The Primal Happiness Show

This week's show is a very special one, it's a Lian & Jono Show in which we, Lian Brook-Tyler and Jonathan Wilkinson, go deep on a topic that's alive for us. Unless you’ve listened to Jonathan's previous episodes on this show or are part of one of our programs you’re might not be familiar with Jonathan - who’s actually the other half of Primal Happiness and he's the man behind the voice you just heard during the podcast intro at the beginning of the show. In this show, we explored Jonathan's recent experience of embarking on a vision quest. We explored what a vision quest is, why it's so beneficial to unplug ourselves from our conditioning and day to day habits, and power of the austerity and challenge.

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This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topic: Caveats, Assumptions & Labels: how we hide (and what we can do instead)

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Category:general -- posted at: 8:15am EDT

This week's show is with someone we're delighted to introduce you to... Craig Richardson. Craig joins many today who are engaged in asking the question, "What does it mean to be fully and authentically human?" As an advocate of the human rewilding movement he is interested in applying this question to all areas of life, including parenting, nutrition, education, lifestyle, and spirituality. He works both professionally and informally to help individuals to move towards authentic humanity and break free from the domestication model. He and his wife have unschooled their son since birth, and as a family they are interested in camping, hiking, natural family living, fire spinning, organic cooking, ancestral skills, and being as Earth-friendly as possible.

In this show we spoke talk about the power that comes from understanding and aligning ourselves with the cycles of the natural world. We explored different kinds of cycles, such as seasonal, lunar and solar, and how they parallel our lives in many ways, revealing truths about life stages, the huge benefits of having a deeper connection to those cycles, and how we can get started.

Direct download: Craig_R_Seasons_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:21pm EDT

This week's show is with Kenny Mammarella-D'Cruz. Kenny was called "The Man Whisperer" by Newsweek because, not only does he help men achieve their life, relationship and career goals, he also helps men to be more authentically and powerfully who they truly are.

As one of the UK’s leading men’s personal development consultants, Kenny runs workshops and sees individuals and couples for private consultations and has been running men’s groups in London for 14 years. Kenny was traumatised at the age of seven when his family had to flee certain death at the hands of the brutal dictator Idi Amin and were resettled as refugees in rural Wales via refugee camps. As a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome, Kenny developed several mental health issues, including obsessive-compulsive disorder, Tourette's syndrome, body dysmorphia and depression with intrusive and suicidal thoughts. Thankfully that’s all behind him now. When asked how he turned it all around, he’s fond of saying that he sat with the shadows that owned him, unlearned the untruths and turned that energy into the fuel to walk his path and live his purpose.

In this show we explored the power of men's circles, why they're so needed, what happens during these mysterious circles and how you can join or even create one yourself.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:20am EDT

This week's show is with Bryan Reeves, a former US Air Force Captain turned Author, Coach, Speaker, Bryan has triumphed through multiple dark nights of the soul after hurling himself into the transformational fires of intimate relationship over and over again. With massive insight gleaned through countless adventures, Bryan now coaches men, women and couples. He is a regular blog contributor to The Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, The Daily Love, Raw Attraction Magazine, Conscious Lifestyle Magazine, Sexy Conscious Awake and more. His book “The Sex, Flirting, Dating, Hunting and Hoping Diet” is available on Amazon.

In this show we explored the power of having clear, articulated boundaries in relationships, what gets in the way of us creating them and how we can empower ourselves to do so.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:15am EDT

This week's show is with Gillian Pothier, a LA-based writer and coach. Women work with Gillian to reclaim their instinctual knowing. She guides them to write and create from their deepest Feminine essence: their pussy. Gillian believes that women alive in their deepest truth and in the fullness of their erotic expression is the medicine that will save the world.

Gillian's actually one of my own mentors and coaches and I've been dying to get her on the show to share her with you!

In this show we explored power of learning how to tell the truth - which is something Gillian is particularly passionate about and also beautifully placed to guide others in. We talked about why telling the truth can be so challenging and scary, and how we can learn to go to and name the our hidden places, and the power that truth can have out  in the world.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:41am EDT

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions:

1. Dealing with conflict (thanks Jenny!)
2. How we create drama
3. Balancing being a mother and being yourself (thanks Hayley!) 
4. Raising children to love their bodies
5. Staying when you feel like you don't belong

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Category:general -- posted at: 12:54pm EDT

This week's show is Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding For Women, she has had a profound impact on thousands of women across the globe. She is one of the most provocative, raw and passionate personal development trainers in the world.

Known internationally for her unique workshops on spiritual growth, reclamation of the divine feminine and the awakening path that is unique to women, Sabrina has designed and developed remarkably effective transformational practices that address awakening in mind, body, and heart.

Sabrina brings 12 years of teaching, speaking, facilitating, and coaching experience to her work, having taught at some of the largest organizations in Australia. She has studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.

Sabrina currently hosts the popular weekly ReWilding For Women podcast and leads international audiences through ReWilding For Women workshops, retreats and online programs. Her audiences connect with her down-to-earth approach and often experience remarkable transformation, healings and shifts.

In this show we spoke about the role of myth and archetypes - how we can listen to them, how they can be an incredibly transformative healing power and how to be held through the journey with them.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:13am EDT

This week's show is with teacher, consultant and change management expert Patrick O’Neill, author of "The Only Certain Freedom: The Transformative Journey of the Entrepreneur," an unconventional and highly-acclaimed business book that draws its teachings from the wisdom of the Hero’s Journey, and what modern entrepreneurs can learn from the ancient myths of heroes like Hercules and Odysseus.

Patrick certainly has the expertise to back this up: he is a nationally renowned consultant and teacher, specializing in organizational dynamics and conflict resolution. His company, Extraordinary Conversations Inc, has clients across the world, advising corporations in North America, Europe, and Asia-Pacific; townships of South Africa; and even the peace process in the Middle East. His insights on leadership are regularly featured in national newspapers such as the Globe and Mail.

In this conversation, we spoke about how the ancient archetype of the Hero’s Journey can be used as a guide when navigating difficult or challenging career and life transitions, why reading mythology can be just as helpful and practical as traditional self-help or business books. Patrick also shared his own story: how he transitioned from an unfulfilled PR executive to an empowered business owner. It’s a truly an astonishing and inspiring story and one that beautifully illustrates Patrick's belief in the power of the hero's journey as a guide for life.

 

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This week's show is Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding For Women, she has had a profound impact on thousands of women across the globe. She is one of the most provocative, raw and passionate personal development trainers in the world.

