The Primal Happiness Show

This week's show is with Katherine Bird, a transformational leader, healer, Shamanic channel, and guide here to help facilitate the shift in human consciousness and the raising of the vibratory frequency.  She supports people through the processes of healing themselves and bringing their magic to the world.  Utilizing energy work, channeling, hands on healing, practice cultivation and deep coaching she shepherds people through their awakening and the journey to become the healers, coaches and guides they were designed to be. She helps people to open their channel and bring through wisdom, healing and guidance while remaining stable and grounded.

She supports high-performing coaches, healers and leaders to manage their energy, boundaries and demands on them personally and physically, in order to sustain and scale their impact in the world.

In this week's show, we explored the gift of sensitivity - what it is and why we humans have it and then how we can honour and grow this gift. This episode isn't just for people who know they're a healers, psychic or empath - I really think it's for all of us.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • High sensitivity can show up as anxiety, depression, strong emotions and an aversion to some experiences and people. It's so poorly understood in today's world that we often medicate ourselves in various ways into deadening our sensitivity.
  • 25% of the population is highly sensitive though it might well be more like 100% of us in a more natural lifeway where it hasn't been conditioned out of us! We would have needed these sensitivities to hunt, to find plants, to heal and to understand the world we were deeply connected to.
  • Channeling can look like all kinds of things - art, music, or healing - and it's usually unique in how it shows up, so it won't look like other examples you've seen. We're all special snowflakes :) In order to honour your sensitivities: ask for help and guidance, follow the breadcrumbs, and play!
Direct download: Kat_Bird_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:52am EDT

This week's show is with Ed Anthony and Charlie Turner, founders of Mental Wellbeing in Schools. This organisation is dedicated to delivering workshops and coaching sessions to students, parents, staff and teachers around how to access wellbeing via what Ed and Charlie describe as an 'Inside-Out understanding'.

In this week's show, we explore why there is such a high occurrence of mental health problems in children of school age now. Eating disorders, self harm, anxiety, depression, lack of self confidence, and suicidal thoughts have become commonplace, even in children as young as 10 years old. And we then talked about what Ed and Charlie are seeing is at least part of the solution to this problem.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The level of pressure on children these days is immense - Ed and Charlie see that this is due to pressures from the school which is exacerbated by the lack of true connection with their families and spending huge amounts of time on social media. Their minds are so busy and filled with negative thinking.
  • Children today are in a system that's inherently designed to create pressure for them to be different to their natural tendencies, they have so little time and freedom to play, to try things out, to make mistakes, make their own decisions, and to be in nature.  Teachers are under similar levels of pressure and aren't shown how to have wellbeing themselves, let alone do the things that would allow their students to be happy and well.
  • Ed and Charlie's work is based on the premise that everybody has innate mental health (they just don't know it yet) and they don't understand how their ability to think affects them. When children feel that Ed and Charlie see them as whole and well, instead of seeing them as their diagnosis or as damaged, it allows them to begin to open up to feeling that way about themselves - from there incredible changes happen.
  • Ultimately, the hope for the future is that we can create a culture that's built on a foundation of understanding how children really learn - through their natural curiosity.  Wouldn’t that be a cool thing?


Direct download: Ed_Anthony__Charlie_Turner_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:46pm EDT

This week's show is with Zakiya Gayle, The Confident Woman's Secret Weapon. Her mantra of "every woman deserves to feel like a goddess" has led her to bring over 300 powerful women's inner Fire back to life on the beaches of Tobago, Barbados, and St. Lucia.

Zakiya understands intimately the power of connection and mystique. Using her signature Z Method, Zakiya helps a select group of women per year discover the secrets of true connection and learn how to use it to improve their business, relationships, and life.

