back into alignment with the way of things and experience the joy and peace that's natural for us.
  • The elements of fire and water are trying to get our attention - we can see this in global warming and rising sea levels - if we can give gratitude (through ceremonies, prayers and thoughts) for the elements then they can fall back into balance.
  • We are often so spiritually starved in western culture that we can cling and grasp at spiritual, mystical things and lose a sense of the physical, down to earth, practical side of the natural world that we're living on and part of. We need to come into our bodies and have a natural, real sense of appreciation and connection with the world and the elements.
Direct download: Jez_Hughes_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:41pm EDT

This week's show is with Cam Adair, a Speaker, YouTuber, and Founder of GameQuitters.com, the world’s largest support community for video game addiction, serving 25,000 members a month in 80 countries around the world. Born in Canada, he currently lives in San Diego, California.

In today’s show we spoke our digital/tech addiction - almost all of us are somewhere on that spectrum. We talked about why we've ended up this way and what we can do about it.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Almost all of us are somewhere on this spectrum of digital addiction - whether it's full on gaming addiction or just checking facebook a zillion times a day.
  • We do this because we're trying to meet four very human needs: Temporary Escape, Social Connection, Constant Measurable Growth, Challenge (Sense of Purpose)
  • Coming from a non-judgmental place allows for change and choices. Whether it's ourselves or others with an addiction, stopping to understand WHY this behaviour is happening allows us to make different choices, more in alignment with our values and vision.
Direct download: Cam_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week's show is with Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realised she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding.

So that’s exactly what we explored in this show - death. Why Kat sees it as one of the juiciest topics to explore, why our relationship with death actually affects how we live, and what we can do to get good with death.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We are so afraid of death and dying that it can make us close up and contract, not fully love our lives or be open to loving others.
  • Understanding that death isn't the end of the journey but is just a different experience of consciousness allows us to stop running away from death, to stop living in fear of it.
  • When we say yes to all of it - the dark stuff and the light stuff, love and heartbreak, life and death then we get to have the deepest, most juicy experience of life. So say yes to all of it!
Direct download: Kat_Courtney_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:16pm EDT

This week's show is with Tripp Lanier coach, consultant and host of "The New Man: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp".

He coaches entrepreneurs around the world to get out of the shallow end of the pool, redefine success, and align their work with what they were put on this Earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, and fun.

As a creative entrepreneur, Tripp created one of the first digital video post-production companies in the Southeast. For over twelve years, Tripp crafted TV shows and commercials for national and regional clients. Other contributions include working with Ken Wilber as Co-Director of Integral Institute Arts Center. On the artistic front, Tripp has written, performed and produced albums with his own rock groups.

So Tripp really been done there and done that and is still doing it when it comes to living a life of full of freedom, fulfilment and fun.

In today’s show we spoke about how to be a human in today's crazy world where we are being domesticated, pushed in all kinds of directions and don't have the relationship, career or fulfilment we want.  So we're talking about how do we cut the crap, get rid of the shell we've created for ourselves and be more of who we really are.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Most of us are too scared to say aloud what we really want but when we do, it's incredibly powerful - and in fact, we may find that we don't even really want that thing once we've been able to say it and see it from another perspective.
  • Understanding and accepting that discomfort is likely to be part of the deal of anything that provides growth means that we can stop shying away from the unknown through fear.
  • The expectations that we live by are often just domestication - the conditioning that comes from what we imagine others expect of us - often, they are completely untrue
  • Ask yourself "What would the 80 year old me think of how I'm living my life?"
  • Instead of trying to 'be someone', let layers drop away and just be you, living however it is that you feel called to live.
Direct download: Tripp_Lanier_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:58pm EDT

This week's show is with Katie Abbott. Katie's a therapist and coach, she's been running the Lewis Clinic in Harley Street for the last 8 years, runs retreats abroad and events in London. She's written for The Guardian, Observer, and Psychologies Magazine.

Katie is passionate about giving people the experience of being welcomed, accepted and loved. She enjoys exploring the space beyond words.