Known internationally for her unique workshops on spiritual growth, reclamation of the divine feminine and the awakening path that is unique to women, Sabrina has designed and developed remarkably effective transformational practices that address awakening in mind, body, and heart.

Sabrina brings 12 years of teaching, speaking, facilitating, and coaching experience to her work, having taught at some of the largest organizations in Australia. She has studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.

Sabrina currently hosts the popular weekly ReWilding For Women podcast and leads international audiences through ReWilding For Women workshops, retreats and online programs. Her audiences connect with her down-to-earth approach and often experience remarkable transformation, healings and shifts.

In this show we spoke about how the modern's world's cult of productivity doesn't typically serve women and how we can instead open up to our soul's calling, the wisdom of the heart, womb and body and therefore benefit from greater levels of creativity.
Direct download: Sabrina_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:08pm EDT

This week's show is the first of a brand new monthly format! It's Lian's All The Everything where she'll jam on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about. In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions: The relationship of Primal Happiness teachings to the 3 Principles (thanks Karolina!) Why I have a coach (and probably always will) What I mean by Masculine/Feminine Female creativity (thanks Tali!) Feminine embodiment

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:35pm EDT

This week's show is with Robert Kandell. Robert is the host of the Tuff Love podcast, co-founder of OneTaste (orgasmic meditation) and the author of the new book Unhidden. He is a relationship expert, life coach and of course has his own personal breakup stories to tell. In this show we explored the state of the world today and what that means for our men. What the struggles are that are unique to men in these times, including the effect of free porn, the change in their roles, the masculinisation of women.. and what they can do to create positive change in their lives and relationships.

Direct download: Robert_Kandell_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:52am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music. During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development. His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. This was a very different episode to the usual, Ryan took me through an hypnotic induction into a state of deep relaxation, and it's also something that you can take part in whilst listening at home too. He then followed up with some tips and habits you can use afterwards to create more relaxation in every day life. IMPORTANT: This is an episode that's likely to guide you into a deeply relaxed state and therefore isn't one to listen to whilst driving or any situation which wouldn't safe if you're not fully alert. It's one that's best listened to when you have a spare 45 minutes to lie back and let yourself be carried away to the delightful land of deep relaxation. If you're ready, sit back and let's relax together.

Direct download: Ryan_Simbai_Part_3_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:22am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music. During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development. His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. In this conversation, Ryan kindly gave me the space to ask him all of the weird and wonderful questions that I've been pondering around hypnosis. We recorded this, knowing it might never make the show given it wasn't going to be of interest or helpful for everyone but then once we'd finished speaking, we both agreed that actually it was worth sharing with those of you who are more into diving deep into this stuff.

Direct download: Ryan_Simbai_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:08pm EDT

This week's show is with Isis Leeor. Isis is responsible for a movement of whole, ripe, and unapologetic women who are finally coming out of the closet. For 15 years, she has been passionately teaching people (women and men) how to connect both hearts, the one in their chest and the one in their pelvis.

Isis Leoor has been featured in a myriad newspapers and radio shows alongside people like Storm Large, Dan Savage, Deborah Anapol and Sark. She is a counselor with an extensive background in Body Psychotherapy, Tantra, Hypnotherapy. Basically she does some kick ass embodied work online and in person, through workshops, intensives and private sessions. She is currently working on her book entitled “Feral Female.”

In addition to a lot of official studies, Isis has also howled at the moon, been saved by Qi-gong, taken drugs with a therapist, smoked a peace pipe, flipped off a Shaman, learned and unlearned emotionally responsible language, danced with her shirt off in public, avoided marrying an Essene guru, and worn cocktail dresses all over the world while going commando.

In this conversation, Isis and I explored the glorious topic of becoming a feral female! Isis shared her own story of going from numb to feral and then we talked about the reasons this is an enquiry that's relevant to almost all women in today's world. I hope you feel Isis's living invitation in this show and are able to respond to it in how you live your own beautiful life.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:41am EDT

This week's show is the first of a brand new monthly format! It's Lian's All The Everything where she'll jam on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions:

My failure this week

Women’s circles

Asking for what you need (from Emma)

My explorations into hypnotism

What's your dream bio?

Are you For or Against

Being the lighthouse

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Category:general -- posted at: 7:49am EDT

This week's show is with Ryan Simbai Jenkins, who was born and raised in Papua New Guinea to a medical anthropologist mother and professional musician and photographer father. He's a U.S citizen but has lived in France, Bangladesh, Australia, The U.S.A, Cambodia, Thailand, The Netherlands and Spain He attended the Duke Ellington High School for the Arts in Washington D.C and later the Rotterdam Conservatory (CODARTS) in The Netherlands to study music.

During a particularly stressful period in his studies, he injured his hand while performing. After a long period of attempting to heal the injury through more conventional therapies, he learned self-hypnosis and almost instantly totally recovered his ability to play music! This led to an intense fascination and deep study and practice of meditation and self-hypnosis, NLP, coaching, different psychological modalities and diverse fields of personal development.

His love of this field comes from the profound personal transformations he has experienced in his own life and those of his clients. He currently runs a hypnotherapy/change work practice in Barcelona Spain where he has lived for the last 7 years and is explores the boundaries of performance, therapy and coaching with people from all walks of life. In this conversation, we spoke about the incredibly fascinating topic of 'innate wellbeing'.

It's something that's spoken about a lot in various spiritual and rewilding communities I've been part of and of course, is very much something that we're pointing to with our work at Primal Happiness. So Ryan and I dived deep into what 'innate wellbeing' really means, what's true about it, and what's not. This was such an interesting show - with so much food for thought!

Direct download: Ryan_Simbai_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Mark Matousek is the author of two acclaimed memoirs, Sex Death Enlightenment: A True Story (an international bestseller) and The Boy He Left Behind: A Man's Search For His Lost Father, as well as When You're Falling, Dive: Lessons in the Art of Living, and Ethical Wisdom: The Search for a Moral Life. A former editor at Interview Magazine, he is a featured blogger for PsychologyToday.com and the Huffington Post, and has contributed to numerous anthologies and publications, including The New Yorker, O: The Oprah Magazine (contributing editor), Harper’s Bazaar, Yoga Journal, Tricycle: The Buddhist Review, and The Saturday Evening Post.

A popular speaker and teacher, he offers courses in creativity and spiritual growth in the U.S., Canada, Australia, and Europe, based on his book, Writing To Awaken: A Journey of Truth, Transformation, and Self-Discovery. A founding member of V-Men (with Eve Ensler), an organization devoted to ending violence against women and girls, he lives and works East Hampton, New York.