In this week's show, Zakiya takes us on a rip-roaring journey exploring how women can exude feminine power without a sprinkle of makeup or showing an inch of skin. We spoke about how that relates to women living in a more ‘natural’ state, rather than how we been conditioned to live in today’s crazy modern world. Zakiya is a total force of nature and this show was quite an experience, let's just say if you're of sensitive disposition, grab your smelling salts and brace yourself for a journey through masturbation, self-love, your true self and more!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Most women today have been conditioned to cover up metaphorically and literally, to live small and to hide their feminine power - the pandemic of invisibility as Zakiya describes it. Zakiya talks about recognising that all women have the potential for creating life. When we recognise and embrace that creative, euphoric energy, we grow used to living that way and it feels like home.
  • Get in touch with your body, give yourself pleasure and get to know your energy and your true self. Discover where you've hidden your soul. When you know the true beauty of yourself and your body then no-one can tell you anything negative about you or your body that has any impact. Conversely when you feel love for yourself then you don't need it from others but instead you can be open to enjoy and play with it.
  • I loved how Zakiya talked about looking in the mirror and feeling love and appreciation for yourself - ask yourself "What's my favourite part of myself?" That's something that I've been trying recently and initially it was surprisingly alien but has already become more natural.
  • Lastly, I could really feel what Zakiya talked about women's communities and connection and how much we lack that in today's modern world. That role of the community has been removed as if we can somehow continue function well without it. Let's see how we can start to grow together, support each other, talk to each other's souls... and let's see the awesomeness that we can create together then!
Direct download: Zakiyak_mixdown.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Jorgen Rasmussen, who has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jorgen and I explored the possibilities for humans that things like hypnosis, the placebo effect, and multiple personality disorders (in some ways a form of self-hypnosis) show us - I find it super intriguing how much power the human mind has over the reality that’s created. Does it only have that power when we truly believe the thought? How does hypnosis even work? And what does that tell us about the human mind consciousness more broadly?

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The capacity for hypnosis relies on absorption (the ability to be completely absorbed in an experience - for example a movie), disassociation (feeling separate from the experience, for example an artist saying that their hand painted the painting, it didn't seem to be them making it happen), suggestibility (the ability to make an experience feel completely real). Most of us will have these qualities in varying degrees and around 5-10% of people are highly hypnotisable.
  • Most of us engage in rather a lot of self-deception. Our mind creates a belief and then we try to rationalise why we have that belief, which only confirms and solidifies it further, when actually we don't usually form beliefs through logic and reason.
  • When we believe something it can completely change our experience, even to the extent of our physical processes. This can be particularly powerful when its a belief that's been implanted by an expert, such as when it comes to a diagnosis or a prognosis made by a doctor to a patient. It's wonderful that the reverse can also happen like the example that Jorgen gave of his client who marched out of his office but then returned weeks later free from depression!
Direct download: Joergen_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:27pm EDT

This week's show is with Jess P. Shatkin, M.D. An acclaimed adolescent psychiatrist and educator, Shatkin has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, and on Good Morning America.

Jess is one of the country's foremost voices in child and adolescent mental health. He serves as Vice Chair for Education at the Child Study Center and Professor of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry and Pediatrics at New York University School of Medicine. He has been featured in top print, radio, TV, and Internet outlets, including the New York Times, Good Morning America, Parade, New York Magazine, Health Day, CBS Evening News, New York Daily News, Wall Street Journal, and the Los Angeles Times. In addition, for the past eight years Dr. Shatkin has been the host of "About Our Kids," a two-hour call-in radio show broadcast live on SiriusXM's Doctor Radio. He lives in New York City with his wife and two teenage children.

Jess brings more than two decades' worth of research and clinical experience to the subject, along with cutting-edge findings from brain science, evolutionary psychology, game theory, and other disciplines - plus a widely curious mind and the perspective of a concerned dad himself.

In this week's show, we explore how even though adolescence is a risk-taking time, it is also a time of incredible potential. As any parent of a tween, teen or 20-something knows, adolescents take risks. In fact, those aged 12-26 are hard-wired to take risks, but how do you not just handle but even harness these natural impulses? 

Jess also gives practical examples of what parents and teachers can do to honour adolescents journey of risk-taking - in everyday interactions, teachable moments, and specially chosen activities and outings - to work with teens' need for risk, rewards and social acceptance, not against it.

So if you've got an adolescent in your life, this show will allow you to navigate the tricky waters ahead in a much calmer, safer and more rewarding way for all concerned! And if you haven't, this is still an awesome show for understanding more about our evolutionary heritage and how it shapes our behaviour in weird and wonderful ways!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Our drive to take risks as a young person is an entirely natural and beneficial aspect of humans, which has developed to take both personal growth, our community and the human species forward. Seen from that perspective it makes a whole lot less sense to demonise young people's behaviour and a whole lot more sense to harness it.
  • It's a huge step forward simply to understand why your adolescent is behaving the way they are. That allows you to be more supportive and understanding of them. Supportive families benefit the brain: Studies show teens raised by parents with low levels of conflict in their homes have less demanding brain reward centers; these teens will engage in less risk-taking behaviour because their interpersonal relationships are rewarding. 
  • Young people assess risks and make choices differently to older people. Teens know that they’re not invincible. In fact, studies have shown that, when teens engage in risky behaviour, they often overestimate their chances of being harmed by that behaviour. Understanding that means we as parents can help our adolescents to connect them to the real emotional impact of their choices as well as support them to make good decisions.
  • There's a value and benefit of all ages in human life, being aware of that and honouring and harnessing it allows all of us to be better understood, to feel more connected and more useful as part of our community.
Direct download: Shatkin_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:58pm EDT