In today’s show we spoke about how we can live a life rich with purpose - and do it from a place of deep presence and love. In other words, how we can find that Holy Grail of having it all!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Openness and honesty - the power of being OK with who we are and whatever shows up.
  • The importance of mentors - people who can tell us that we can do it and "Why not you?"
  • Opening ourselves to love and be love - we are all loved and connected.
Direct download: Katie_Abbott_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:25pm EDT

This week's show is with James Tripp, an internationally recognised and respected educator, consultant and coach in the fields of personal transformation, hypnosis, influential communication and personal efficacy. Working from an eclectic background including philosophy, music, mentalism, martial arts, movement culture and NLP, James is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.

Beyond his work with private clients, James runs open workshops internationally, with his London and UK based workshops typically drawing students from around the world.

In today’s show we spoke about finding the 'change point' - that moment when our lives can change massively - what creates that moment and how we best bring about the circumstances for it to happen.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We are constantly changing, we try to make sense of that by seeing things as fixed. When our attention is brought to the fact that everything is changing we have awareness of our ability to change too.
  • We lose sight of the fact that we're these exquisite learning, growing, changing creatures who have access to an innate intelligence. When we connect back into that intelligence, we're able to feel the power of change that we all have.
  • We need to knock down the metaphorical tower that's keeping us safe but is also restricting us so that we can experience our freedom to grow and change.
  • As we become aware that we are looking at the world through our 'map' (or our own way of conceptualising) it allows us the freedom to be more in 'direct experience' with the world.
Direct download: James_Tripp_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:35am EDT

This week's show is with Kristian Verde Haganes, Kristian is a dedicated father and husband, a licensed physiotherapist and certified CLARITY coach working within the public health service in Sandefjord, Norway. As the project manager of a Healthy Life Center, Kristian supports people at risk of developing non infectious chronic disease overcome their limitations and blossom. He is passionate about the science of personal transformation, and about how to arrange the contingencies of reinforcement responsible for it.

In today’s show we spoke about the way our own behaviour is shaped and is constantly developing as a person engages in an environment.  And also how we affect each other as we speak but maybe more importantly how we affect ourselves as we speak.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Listening to our own sound allows us to become more aware of our own sound and also how it affects us.
  • Our internal chatter (i.e. our thinking) is our sound turned right down - we have more of that chatter when we’ve been exposed to - what Kristian calls - noxious verbal behaviour, and feel unable to speak our sound aloud.
  • When we engage in 'sound verbal behaviour' with others, we enjoy it, its reinforced and we therefore do more of it.
  • This digital age is the worst time for us to express ourselves in writing - more disconnected, more unaware of our sound and how it affects us and others.
Direct download: Kristian_mixdown_V2.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:51pm EDT

This week's show is with Jamie Smart an internationally renowned writer, speaker, coach and consultant. He shows individuals and organizations the unexpected keys to clarity; the ultimate leverage point for creating more time, better decisions and meaningful results.

Jamie is a gifted speaker, equally engaging in front of large audiences and more intimate groups. He’s passionate about helping individuals and businesses to deepen their understanding of CLARITY® and to create the results that matter to them. In addition to working with a handful of coaching clients and leading selected corporate programmes, Jamie runs professional development workshops for business leaders, trainers, coaches and consultants. He has appeared on Sky TV and on the BBC, as well as in numerous publications including The Daily Telegraph.

In 2003, Jamie started the company Salad, quickly growing a tribe of over 80,000 people who devoured his articles and personal development products. Salad soon became the world’s leading NLP product business, and he was acknowledged by his peers as one of the world’s finest trainers. Then, in 2008, Jamie shifted his focus to a new paradigm, the principles of CLARITY®. He stopped teaching NLP and in 2012, sold Salad. Prior to starting his own business, Jamie led multi-million pound organizational change programmes and was also brought in as a troubleshooter to rescue struggling projects. His client list includes the Guardian newspaper, Sweet & Maxwell, Payzone and Dun & Bradstreet.