His most recent book is Mother of the Unseen World: The Mystery of Mother Meera (Random House).

In this conversation, Mark and I explored the topic of writing for self enquiry. Mark teaches a method of using writing as a path for transformation, we delved into how and why it works and then Mark gave some practical suggestions to get you, the listener started. I found this an incredibly insightful episode and I've personally adopted Mark's method since recording the show. The changes I've noticed in that short times have been unbelievable - more awareness of my shadows and surprisingly to me, more freedom to write and share my truth publicly too.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below. What you'll learn from this episode:

Writing as self enquiry works because it gives us distance and perspective on our thoughts, just like any forms of self enquiry, it's just easier to see something when it's out of your mind and written down.

Don't write for an audience, don't worry about perfection, or grammar. Just write to the question, for yourself. Give yourself permission not to do anything with your answers that come up in the writing. The practice is about asking and answering the questions, not necessarily taking action.

Write every day, for around 15 mins and then review a day or two later. Don't edit unless it's to deepen on something. Ask the questions that matter most to you.

Here's a couple that Mark mentioned on the show: Take five minutes to write about a story you tell yourself on a regular basis that you know isn't true. Take five minutes to write about what you would do if you were free (whatever freedom means to you).

Direct download: Mark_Matousek_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:49am EDT

This week's show is with Darren Deojee, Darren is all about bringing Positive Masculinity your way. He is firmly rooted in the Oral Tradition and the Toltec Mysteries and their irreplaceable power to bring transformation, realisation and connection. With 10 years teaching, and over 20 years practical experience in Toltec Gender and the Art of Spelling and Sound, his approach has transformed the relationships, perspective and personal power of thousands over the years.

He calls his work Mental Healing to tackle a western pandemic he refers to as ‘mental disembodiment’ and return us to our indigenous nature of Integral Mind and embodied language.

Darren lives in Suffolk, England, is in a committed long term relationship, and has 4 children.

This week’s show is a part two to last week's episode with Darren, in this conversation, Darren and I explored his incredible understanding of Toltec wisdom on gender and gender relativity and why this is something that is applicable to those of us living in today's world. This isn’t a conversation that’s being had in the world right now, it is deep, deep stuff. It's not really the most easy of listens but it's unbelievably worthwhile one, it’s packed with gold.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:27am EDT

This week's show is with Darren Deojee, Darren is all about bringing Positive Masculinity your way. He is firmly rooted in the Oral Tradition and the Toltec Mysteries and their irreplaceable power to bring transformation, realisation and connection. With 10 years teaching, and over 20 years practical experience in Toltec Gender and the Art of Spelling and Sound, his approach has transformed the relationships, perspective and personal power of thousands over the years.

He calls his work Mental Healing to tackle a western pandemic he refers to as ‘mental disembodiment’ and return us to our indigenous nature of Integral Mind and embodied language.

Darren lives in Suffolk, England, is in a committed long term relationship, and has 4 children.

In this conversation, Darren and I explored what's going on for men living in today's modern world. There's a rise in addiction, suicide, escapism, and depression. Men have got to point of feeling shame about being a man, even judging of themselves for it.

Darren believes the answer is in healing of the connection to the gifts of the masculine. We dived into what he means by those gifts, why he sees them as the answer for not just men but our world as a whole, and how we can heal that connection.

Direct download: Darren_Deojee_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:46am EDT

This week's show is with Alison Armstrong, Alison’s exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men, “To find out how I was bringing out the worst in them. And hopefully, how to bring out the best.” Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two.

Armstrong distinguishes human instincts that compel both men and women to behave in ways that contradict and undermine our own purposes, goals, values, needs and relationships. She offers partnership-based alternatives giving millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families and productive organizations.

Armstrong is a sought-after speaker and thought-leader amongst people with the desire to live empowered lives. Alison’s philosophy and approach is frequently referenced and taught by other authors, speakers, business consultants and therapists.

In this conversation, Alison and I explored what inspired her work in studying men to understand them better. We spoke about how we can live in a way that honours our natural strengths and allows men and women to complement each other instead of being in conflict or competition with each other.  This show went far deeper than I expected! Alison talked about our evolutionary instincts, how simply asking better questions can change our perception, and our growth in consciousness. This truly was a corker of a show!

Direct download: Alison_Armstrong_mixdown.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is Eli Jaxon-Bear  is the author of An Outlaw Makes It Home. A life long search for freedom took Eli around the world and into many spiritual traditions from a Zen monastery in Japan to a Sufi circle in Marrakesh, among others. His search ended when he was drawn to India (1990) where he met his final teacher, Papaji; a direct disciple of the renowned Indian Sage Ramana Maharshi.

Confirming Eli’s realization, his teacher sent him back into the world to share his unique psychological insights into the nature of egoic suffering in support of self-realization.

Eli infuses his teaching with his teacher’s living transmission of silence and peace.  He presents a unique map of egoic identification as a vehicle for ruthless self-inquiry and final realization of true freedom. His life is dedicated to passing on the transmission of his teacher.

Eli founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization, as well as The Leela School

In this conversation, Eli shared the power of self enquiry - what it is, how it works and what it can help you to discover. As a bonus, Eli has an incredibly fascinating story himself which illustrates what he's talking about - we explore his time as a revolutionary, LSD and immortal consciousness... It was quite a trip!

Direct download: Eli_Jaxon-Bear_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:28am EDT

This week's show is with Kendra Cunov, Founder of Fierce Grace: Practices of Embodied Wholeness for Women, Kendra has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for the last fifteen years.

Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression.

She co-founded Authentic World, as well as The Embodied Relationship & Intimacy Training Salon, and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet.

Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & is currently on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world.

She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success - in business & in love.

So in this show, we spoke about what it means to experience life as a woman in today's world and what we need from our environment, from other women and from ourselves. Kendra and I we also aware of the fine line we were dancing between talking about men and women as one homogenous mass and talking "this is what it means to be a woman' as if women have to be a certain defined way. We spoke about feeling like 'the wrong kind of woman' - maybe not feminine enough, feminism, nature, intuition, competition, sex and more. Just like feminine energy, this conversation flowed everywhere!
 