This week's show is with Jules A. Lalonde. A super-smart guy who we had to get on to share him with you.

By day, he's a financial wizard, and by night, he's a super-hero of science and philosopher. He has an MBA in Behavioral Finance, a degree in biochemistry and has completed graduate research in Non-linear dynamics (ie chaos theory). Are you getting a sense of what I meant by 'super-smart' yet?

Jules has studied many subjects and his curiosity and interest continues to be drawn to many topics including cognitive biases, fundamental neuroscience, the science of emotion, unconscious communication, social behaviour and the nature of human consciousness. Jules is currently working on course on Science and Critical Thinking for change workers entitled “Keep Science in Mind” which'll be available in the new year.

In this week's show, we explored current neuroscience and evolutionary biology, in particular the aspect of our primary affective (feeling) networks in the lower brain that govern much of our subjective experience (what Jules likes to call our personal holodeck).

In simple terms, we talked about how our minds have evolved to work and why. In fact, in many ways our modern minds aren't too different to the average cave man's - what is radically different is the environments we each inhabit. Understanding this allows us to set up our modern lives in a way that makes them a lot more enjoyable.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Jules talks about our personal 'holodeck' which is our internal system which allows us to create and interact with our subjective experience. Our personal holodeck is created through usage, especially when we're young so it is vitally important that we're able to use and develop our senses through interaction and play.
  • The seeking part of our mind drives so much of our feelings and behaviour. That means that the treasure IS the search!
  • Humans have a tilt towards negativity - it's a trait that's been selected for because it's what keeps us alive. Many of us in this modern world are being bombarded with triggers which create a lot of negative thoughts and feelings - most of that fear is not useful and makes our experience of life pretty crappy. However, when we're in a more 'primal state' it is worth recognising fear can contain message that can be worth taking notice of and adjusting course as a result.
Direct download: Jules_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:01pm EDT

This week's show is with Robert Kandell. Robert is the host of the Tuff Love podcast and co-founder of OneTaste (orgasmic meditation). He is a relationship expert, life coach and of course has his own personal breakup stories to tell.

In this show we explored what's going on in relationships and between men and women in this crazy modern world, as Robert said and men are acting more like boys. Women are acting more like men. So we talked about that, what's caused it and what we can do about it!

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We all have a masculine/feminine ratio - a man can have some feminine and a woman can have masculinity. This is absolutely natural and fine and the ratio often changes during our life.
  • In this modern world, men are acting more like boys - The whole Peter Pan thing of being part of an urban tribe and having fun. Women are acting more like men - being the strong one and being the provider. This behaviour is in contrast to what Robert believes that a powerful underlying drive for the masculine is to get approval whereas the feminine wants to feel beautiful.
  • If you're not happy with how your masculinity or femininity is showing up in your life and relationship then the first step is just to be honest with yourself: take an inventory - job, relationship, and purpose. Then take responsibility for what you've co-created.
  • Get into the habit of success. We're surrounded with potential connections in the world - go look! Build allies around creating the changes you want.
Direct download: Robert_Kandel_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:04pm EDT

This week's show is with Sean Merrick. As a Holistic and Functional Medicine Expert, with over 18 years of clinical & allied health experience, Sean utilises a unique approach to optimal health. He uncovers root causes of ailments in an exceptional way. He uses contemporary, 21st Century lab investigations to uncover insults hidden in the body. Also, he uniquely believes that there is a deeper correlation between stored emotions and illnesses. With lab results and a distinctive wisdom, Sean’s clients are able to detach from damaging stories and move towards optimal health. Sean not only coaches clients but he is counsel to many holistic practitioners worldwide.

