The Primal Happiness Show

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent’s Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She’s passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what’s in their way of living from a place of wholeness.

In this conversation, we spoke about what's wrong with modern day parenting - where typically the focus is on short term results, rather than the long term implications. And what the alternative is... getting back to what nature intended, which not only feels easier and more enjoyable in the short term but also has long term positive impact.

This show is for you if the usual mainstream advice doesn't feel quite right - your instincts are telling you that's something off, or you've heard a lot about peaceful parenting but you don't know quite how to make it work, or maybe you're already feeling peaceful parenting is right for you but you're still feeling doubtful because you don't know anyone else who does it that way.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Instead of looking at latest fad or theories, look at what has worked for human animal over millennia. Though our lives have evolved, our bodies and needs haven’t. Connect with your instincts, trust your own inner voice and values.
     
  • Something that's worth remembering is: every behaviour is an attempt to meet a need. If you only focus on addressing behaviour, you’re doing nothing to address the underlying need, whereas if the need is met, the behaviour will naturally disappear.
     
  • Come up with mission statement or a set of core values for your family. This can be such a helpful guide for both your children and yourself - you're then all able to check in and ask yourselves whether the current behaviour will create what you most want, in both the short and long term.
     
  • Even when you've made the choice to parent peacefully, you'll probably still be surrounded by people who still think the mainstream way is the right way. It is so important to get support from like-minded parents, ideally from people farther along in parenting journey, who have been through your current stages, and can keep pointing you back to your own instincts.
Direct download: Eliane_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:16pm EDT

This week's show is with coach, speaker and trainer, Ankush Jain. Ankush is a 3 Principles based life coach and trainer, based in the UK with clients from New Zealand to Canada. He especially enjoys helping clients step into their own inner power and create the lives they had dreamed of. In 2012, whilst enjoying a successful corporate career, he started his coaching training. What this led to was an introduction to the 3 Principles and the start of an incredible journey of personal and business transformation including getting married in 2016.

Ankush is the founder of the Powerful Mens Group and has run sold out Powerful Men’s Immersions in the UK for 4 years. Since 2016 he has also run Powerful Women’s Immersions with great success. As well as this he coaches other 3 Principles coaches to do this incredibly important work whilst staying true to their heart and the spirit of the Principles. He was the host of the successful Relationship Series podcast and in 2018 start the new Business Series Podcast aimed at a corporate audience.

In this conversation, we explored what's really going on in the creation of a heart-centred business. Do you need to sell a bit of your soul to be successful? Or do you need to starve to do good works? Or is it possible to create a successful business in a way that flows from your heart and allows you to use your head in service of it. And spoiler alert... We absolutely see that it's possible to do just that and we share what makes that happen.

What you'll learn in this show:

  • If we're doing work which doesn't come from our heart and isn't having a positive impact on the world - it'll typically not feel good. And what's the point of that? What's the point of having money without a sense of fulfilment and happiness too? And that makes even less sense, when we see we have the choice to be successful and soulful. People and businesses who are heart-centred feel great about doing business and they're magnetic... people want to be around them and people want to give them their business.
  • The more we understand that our own wellbeing is a given, is taken care of, the more we can have fun creating all kinds of things in the world. That's true on the deepest level of understanding of who you really are and also on a practical level of taking care of your physical and emotional needs first.
  • The devil is often in the detail or put another way, how we do anything is how we do everything. If you take a look at the emails you send, the way you ask for money or your marketing - are you truly coming from your heart in all of those places? Can you customers really feel you in all of your interactions with them?
Direct download: Kush_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:12am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is a part 2 to the last conversation Adam and I talked about spectrums of being - another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. That show was a brilliant one so if you haven't already listened to it, I'd very much encourage you to do that straight away! I'm in the process of doing the exercise that Adam suggested as the end of that show and it's blown my mind how much I'm discovering about myself and how others experience me. I'd love to hear if you try that exercise and what you find out about yourself.
 
So in this show, we explored 'zones of excellence' which are the ways that we've created to enable us to operate in the world whilst we're not able to fully be and express our unique essence. This was another episode that was full of laughter and insight - I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed making it!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Adam described our zones of excellence as the strategies we've constructed to either hide or improve on our essence. We typically create our entire lives and especially our careers on our Zones of Excellence. We typically have a lot riding on our Zones of Excellence which makes it particularly challenging for us to identify and to grow out of them.
  • We create these Zones of Excellence usually based on events that we experienced as children when it was shown to us that our Zones of Genius or our unique essence weren't fully acceptable or desirable and therefore weren't safe to be.
  • We avoid the break-through because we don't want the break-down. We don't want to give up 7/10 in case we never get it or better again. But the capacity is there for all of us to discover and to be our true selves, to be 10/10.
Direct download: Adam_Quiney_Part_2.1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:15am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam Quiney is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is basically this is an hour of he and I geeking out! It's on the topic of what Adam calls spectrums of being. Another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. We explored what is it, why we struggle to know ourselves and then, you'll be pleased to know... how we can begin to discover who we are.
Direct download: Adam_Quiney_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:44pm EDT

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

In this conversation, a second part to the last show that Dr Snyder and I recorded together, we spoke about sex in long lasting relationships: what the obstacles are to having good sex in the long term, and how to overcome them to have ridiculously great sex.

Direct download: Dr_Stephen_Snyder_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:54am EDT

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