Although this episode is about women, it's not just for women, if you're a man you will understand far more about women if you listen in too!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's a deep longing in women to be connected to nature. We are moved by cycles which are connected and reflected by the cycles in the natural world and we suffer when we don't find a connection to nature.
  • We don't need men anymore so it's a choice. If we choose to be together, what shall we create? We have the opportunity to create something extraordinary and beautiful.
  • What would be really radical would be to value the work that women typically do as much as we value the work that men typically do. It's about opening up choice.
  • We got sold this lie of a need to compete with other women but what's natural for us is for us to gather together to support, encourage and love each other. The magic that's created in those spaces isn't just powerful for us as women but can ripple out to the world around us. Something aligned to that is what Kendra talked about in terms of the response to adrenaline in women which is to gather! Love that!
  • When we base our culture around what's best for mothers and children, an entire eco-system is created from there which allows the entire community to thrive.
  • The practice that Kendra shared at the end - a regular practice of going in and listening to your body - your mind, your heart, your gut, your vagina. Be incredibly honest about what you hear AND give yourself permission not to follow its guidance too!
Direct download: Kendra_1.2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:14am EDT

This week's show is with Jørgen Rasmussen, who has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jørgen and I explored the illusion of the mind/body split and its implications for our health and wellbeing. We spoke about lots of examples such as how Jørgen's worked with people on their allergies, and the opportunities that can open up for people when they see that the mind-body split is fiction.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We collectively as a culture agree the mind and body are separate but there's no real basis for doing so and there's plenty of examples of things that don't fit that paradigm, which we then see as exceptions to the rule rather than seeing that they could be pointing to the fact that the split is an illusion.
  • An allergy is like a phobia of the immune system and given the mind/body connection, allergies can often be resolved by someone recognising the way the mind and body act together as one.
  • We collectively agree that certain symptoms are common and then that creates a spike in those symptoms. Even the way we create reality differs between cultures depending on the agreements we've made about how our bodies work.
Direct download: Joergen_3_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:11am EDT

This week's show is with Jaclyn Costello. Nothing is more satisfying to Jaclyn than helping people make breakthroughs to understand themselves more deeply. This is the heart of her role as a Spiritual Development Coach at GrowWithSoul.com. Jaclyn's background in spiritual guidance evolved over years of personal work, immersion in sacred, shamanic ceremonies, and one-on-one mentorships with respected teachers & guides. Jaclyn is also an Assistant Professor in the Honors College at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. As well, she is a writer of poetry, fiction, and non-fiction. Her work has been published in a variety of literary journals & magazines; she just finished her first novel.

In this show we’re talking about different forms of death and rebirth that we as humans can experience, and how and why we might choose to experience death, which is the opposite of what we typically think about death - that it's something we might choose! And lastly, Jaclyn shares her story of a big death that she went through recently and all the changes that have happened for her since.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Jaclyn described how almost all types of death are followed by a rebirth - that can be so hopeful and helpful to know as we travel through our own death experiences, which at the time can feel very final and therefore scary.
  • Typically the size of the death is equal to the size of the creation that follows. Understanding that means we can choose death knowing the rebirth to come will be worth it.
  • You can practice self-love in all kinds of ways, some of Jaclyn's suggestions include looking at yourself in the mirror or a photo and feeling love and appreciation for yourself. You can also meditate on the Buddhist poem that Jaclyn shared during the show.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:52pm EDT

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent’s Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She’s passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what’s in their way of living from a place of wholeness.

In this conversation, we spoke about what's wrong with modern day parenting - where typically the focus is on short term results, rather than the long term implications. And what the alternative is... getting back to what nature intended, which not only feels easier and more enjoyable in the short term but also has long term positive impact.

This show is for you if the usual mainstream advice doesn't feel quite right - your instincts are telling you that's something off, or you've heard a lot about peaceful parenting but you don't know quite how to make it work, or maybe you're already feeling peaceful parenting is right for you but you're still feeling doubtful because you don't know anyone else who does it that way.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Instead of looking at latest fad or theories, look at what has worked for human animal over millennia. Though our lives have evolved, our bodies and needs haven’t. Connect with your instincts, trust your own inner voice and values.
     
  • Something that's worth remembering is: every behaviour is an attempt to meet a need. If you only focus on addressing behaviour, you’re doing nothing to address the underlying need, whereas if the need is met, the behaviour will naturally disappear.
     
  • Come up with mission statement or a set of core values for your family. This can be such a helpful guide for both your children and yourself - you're then all able to check in and ask yourselves whether the current behaviour will create what you most want, in both the short and long term.
     
  • Even when you've made the choice to parent peacefully, you'll probably still be surrounded by people who still think the mainstream way is the right way. It is so important to get support from like-minded parents, ideally from people farther along in parenting journey, who have been through your current stages, and can keep pointing you back to your own instincts.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:16pm EDT

This week's show is with coach, speaker and trainer, Ankush Jain. Ankush is a 3 Principles based life coach and trainer, based in the UK with clients from New Zealand to Canada. He especially enjoys helping clients step into their own inner power and create the lives they had dreamed of. In 2012, whilst enjoying a successful corporate career, he started his coaching training. What this led to was an introduction to the 3 Principles and the start of an incredible journey of personal and business transformation including getting married in 2016.

Ankush is the founder of the Powerful Mens Group and has run sold out Powerful Men’s Immersions in the UK for 4 years. Since 2016 he has also run Powerful Women’s Immersions with great success. As well as this he coaches other 3 Principles coaches to do this incredibly important work whilst staying true to their heart and the spirit of the Principles. He was the host of the successful Relationship Series podcast and in 2018 start the new Business Series Podcast aimed at a corporate audience.

In this conversation, we explored what's really going on in the creation of a heart-centred business. Do you need to sell a bit of your soul to be successful? Or do you need to starve to do good works? Or is it possible to create a successful business in a way that flows from your heart and allows you to use your head in service of it. And spoiler alert... We absolutely see that it's possible to do just that and we share what makes that happen.

What you'll learn in this show:

  • If we're doing work which doesn't come from our heart and isn't having a positive impact on the world - it'll typically not feel good. And what's the point of that? What's the point of having money without a sense of fulfilment and happiness too? And that makes even less sense, when we see we have the choice to be successful and soulful. People and businesses who are heart-centred feel great about doing business and they're magnetic... people want to be around them and people want to give them their business.
  • The more we understand that our own wellbeing is a given, is taken care of, the more we can have fun creating all kinds of things in the world. That's true on the deepest level of understanding of who you really are and also on a practical level of taking care of your physical and emotional needs first.
  • The devil is often in the detail or put another way, how we do anything is how we do everything. If you take a look at the emails you send, the way you ask for money or your marketing - are you truly coming from your heart in all of those places? Can you customers really feel you in all of your interactions with them?
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:12am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is a part 2 to the last conversation Adam and I talked about spectrums of being - another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. That show was a brilliant one so if you haven't already listened to it, I'd very much encourage you to do that straight away! I'm in the process of doing the exercise that Adam suggested as the end of that show and it's blown my mind how much I'm discovering about myself and how others experience me. I'd love to hear if you try that exercise and what you find out about yourself.
 