In this week's show, we spoke about how and why our stored childhood experiences and stories affect us in struggles such as chronic pain and illnesses in the present - and what we can do to heal.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Our experience as adults is largely determined by our childhood selves - how we perceive and respond to the world is created by the imprinting of our 7 year old selves. Two people could experience the same event and their perception and response to it is largely determined by how they experienced the world as children.
  • Our disconnected, noisy society only hampers our healthy response to trauma further, if we could return into a connected and loving community after trauma we'd be affected by it in much less negative ways.
  • As Hippocrates said "All disease begins in the gut.” Our gut is the root to so much of our experience, emotions and how we respond to the world. Make the time to spend time with yourself and get to know yourself. Listen to your instincts, listen to your gut!
Direct download: Sean_Merrick_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:31pm EDT

This week's show is with Jorgen Rasmussen has seen clients professionally as an agent of change for twenty years, the first eight spent running an "Impossibles practice" with a 'no change, no pay' policy.

Having deeply explored NLP, hypnosis, non-duality teachings, developmental psychology and meditation, he is the Author of the books Provocative Hypnosis (2008) and Provocative Suggestions (2015).

In this show, Jorgen and I explored what really creates big changes in people and how Jorgen uses all kinds of weird and wonderful thought experiments, games and paradoxes as pointers to allow his clients to see something different that will create the desired change.

It's a corker of a show, Jorgen is a genius and also very funny, and I so appreciated this opportunity to explore his gem of a mind!


Direct download: Joergen_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:50am EDT

This week's show is with Maggie Minor who believes that what we surround ourselves with has a profound affect on our subconscious and that by simply making a few changes in our home décor we can uplift ourselves and open up our mind to new possibilities. She is the founder of Maggie Minor Designs, an online resource for colorful furniture and artwork, tips for making your home a more positive place, and consulting services to help you design a home that aligns with what you want.

In her former life, Maggie spent almost 15 years traveling the world…as a graduate student in Australia, a student and backpacker in Europe, a Peace Corps volunteer in Bulgaria and a humanitarian worker working in Asia and Africa. Her memoir, Adventures of a Curious Sculptor, recounts her long journey from adventurer to artist, and her appreciation for all of the beauty that surrounds us.

In this show we explored how and why what we look at in our homes and offices has a profound subconscious impact what we think about and therefore how we feel. There is a revolution going on right now about about food, spirituality, relationships, and exercise, but no one is really talking about curating what we look at everyday. 

Maggie would like to help people think more about how they create their environments with a special emphasis on things that they look at most. It’s a simple shift that can make a huge difference.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Humans throughout history have been wired to be impacted by their visual surroundings - it's imperative to our safety- whether it be to locate fruit (or remember where the poisonous ones are) or to hunt or avoid animals. Our environment is constantly being perceived via our senses and is in our awareness, whether we realise it or not - so we can either leave our environment to chance or we can curate environments that serve us.
  • Go around your house and ask yourself: "How do I want to feel in this room?" Look at each item in the room and decide whether it creates the feeling you want.
  • Easy starting points include: What do you look at first thing in the morning? What's giving you 'Should' messages? What do you see when you first enter your home? What do you see when you leave your home? Start with those places first.
Direct download: Maggie_Minor_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:39am EDT

This week's show is with Marina Pearson. Marina, is the No1 best-selling author of the multi-award winning book Goodbye Mr Ex, and international speaker. She supports professionals and entrepreneurs to transform all types of stress into effortless results and living through her coaching and events. She is known for catalysing busy and stressed entrepreneurs and professionals out of their stress and struggle into effortless results so they leave feeling at peace and free.

In this week's show, Marina shared how has recently broken up with her husband and father of her young son and has been going through the process of creating a new way of relating to and co-parenting with her ex-husband.  In essence, we talked how to have a healthy break-up.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Even when we're in challenging period and it seems as though everything is dark and awful, we all have moments when we don't feel that way - when our thinking clears. It's so freeing to notice that because we understand that our experience isn't coming from the break-up but from our thoughts but our thoughts about the break-up. "We're not on a rollercoaster, we are the rollercoaster."
  • Everything's going to be fine, no matter what. Who we really are is always perfect and untouched by the stuff that's going on in our human lives. We all have the capacity to connect into the true self beneath the turmoil.  We have innate resilience, we are never broken or f*cked up
  • There's a universal force thats constantly rearranging things - in ways that we can perceive as being good and lucky and in ways that we can perceive as being bad and unlucky but really it's not personal, it's just life unfolding as it does.
  • In any relationship, the other person's level of awareness or state of mind is largely irrelevant  to your experience of it - for example, Marina described how her own level of awareness was key to how she experienced the break-up.
Direct download: Marina_Pearson_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:31am EDT

This week's show is with Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realised she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding.