In today’s show we spoke about How to be happy in these modern times of complexity and uncertainty! Which of course is a topic very close to our hearts on this show.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Knowing that at the core of your being you'll be OK, no matter what happens you can't be harmed psychologically, allows you to move with changes, complexity and uncertainty.
  • Your true 'essence' isn't your body, it isn't your cells, it isn't your name, it isn't your thoughts - it's the one who experiences the body, cells, name and thoughts.
  • We innocently believe that our feelings are letting us know about the outside world, our friends, our family, the future... when our experience of the world is actually thought-generated.
Direct download: Jamie_Smart_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:57pm EDT

this week's show is with John El-Mokadem and Karen DiMarco, RN, BSN, iRNPA. John's a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps them to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is. Karen is a healthcare visionary with more than 20 years of nursing experience who has been a catalyst for transforming the way we deliver and conceive of "health care" and personal wellbeing. Her work blends functional and integrative medicine - which targets root causes as opposed to treating symptoms of disease - with a strengths-based approach to wellbeing. 

In this show we explored John and Karen's recent work conducting a study around the effectiveness of using a fresh approach in treating chronic fatigue. We dived deep into how and why a deeper understanding of how the mind works can be effective in people recovering from chronic fatigue, leading to measurable improvements in health and wellbeing.

This is two part show, in this, part two, we focused on Karen's personal journey of overcoming chronic fatigue, their study and its results. This is such an interesting and inspiring show that it's one that's worth listen to whether you suffer from chronic fatigue or not.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • How we think about something has a huge effect on whether it impacts us negatively or positively. Just stress is only bad for us if we believe it is, much of the natural fluctuations of our body's cycles only become harmful when we think they are.
  • They talked about overcoming chronic fatigue using the metaphor of a leaky bucket. You can fill the bucket up with the right supplements, diets and lifestyle but unless you plug the holes in the bucket, you'll likely still suffer from chronic fatigue.
  • Karen talked about man as part of nature rather than apart from nature. Just like trees know when drop their leaves and animals know where to find their food, humans have the manual to their own happiness built in.
Direct download: John_and_Karen_part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:29am EDT

This week's show is with John El-Mokadem, a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps them to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is.

In this show we explored John's recent work conducting a study around the effectiveness of using a fresh approach in treating chronic fatigue. We dived deep into how and why a deeper understanding of how the mind works can be effective in people recovering from chronic fatigue, leading to measurable improvements in health and wellbeing.

This is two part show, in this, part one, we focused mainly on John's own experience of chronic fatigue and his incredible recovery, and then next week in part two we'll go deep into the study and its results.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • John's own story of going from life-limiting chronic fatigue to recovering from it completely in a short period of time shows what's possible for everyone.
  • Living in a cultural norm of experiencing chronic stress means that we tend to misunderstand its negative effects on our bodies.
  • The more we try to take control and manage our health, the more we experience stress rather than allowing our natural resilience and wellbeing to surface.
Direct download: John_Fatigue_Part_1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:28am EDT

This week's show is with Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding for Women. She's a passionate and deep-diving personal development facilitator. Her transformational work has impacted the lives of thousands of women across the globe.

Having taught in some of the largest organizations in Australia (Commonwealth Bank, Tourism Australia, UNSW, BHP Billiton, QBE and WNBN) she combines her common sense, down-to-earth approach with depth, wildness and raw power; which are the unique signatures of her ReWilding work. She facilitates at a depth where remarkable transformations, healings and openings in women's lives are a common occurrence.

Sabrina brings 10 years of teaching, facilitating, consulting and coaching experience into her work. She's studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.
 
In this show we spoke about Sabrina's understanding of conscious relationships, she gives an exclusive account of her own journey to having a relationship with a conscious man,  and there's also a special guest appearance of Medusa. ;)

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Women say they want a conscious man but Sabrina says that most women aren't ready for that man - they need to do the work required first.
  • Years of patriarchy mean that we've got some deeply held beliefs about men, their role and women's roles - this means that women are often held back from opening up to their full selves.
  • When women explore their deep primal essence and how it shows up (or doesn't) in their lives, they can clear out the 'rubble' that was blocking parts of themselves and instead allow all of themselves to be expressed.
Direct download: Sabrina_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:41am EDT

And this week's show is with Sarah Louisignau, an empowered sensuality & fertility coach. Sarah has over a decade experience helping women (and men!) reclaim healthy, happy sex lives, and discover deep wisdom, love, and trust through the process of decriminalising pleasure and sensuality. She’s had her own podcast, led workshops & retreats, coached individuals and groups, and created a complete program for women looking to reclaim sensuality & fertility.