So in this show, we explored 'zones of excellence' which are the ways that we've created to enable us to operate in the world whilst we're not able to fully be and express our unique essence. This was another episode that was full of laughter and insight - I hope you enjoy listening to it as much as I enjoyed making it!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Adam described our zones of excellence as the strategies we've constructed to either hide or improve on our essence. We typically create our entire lives and especially our careers on our Zones of Excellence. We typically have a lot riding on our Zones of Excellence which makes it particularly challenging for us to identify and to grow out of them.
  • We create these Zones of Excellence usually based on events that we experienced as children when it was shown to us that our Zones of Genius or our unique essence weren't fully acceptable or desirable and therefore weren't safe to be.
  • We avoid the break-through because we don't want the break-down. We don't want to give up 7/10 in case we never get it or better again. But the capacity is there for all of us to discover and to be our true selves, to be 10/10.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:15am EDT

This week's show is with Adam Quiney, Adam Quiney is an executive leadership coach specializing in working with the Smartest People in the Room. Adam's clients don't simply change; they transform their lives and the way they show up in world, creating massive impact in their relationships, companies, and families. They go from being natural born leaders that create followers, to transformational leaders that create leaders.

Adam brings the concision, skills and brilliance that he honed in his previous careers as a project manager and a lawyer. His clients include lawyers, doctors, executives, world-class designers, olympic athletes, financial professionals and CEOs across North America and Europe.

A couple of surprising facts about Adam: He trained with the founders of popping, locking, waving, tutting, and various other funk styles and he's played a card game called Magic the Gathering since it first started, and owns the most powerful card ever printed. It sells for around $4,000 when in mint condition. To Adam it’s priceless, because it’s his gold medal in the nerd olympics. Adam's a self-confessed straight up nerd and I think that's got a lot to do with why he and I get on so well.
 
This conversation is basically this is an hour of he and I geeking out! It's on the topic of what Adam calls spectrums of being. Another way to describe it is our essence, that unique beauty and power that is there within every one of us. We explored what is it, why we struggle to know ourselves and then, you'll be pleased to know... how we can begin to discover who we are.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:44pm EDT

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

In this conversation, a second part to the last show that Dr Snyder and I recorded together, we spoke about sex in long lasting relationships: what the obstacles are to having good sex in the long term, and how to overcome them to have ridiculously great sex.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:54am EDT

This week's show is with Dominic ScaffidiDominic’s purpose is to inspire greatness.  He is committed to people and organizations being extraordinary and producing extraordinary results. 

Dominic has coached executives and senior leaders in a variety of organizations as they take on challenges including new roles, goals, dealing with significant change/transition and new projects.  He helps leaders engage the full potential of their people to achieve unprecedented performance.  His approach is to engage with leaders through intentional conversations that cause them to generate new thinking, create new strategies and produce new actions in areas that are most important.

As President and founder at HR Possibilities Inc., Dominic’s focus is executive coaching, team coaching, and training managers to develop coaching skills. 

With over 25 years of business experience as an HR executive, sales manager, entrepreneur, and consultant; Dominic has worked with leading edge global organizations across a variety of industries including consumer packaged goods, pharmaceutical, software, telecommunications, financial services, retail, public sector and non-profit. 

In this show, we spoke about Dominic's incredible clear understanding and personal experiences of abundance. In fact, he goes further than that to describe it as overflowing abundance - in that we can never use up all there is. This isn't about thinking positively or simply wishing for a new Tesla or whatever, it's simply understanding the design of life and how we can align ourselves with it to experience all the abundance that life has to offer.

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Category:general -- posted at: 1:53pm EDT

This week's show is with Richard Abbot, a professional numerologist and teacher of all things spiritual, cosmic and mystical.

Combining mathematics and spirituality his unique approach has helped thousands of people find their core identity and purpose. He has written numerous books and magazine articles, appeared on TV and radio and at events in the UK and the USA.  He teaches and consults from his base in Northamptonshire, and is also a consultant and teacher at the College of Psychic Studies in London.

In this show we explored the whys and wherefores of numerology - basically answering the questions that might be on your mind: what is numerology and why should you even care? And then I was the guinea pig, Richard gave me a consultation on the show so you can hear how this stuff actually works. I've got to say it blew my tiny mind!

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:05pm EDT

This week's show is with Dave Booda, a writer, teacher and musician. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest, an annual festival in Southern California that celebrates connection, sexual self-expression and community. He writes weekly at Boodaism.com and his work has been featured on ABC, NBC, National Geographic, Elephant Journal, Good Men Project and Thought Catalog. He is the host of three podcasts, Dude Panel Radio, Darken the Page and Boodaism.

In this show we explored one of Dave's recent posts about how we rarely go after the medicine we need. When it comes to our personal growth we typically do what's comfortable and what we're already good at. If we can instead lean into discomfort and things that we're not so good at, that’s when real transformation can occur.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We tend to do the same things over and over when it comes to personal growth, this is amplified because we're often surrounded by people with similar beliefs and preferences. It can take some effort to go outside of our normal surroundings to look for the medicine we actually need!
  • Self-awareness can only get us so far if we're only listening to ourselves, real awareness and growth comes from being part of a community and listening to others about what they see in us.
  • We don't necessarily have to completely change how we approach our personal growth, sometimes it's powerful to just lean a bit in the opposite direction.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:14pm EDT

This week's show is with Jeremie Mercier. Jeremie is a natural health coach who helps his clients to find the nutrition, emotional hygiene and natural health practices that will bring them back to full health. An interesting factoid is that Jeremie is married to one of our previous guests, the amazing Flora Douville who we had on the show a month or so ago talking about her incredible approach to expressing your unique essence. What an amazing couple they are! In this conversation, Jeremie and I talked his research into the Blue Zones - the regions of the world with the highest concentration of centenarians - and what he's seen about the three most impactful things you can do to create a long healthy life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

The importance of eating a wide range of fresh, natural foods, especially plant foods such as legumes and grains. This can be challenging in this modern world where we typically don't have access to locally grown food but I thought the example of Loma Linda in California was a great one for showing that it's possible to still eat healthily when living in a city.