Kat's been on the show twice before and was so fabulous we had to get her back on to talk about one of her favourite topics: Ayahuasca itself! We explored the history of Ayahuasca and other plant medicines, the active component DMT (also known as 'the spirit molecule') and its role in the human body and what this could help us to understand about the subconscious and universal consciousness. All in all, it's a deeply fascinating show!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The active component in Ayahuasca is DMT - which is present in our pituitary gland and shows up in dreams and as we die. It's known as the 'spirit molecule' because it seems to allow us to access the space of universal consciousness.
  • Deeply understanding and fully experiencing our deeply held traumas, baggage and pain allows us to move on - as Kat said: We need to feel to heal.
  • It's important to be and feel safe whenever we're accessing a space of complete openness. In Ayahuasca ceremonies this is the role of the shaman, in other situations a different form of safety and guidance would be more appropropriate but regardless it’s a necessary aspect of this kind of absolute openness.
Direct download: Kat_Aya_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:10am EDT

This week's show is with Kim Kaase. As a professional business coach, consultant and transformational trainer she supports her clients by working with them to craft a clear personal vision while creating results that are important to them. She uses her background as a designer to creatively solve problems and approach challenges as a coach from a very unique perspective. 

Kim’s experience in creating breakthrough sales results as well as executing company vision and goals melds perfectly with her coaching career. As a dealer principal, Kim led sales and sales support teams to grow the dealership from $14mm in 2003 to $38mm in just 4 years while industry trends were going in the opposite direction.

Kim graduated from the University of Houston in 1990 with a BFA in Interior Design and a certification in Transformative Coaching. Her career has included work with a vast array of professional services firms and successful entrepreneurs.. She is the Principal at her firm, LEAP Business Coaching. In her free time she enjoys transformational work, bird watching, cooking and creating memories with her son, Rex. Kim’s vision includes creating a world where everyone leads lives that they absolutely love!

In this show we explored Kim's experience of reclaiming her inner juiciness and intimacy with both herself and her partner. As ever, Kim was totally open and shared the insecurities and surprises that she has experienced and what this relationship has shown her about control and vulnerability. Although this show is particularly relevant to anyone entering the dating world later in life or after a break-up, I actually think this show is relevant to anyone at almost any stage of a relationship!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Falling into flow, into the space of presence just doesn't allow any room for thought-created baggage and insecurities. Kim said the strategies and techniques she'd tried in the past to get over her insecurities around sex didn't work, however when she felt fully engaged and in the flow, they just weren't there!
  • The need for control is very common because it's a way that we can feel safe, however it's that very safety that stops us really living and feeling.  Kim said she would now take juicy over safety any day!
  • When we let go of trying to be someone that we believe people will love, instead we radiate who we really are - and as Kim says, others will be drawn to us like a moth to a flame. It's totally attractive!
Direct download: Kim_Kaase_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:59pm EDT

This week is the second show in which the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the second part of the story of her life.

f you haven't yet listened to to Part One I would highly recommend you do so before listening to Part Two. But if you have, you'll know that part 1 was amazing, just packed full of crazy, funny stories of Lian's life up until her mid-20s.

And on this week's show we carry on that exploration and while there might not be as many of those types of stories, this show is full power. We get into some key events that rocked Lian's world - including her experience of being attacked and then the aftermath, the surprising impact of losing her father, and discovering what was really creating her feelings - these events were the catalyst for incredible growth and transformation.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved how Lian cured her chronic facial pain and panic attacks simply through seeing the nature of thought and how it was creating her experience of life.However it is worth saying that Lian’s experience is probably on the rarer side certainly in terms of how quickly she made a full recovery yet understanding the role of thought seems to always have a profoundly beneficial effect, even if it’s a more gradual one. It can be helpful to focus more on the direction you are going in rather than the speed at which you are traveling in that direction.