Sarah's been around the block, searching for the best non-dogmatic methods and philosophies to empower women and men in their search for wellbeing.

In this show we explored why human health and wellbeing is all about fertility!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The cement blocks that get in the way of fertility: the taboos we have sensuality and sexuality
  • To feel more sensuality, sit in nature, feeling the environment on your skin: there's a thousand ways that the environment is interacting with you, such as feelings the hairs on your arm being moved by the breeze.
  • This conversation around fertility is also just as relevant for men and also anyone who isn't necessarily focused on having children. Fertility is ultimately about vibrancy and creative energy and is true for all of us at any age.
Direct download: Sarah_Louisignau_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:13pm EDT

this week's show is Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realized she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding. 

In this show, we explored what Kat calls the 'dark stuff' in our lives such as death, fear and suffering. We also got into what's 'soul' versus 'spirit' and the journey of our souls.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The difference between soul and spirit - spirit is all light and oneness whereas soul is our own individual snowflake of consciousness.
  • Why we have this 'dark stuff' in our lives - if there wasn't a sense of separation then there would be no motivation or curiosity to move forward and uncover the mystery of consciousness.
  • As we grow more in tune with our soul then we will be guided as to the lessons and experiences that are going to be most rewarding in this life.
Direct download: Kat_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:27pm EDT

This week's show is with John El-Mokadem, a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps his clients to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is.

In this show we explored creating from the unknown - both as a topic and literally on the show! We didn't plan what to talk about but we wound up talking about creativity, purpose, unconditional love and surrendering to what's happening!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we show just show up, open to the moment and how we can possibly help then all kinds of surprising and awesome stuff can happen!
  • We never know what's going to happen or how long things will take... but apparently we find ourselves doing what we're doing. We can ever only join the dots backward as Steve Jobs once said.
  • What about when we have got something on it? Maybe ask yourself... "Is there another way this could play out? Can I be open to life unfolding in another way?"

 

Direct download: John_El-Mokadem_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:32am EDT

This week's show is with Jason Goldberg, international Speaker, trainer, coach AND former rapper (he opened for the Wu-Tang Clan!Jason is very passionate about community involvement. He is the Vice Chair on the Board of Directors for the PACE Center for Girls, Director of the Central Florida (Tony Robbins) Thanksgiving Basket Brigade which delivers Thanksgiving meals to over 600 families every year and serves on the advisory board for several local colleges including the nationally-ranked (#1 in Florida; #22 nationwide) Crummer Graduate School Leadership Advisory Board. He also happens to be one of my all time favourite guests on the show.

In this show we had a ball exploring the link between creativity and play, and how you can use Jason's 3Cs to bring more creativity back into your life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Calmness: Looking at everything that’s going on for you right now, how can you slow down and allow yourself to settle down so you’re not so caught up in a spiral of thought where you’re taking it all so seriously? Calmness opens up the space for more consciousness...
  • Consciousness: What’s really going on in the situation? What else is it possible for you to be aware of? And the more conscious we are the more able we are to take the next step...
  • Courage: This could be the courageousness to say no to things that aren’t right for you, to speak your truth, to set boundaries… What would the most courage version of you do?

 

Direct download: Jason_Goldberg_Round2.1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:40pm EDT

This week's show is with Dave Booda, a writer, teacher and musician. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest, an annual festival in Southern California that celebrates connection, sexual self-expression and community. He writes weekly at Boodaism.com and his work has been featured on ABC, NBC, National Geographic, Elephant Journal, Good Men Project and Thought Catalog. He is the host of three podcasts, Dude Panel Radio, Darken the Page and Boodaism. 

In this show we spoke about one of Dave's real passions... intimacy. How can we be with each other deeply and experience this thing we all want?