What's seen to be true in all of the Blue Zones is a lack of chronic stress. Stress is a natural feature of humans, it's only when it becomes chronic that it often creates health issues. As we often talk about on this show, when we're in our natural state, our primal state, we move in and out of stress when it's useful.

Movement (and the all important rest) are a common feature of all the Blue Zones. It's not typically intense, high impact exercise like going to the gym for a session of cardio, it's more lots of natural movements such as walking, stretching and crouching as they're going about their day.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:20am EDT

This week's show is with Dr Stephen Snyder, a sex and couples therapist, psychiatrist, and writer, and author of Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship. He is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai in New York City, and chairman of the Consumer Book Award Committee for the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR). He has treated patients at his practice for 25 years, is a guest on major media outlets nationwide, and writes for Psychology Today and Huffington Post. He lives with his wife and children in New York City.

In this conversation, we spoke about understanding how we got to where we are today where so many people are having bad sex, what good sex is, and how can we let ourselves have it. I suspect it's much easier than you might think.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Good sex is about feeling 'dumb and happy'. A similar way of experiencing the world to when we were babies who could just relax and enjoy sensations without feeling responsible for creating them.
  • As a culture we're not cool with men having pleasure. Women are seen attractive on based on being whereas men are seen as attractive based on what they're doing. Be relaxed about these expectations and have a sense of humour about them. Be open about what you would like and what would give you pleasure.
  • Finally, we're designed for around the year sexual attraction and sex. As Dr Snyder said "We're the sexiest species on the planet!" I think that understanding that about ourselves allows us to be lighter and more playful about something that we probably going to spend a lot of time thinking about and doing!
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work.
The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP’s clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work.

In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90’s, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves.

Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world’s billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being.

Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children’s library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures.

In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London.

In this conversation, a follow-up to the last episode with JP (about how to create your dream life via the energy of thought), we got stuck into how growing our awareness of our creative potential can actually produce tangible results out there in the world.

We explored all kinds of interesting stuff including creating abundance, whether we're spiritually bypassing by always going into creation of new stories or beliefs rather than exploring through the shadow, and the biggie of responsibility vs innocence!

This episode has stiff competition from last week's show, that was blooming awesome but this one might have just edged it.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Magic happens when we embrace the marriage between recognising the illusionary nature of life whilst using our ability to create amazing things in our lives - JP's story about Byron Katie and Steve Hardison exemplifies this perfectly! As JP quoted Steve "If you want peace: drop your story. If you want to produce: create your story."
  • The topic of money kicks up thinking in almost everyone - it's something that looks very real. That can make it a cool place to explore, as JP said "Go where the pain is". I particularly loved what he said about the relationship many of us have with debt vs being grateful that we can get the money to allow us to invest in ourselves as an asset.
  • Our state of being has a tangible and direct link to what is created in the world. From a grounded state of being everything flows towards us - people, experiences and money. I think we all kind of know this at some level but it's something we seem to forget and then think that success, connection and all kinds of good things comes from somewhere else. So I think it's a brilliant reminder that how we are in the world is what creates results in the world.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:43pm EDT

This week's show is with JP Morgan, JP guides creators in being more powerful in every area of their life and work.
The entrepreneurs and artists he coaches all share an aspiration for excellence and an obsession with mastery. Through regular loving and confronting dialogue, which compliments their daily practice of self-cultivation, JP’s clients discover how their mind creates their world and how through surrender they can gain greater control, more fulfilment and exponential results in their life and work.

In its essence, JP Morgan has been supporting entrepreneurs and artists around the world since the late 90’s, though this work became his profession in 2010. Since then, he has supported numerous individuals in growing their peace, joy and success in the world through growing themselves.

Beyond his the daily work with clients, he has been invited to share his ideas and spirit on numerous stages. (TEDx, Global Citizens Forum, BBC & SkyTV, YES Group, Interesting Talks London, InsideOut Movement, METal International, educational institutions, etc.) At a private event, attended by many of the world’s billionaires, JP was invited to speak on creating a world without borders. At the University of Cambridge, he was the subject of a covert study between the psychology and business departments where researchers sought to understand the impact of his state of being.

Previous to his current work with leaders, and post formal studies in Physics and Mathematics, JP founded a real estate business and then (from a backpack) founded a web media company serving local and global non-profits. He has lived nomadically while travelling the world for three years, coached human rights leaders, toured as a musician in bands, developed a children’s library in Cambodia, published travel writing and photography, competed as a black belt and triathlete, performed as a professional magician, studied with Buddhist monks and spiritual teachers, paraglided the Swiss Alps, cycled solo for thousands of miles and has gone on many other adventures.

In 2013, in the Riveria Maya, JP married a wise, loving and beautiful British-Indian woman. In March of 2016 they gave birth to their first child, a boy. Today his family calls Santa Monica, California home although they spend many months abroad each year, including extended visits for work, friends and family in London.

In this conversation, I took the opportunity to mine JP's wonderful mind for his take on creativity and living an incredible life. JP and I explored what it means to be a creator, the potential we all have to create the experience of life that we want whilst also recognising the paradox that it's all illusory and made-up.

I loved this episode so much that we suddenly realised that we were out of time and still had so much we wanted to get into so we then agreed to come back and do a part two.

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:54pm EDT

This week's show is with Eliane Sainte-Marie, the founder of Parenting for Wholeness, creator of the acclaimed Clean Parenting Program where she guides parents in experiencing the ease and harmony she promises is possible in families, author of the book Clean Parenting: the Peaceful Parent’s Essential Handbook, and mother to three wonderful adult daughters. She’s passionate about helping parents raise children who are whole, as well as helping them shed what’s in their way of living from a place of wholeness.

In this conversation, we spoke about one of the main reasons many parents who try gentle parenting struggle and why adding in the missing ingredient of leadership makes so much difference. It's actually quite magical! What I especially love about Eliane is that she grounds everything she talks about in what's natural for humans and also what's she's seen herself as a parent and as a parenting coach. She's wonderful! I know you're going to love her too!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Why is leadership in parenting so important? As Eliane says: imagine if you were moving somewhere with a completely different culture. Or even to a different planet. Picture yourself being there alone, not knowing the language and not knowing any of the local customs; not knowing what is considered rude or might upset people or possibly even make them want to harm you; not knowing how to operate any of their technology or how to operate in their society, organizations, businesses, etc. How would that feel?

    And now imagine that you have a local guide who is there to help you acclimate. Would you do whatever you want, or would you check with that trusted person to find out what's appropriate? Would that person be controlling you or helping you adapt to the culture?

    As far as that guide goes, would you prefer someone who is afraid to give you information, who is apologetic and who avoids giving you directions as much as possible? Or would you want someone who knows you well, knows what you already know and what you haven’t encountered yet, and matter-of-factly presents you with the information you need when you need it.

  • Find your tribe: Surround yourself with parents who are parenting this way, this stuff is so much easier when we're not doing it alone! And be very choosy about who you talk to parenting challenges with  - Eliane's suggestion of having a phrase to politely rebuff unwanted parenting advice is a great one!
  • Understand your non-negotiables, personal non-negotiables and preferences and give your children clear and benevolent leadership around them accordingly, I love Eliane's example of crossing the road - almost all of us will know that feeling of guiding children to cross the road safely - it's that same feeling that informs clear, benevolent leadership elsewhere.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:06pm EDT

This week's show is with Arthur Haines, who describes himself as a forager, ancestral skills mentor, author, public speaker and botanical researcher... but that's just because he's so humble! In reality, he's an oracle of deep knowledge and understanding of the natural world. He's been helping people explore human ecology for over 20 years, with the mission of developing deep awareness of and connection to nature, promoting individual health, and fostering self-reliance. If understanding botany was a super-power (and it probably is), Arthur is a true super hero!

He grew up in the western mountains of Maine, a rural area that was home to swift streams known for their trout fishing. He spent most of his childhood in the Sandy River Valley hiking, tracking, and foraging.

Arthur now runs the Delta Institute of Natural History in Canton, Maine, where he teaches human ecology, focusing on the values of foraging, wildcrafting medicine, and primitive living skills.  He continues to spend a great deal of his free time practicing his skills as a modern hunter-gatherer.  As a research botanist for the New England Wildflower Society, he recently completed a comprehensive flora of the New England region entitled “Flora Novae Angliae” and has authored over twenty publications in peer-reviewed journals and books, including naming species of plants new to science.  His series of YouTube videos has inspired thousands of people interested in foraging wild edible and medicinal plants.

In this conversation, we spoke about the importance of community - another of Arthur's passions and areas of deep knowledge... Arthur explains what he means when he talks about 'community' (and it might be a little different to your definition), why being part of a community is in accordance with our evolutionary expectations, and how these days most of us lack community (as Arthur said in this show 'Almost everything about the current structure of society stands in stark contradiction to how we lived as people prior to the agricultural revolution.'), and what the issues with that are.

We ended on a positive note with Arthur's practical suggestions of how we can all create community in today’s modern world.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Human's real need for community sits alongside other aspects that we understand are critical to human health that have been formed by our evolutionary history, such as food and movement. The issues of going it alone include conditions that are considered the norm in modern culture such as anxiety, depression, shame, struggles and stresses.
  • Arthur defines community as 'place and commons'. In indigenous communities, everyone held the land in common, they all have common landscape that they get to feed themselves from, heal themselves from, and get to connect to that place that they share with all of the members of their community.
  • True communities are bound by a cohesion created by a common needs and is exemplified by real equality and wealth distribution, such as indirect reciprocal gift economy. Everyone is in it together and no-one gets to step outside the stresses that the community is experiencing.
  • We are typically held back from creating real community because of our attachment to convenience and comfort - we are used to privacy and doing what we want when we want. We can take baby steps in this direction by keep our communities small enough so we can know every member deeply, have a connection to our common place, and no hierarchy: everyone is equal, no matter their age or ability.
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Category:general -- posted at: 1:12pm EDT

This week's show is with Kerri Hummingbird. Kerri is a Soul Guide, Best-Selling Author, and Host of Soul Nectar Show where she interviews luminaries and spiritual thought leaders about essence and purpose. Kerri's has a powerful story of total transformation from a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder and Manic Depression into being a renowned empathic intuitive healer and spiritual mentor.

Kerri believes that many empathic and clairvoyant people are being told there's something wrong with them, and are being given a pill for life, when all they need are some new skills in energy management, emotional transmutation, and awareness.

In this conversation we spoke about her traumatic and also beautiful story, her work with earth spirituality through healing through natural elements, and she shares ways you can personally use her practical approach to bring about healing in yourself.

This is yet again a great example of something that would come very naturally to us if we were living in more natural ways, and is a wonderful baby step back in the direction of reclaiming your primal power.

Oh and there's a bonus in this episode... Kerri's incredible singing!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we store trauma as a child (especially between the ages of 0-5), it isn't something that can usually be healed with words, especially if the trauma happened when we were pre-verbal. That's why it's so powerful to allow energy to be moved in other ways.
  • Instead of focusing on your sight and thoughts, focus on your experience, the sounds, the smells, the textures, your feelings. Reconnect to the consciousness of the earth, water, the four directions, the stars and the sky. Allow yourself to open up to feeling and knowing something new.
  • Create an earth painting by making a sacred space, finding objects to represent the parts of your life you'd like to change, breathe your feelings into the objects, and then be a witness to it. And when you're ready start moving the objects around and see what feels right. You can even burn or bury the objects if you like! I know this can seem like a really out there or woo thing to do but logically it makes sense to me that using tangible objects as metaphors to see your life from a new perspective could be powerfully transformative.

 

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Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:39pm EDT

This week's show is with Flora Douville, an anti-image consultant. Flora is a hybrid of an intuitive and a mystic, plus a personal coach and a professional consultant. She is an expert in teaching you to feel the different layers of your personality — who you are and how you show up in the world. She can help you put more of YOU in your life, business and relationships. She will also ​match your energy to the right clothing to have your life and wardrobe fully aligned on who you are at your core — so that you feel invincible in your everyday life, all by being you.

​She has been refining her process with her clients for over 10 years and has trained 50+ ​professionals who now use her method with their own clients. She lives between France, the US and Costa Rica, where she works with leaders, coaches and artists who are making a difference in the world.

In this episode we spoke about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world, and how that shows up in clothing, the colours, textures and shapes that work for you and represents who you are.
 
For those of us who have come from a spiritual path such as the 3Ps, it can seem irrelevant or shallow to focus on our personality, let alone our clothes but the more I've contemplated this stuff, the more I've seen that we live the richest lives when we accept and unleash our unique gifts and traits. Yes, it's all one, and yes, that oneness shows up in all kinds of weird and wonderful ways!
 
I adored recording this, so much so that you can probably hear the excitement in my voice throughout the show!
 