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Playing the game 'What's between us?' allows us to see all of the stuff that's getting in the way of us feeling close to someone.
  • We often do things as a way to get intimacy but it's something that we can all have very naturally anyway.
  • Our beliefs about sex (both as a society and personally) are often the thing that most gets in the way of intimacy.
Direct download: Dave_Booda_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:27am EDT

This week's show is with Craig Polsfuss, MA, LP, MSW, LICSW (Emeritus), an Integral Psychologist with three decades of experience. Craig has advanced training and is a published national leader in both the Three Principles psycho-spiritual (non-religious) understanding and the Higher Brain Living neuroscience “New Human” program.

Craig is totally convinced that both will contribute to the healing and well being of millions, and to an eventual shift in global consciousness unlike anything seen previously in human history.

In this show, which is a follow-up to our last conversation about Why turning on your higher brain is the answer to happiness, we spoke about what Craig's understanding of history of the human mind - how our brain has evolved over time, why we have a higher brain, how our brains actually work, and what we can learn from some indigenous cultures still living on the planet today.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The lower brain has done a great job of helping us to survive and procreate, middle brain evolved for relationships and emotions, the cortex for thinking functions and then according to modern science, the prefrontal cortex (or the 'higher brain') evolved around 50,000 years and is what allows us to access our highest potential (as we spoke about in our last conversation).
  • Our brain has no life of its own without an 'enlivening energy' which brings it to life. The brain is like the servant to our ongoing experience and is being continually updated according to our experience.
  • Our potential gets expressed any way it can. For example, the way people throughout recorded history have had spontaneous 'enlightenment' experiences and how in the book Original Wisdom, the band of hunter foragers appeared very much as though they were living from their higher mind. It's cool to see how this is natural for all of us.
Direct download: Craig_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:00am EDT

This show is with Pam Grout is a world traveler, a loving mother, a best-selling author, a millionaire and an inspiring witness to everyone she meets.

Actually, only four of those are true so far, but that line is an affirmation she started using 20 years ago before she’d ever had a child, before she became a travel writer, or an author and, for that matter, before she even liked herself all that much. Evidently affirmations work, because now she can proudly say all but one of the above are true. I’ll let you guess which one is yet to manifest.

Pam's a prolific writer of articles and books - she has 15 published books so far (including the incredible e-squared and e-cubed, both of which I adored) and articles for dozens of publications.

In this show we spoke about how even those of us living in this crazy modern world can reclaim and retain our connection to primal energies, intuition, and pure presence.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Reconnecting to the 'divine buzz' (which is what Pam sometimes call the divine energy source) is a very easy, natural thing to do - understanding this and believing this is a powerful hypothesis to start with!
  • Test the hypothesis: try doing the first experiment. Give the divine buzz 48 hours to provide you with a sign. Pam says that the more open we are to this energy the bigger and more mind-blowing the sign can be!
  • If we're looking for a story that life is hard then we'll 'download' that reality and act it out. What Pam is talking is about is taking baby steps to opening us up to allowing first generation reality to wash over us.
  • Train your mind like house training a puppy! Keep taking it outside and showing it a different reality. Pam reads (and does the exercises every day!) of A Course in Miracles. Make seeing a new reality your priority! :)

 

Direct download: Pam_mixdown2.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:07pm EDT

This week's show is with Rene (Renay) Brent is Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, an #1 International Bestseller author of the book How Big Is Your BUT?, International speaker and on faculty for The Institute of Interpersonal Hypnotherapy. Rene has been an RN for over 25 years and has worked in ICU, Trauma/ER and Recovery Room

She helps her clients use the power of the deep inner mind to release blocks and reach personal and professional goals.

In this show we spoke about the impact that subconscious blocks (or: our 'buts') can have on us and what happens when we let go of them.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We almost all have subconscious blocks (which could also be described as stories, agreements or beliefs) that get in the way of us doing the things we want.
  • Start listening to what your mind and body are saying… and notice when you say 'but' - that's a clue to your block.
  • When you feel anxious, scared or whatever, listen to your body 'Touch the place you feel the emotion, breathe in, say relax and breathe out.'
  • As you begin to recognise your ‘but’, you can also notice that you have the capacity to open up to new solutions and ideas.
Direct download: Rene_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:05am EDT