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Flora is all about getting to know yourself deeply, separate what comes naturally from what you've learned to be accepted into the world so you can show up as who you truly are, free of conditions and expectations.
  • When you put an item of clothing on, instead of looking in the mirror, close your eyes and see how something feels. Does the weight feel right? Does the fabric feel good against your skin? Flora has gifted us with a list of specific questions that you can ask yourself to really understand whether something's right for you (see below for the link to download Flora's questions).
  • We're made up of three layers: Physical: colours, Emotional: textures, Mental: shapes. The elements are fire, water, earth and air and we can be a combination of all different elements or can have repeating elements. Even without knowing Flora's method in depth, I think most of us can connect to an intuitive sense of the elements and develop a practice of listening to your body and contemplating what we pick up, from there we can begin to understand our uniqueness more deeply.
Direct download: Flora_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:23pm EDT

This week is the first of its breed! It's the first Lian & Jono show in which we, Lian Brook-Tyler and Jonathan Wilkinson, go deep on a topic that we're seeing is coming up with our one-to-one clients. 

On this week's show, we’re talking about the super power vision. What we see comes up over and over in coaching sessions is the importance of having a vision, what happens when we don’t have one, and also why it’s vital to include all parts of life in your vision.

So many people don’t have a vision, And sometimes that just an oversight but we also know some people actually believe that it’s somehow a bad thing - or unspiritual even :)  to have one. So we’ll dig right into what’s going on there.  

When we have a vision it really acts as a powerful guiding light so you can be more present, open and adaptable to whatever’s showing up in the moment. 

We’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Firstly, what a vision is: It isn’t: Goals or solely achievements or a list of material items and it is: An holistic and aligned sense of how you’d like to be showing up in the world.  
  • Whether you’re aware of having a vision, you have one! You’ve either have a vision that you’ve consciously created or you’re living out the one you’ve been given by the culture you’re in. Why it’s natural to have a vision - Purpose/reason for being, for the good of our tribe, for the good of the generations to come, to honour our ancestors way, etc. So why not create vision that actually works for you?!
  • Get it out there by writing it down, drawing it or creating a vision board
  • And lastly, give yourself permission!
Direct download: LJ_Show_Vision_mixdown.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 1:37pm EDT

This week's show is with Phil Goddard, an internationally renowned coach, author, speaker, leadership trainer, and lover of life and humanity. He is a published author and the host of The Coaching Life Podcast. His work centres around transforming relationships through a deeper understanding of love and the nature of how our experience of life is created. With humour and sincerity, he combines over twenty-one years in I.T. and Telecoms corporate leadership with twelve years as a professional coach, to help organisations build harmonious teams utilising the most potent force in leadership - love.

He also works with individuals to help them develop a deeply grounded understanding of the principles behind our human experience and live wonderfully productive, happy lives, connected to love, ease and compassion for humanity. He has coached Hollywood actors, international models, journalists, artists, authors, film directors, corporate executives, and numerous business owners, leaders and entrepreneurs.

In this week's show, Phil and I explored whether it's possible to harbour resentment in one part of your life and be truly, deeply happy in another. This topic was inspired by a post that Phil wrote in which he said 'True happiness is the heart that holds no resentment, the crystal clear untainted by drops of red.' we explored this through our own personal experiences and insights. It was actually pretty revealing for me personally!

I always love talking to Phil - he has such honesty, humour and depth and as ever, he didn't disappoint - this is a delightful episode!

What you'll learn from this episode:

Resentment often comes with a potency and a proactivity which means it takes up our time and energy to engage with it, when our thoughts are filled with resentment they can't also be filled with joy.

Whilst it's pretty normal to feel resentment for someone doing someone negative to us is that part of our deeper nature to feel that way or is it simply our conditioning? As Phil said 'normal isn't always natural'. If we were living in a more primal way, it may well be that a lack of resentment is what we would consider normal!

As we understand why people are behaving the way they are - that they're doing the best according to their thoughts in the moment - it makes little sense to feel resentment, instead a natural outcome is that we feel compassion. The wonderful thing is is that we all have the capacity for this to happen: to lose resentment, and to gain love and happiness.

Direct download: Phil_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week's show is with Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova, founder of Birth Into Being, an international collective; dedicated to conscious evolution. Working with the healing modality of Limbic Imprint ReCoding, utilising concepts of epigenetics and neuroplasticity to effect lasting change in the inner worlds of our consciously evolving community.

Since 1982 Elena has been inspiring people all over the world to bring Consciousness into making and raising children. She was one of the organizers of the birth camps at the Black Sea in Russia, where women gave birth in shallow lagoons, in the presence of wild dolphins.

Elena is the creator of the revolutionary documentary 'Birth As We Know It’ (2006; full DVD is 3,5 hr, incl. all bonus features). She is a Spiritual Midwife to thousands of people, perfecting her “Birth Into Being” Method, training other facilitators, who are now using her Method in 28 countries in all major languages. Elena is featured in the recently released UN sponsored book, “Force Such As the World Had Never Known - Women Creating Change,” as one of the 30 most influential grassroots women in the world.  She recently received the 'Legendary Leader' Award, and was a featured keynote speaker at countless conferences.

In this week's show, we explored how adults can suffer from trauma sustained during birth or early childhood and how Elena's 'Birth into being method’ helps people to heal.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There is a heritage of trauma, passed down through the generations via conception, pregnancy, birth and early years. If we want to give our future generations the best chance of a beautiful life, we need to shift the focus earlier and earlier - even pre-conception in terms of choosing the right partner, someone who is conscious and aware of their connection to the source they come from.
  • The Birth into Being method is based on 40 different methods or ceremonies, specific movements and breathing which activate our cortex, limbic and reptilian brain together. It takes the nervous system and sorts everything out in a slightly different way.
  • When we've healed our birth trauma we are open to be who we truly are to flow over with love, sexuality and creativity.
Direct download: Elena_Tonetti-Vladimirova_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:49pm EDT

This week's show is with Nicky Bartley, she is an International Coach and Trainer who has a passion for working with women.  She has done work with corporates, prisons, small charitable organisations and panic attack sufferers.  

In this week's show, Nicky shares her incredible story of going from being £150k in debt and about to be made homeless to working as a successful coach, loving life and being free of her overthinking about money.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Nicky's story of the two different times she was homeless (or about to be) show how our thoughts about something are creating our experience of it. The first time was one of the most fun times of her life whereas the second was filled with fear and shame.
  • When we stop overthinking money and the risks of not having it, we can be open to life and to connection with other people. Nicky's stories of enrolling clients in circumstances when money and enrolling clients were the last thing on her mind are great examples of that!
  • I loved Nicky's summary at the end: "Money flows when I flow"
Direct download: Nicky_Bartley_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

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