  • Lian shared how when her father died she became aware of her connection to something bigger than her sense of self. No matter what you wish to call the intelligence all-creating force behind life - whether that’s God, spirit, source, Universal Mind or what we here at Primal Happiness call the Spirit Fundamental - what is undeniable is that it exists. And once we open up and deepen our awareness of it we can’t help but feel more connection, joy, love, meaning, and guidance.
Direct download: Lian_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 5:42am EDT

This week's show is with Jeanne Catherine-Gray. Jeanne is deeply committed to transforming the landscape of contemporary psychology and its applications in the real world, Jeanne earned her MA in Psychological Well Being and is currently working on her Ph.D. in the Neuroscience of Psychological Experience.

Jeanne has successfully built a community of practitioners and provides training programs for coaches and therapists. Her voracious intellectual curiosity and comfort with listening for insight are complemented by her capacity for action and genuine care for other human beings.

Jeanne values a principle-based understanding that naturally improves listening and well being; increasing peace of mind, community satisfaction, and desirable outcomes. With twenty-four years of experience working with groups, Jeanne’s willingness to go straight to the heart of the problem, and not be afraid of anything, reaps great benefits at work, as a host on the radio show, Waking Up: The Neuroscience of Awareness and as a volunteer mediator & parent educator in Charlottesville, VA.

In this week's show we're talking about Jeanne's transformation from trauma through PTSD to coming out the other side as someone who is now successfully helping others to overcome their challenges.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we talk over and over about trauma it means we experience the trauma again - with all of the same feelings as we did during the original trauma.
  • Realising that her thoughts aren't true is what made change happen in all areas of Jeanne's life - not as a practice but as a realisation that naturally occurred.
  • Our brains are always changing, we can go back to an old way of thinking (or an 'old neighbourhood') but understanding that we can move to a new way of thinking (or a 'new neighbourhood') is a powerful choice that we have.
Direct download: Jeanne_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the story of her life. She covered her early years living as a single parent family with her father, travelling Europe, her struggles with fitting in at school and work, and discovering the possible reason for those struggles.

This show is packed with so many fascinating, inspiring, slightly weird :) and incredibly funny stories that I know you'll love. In fact, there was so much awesomeness that we had to make this a two part show so this is part 1 and part 2 will follow shortly. In part 2, Lian will share the surprising impact of losing her father, discovering what was really creating her feelings, and more.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved the example of how the universe always provides when you’re open and aligned to its flow. That’s something we have become so disconnected from in this modern world. And I appreciate for some that’s a hard thing to get your head around let alone believe, but it’s true. It’s only because of the domestication of the human animal that this law of nature has been hidden from view.

    Have a play with breaking free from your domestication and reclaim your alignment to nature’s great flow.

  • I also wanted to highlight the power of the Socratic approach to learning that Lian’s father used with Lian and Lian subsequently uses with her children. This approach is around drawing the learning out from the student as opposed to pushing it onto them. In this world of google where we've been conditioned to crave instant answers, instant gratification without first taking a journey of exploration ourselves to arrive at the answer is stunting the growth of our consciousness and the collective consciousness of the world.

    If you have children or even young family members the next time they ask you something, instead of just giving them the answer maybe take the time to have a mini adventure with them and simply reply “I’m not sure... what do you think?” and see where that takes you. 😃
  • And lastly, Lian shared her story of being a misfit and the challenges that came from that. And how as she’s got older she’s become more accepting of who she is and that’s allowed her gifts to shine brighter. As ever, when we accept and embrace our uniqueness and the uniqueness in others, it has the power to do incredible things in the world.That’s the design of the system that’s the default setting, it’s just that we've lost touch with how to cultivate inspire and nurture the uniqueness in humans. We no longer celebrate people's unique gifts as we’ve been conditioned to turn inward in a never ending and soul destroying pursuit of the status quo. A world where we are all trying to be the same simply does not work!

    How can you celebrate and nurture your unique gifts and how can you do the same in others?

Direct download: Lian_Podcast_mixdown3.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:04am EDT

This week's show is a very different show to the norm, this week, we’ve got Jonathan Wilkinson, the co-founder of Primal Happiness on to tell you about his story. Next week he’ll be interviewing me - we thought it was long overdue for you the listener to get to know us both a little better first.

It’s just the start of monthly Lian & Jonathan shows on a range of topics. This is all part of big changes afoot, there’s lots more cool things to come - I'll be telling you more about that at the end of the show.

Unless you’re part of one of our programs you’re unlikely to be familiar with Jonathan - who’s actually the other half of Primal Happiness. He's actually the man behind the voice you just heard during the podcast intro at the beginning of the show.

Jonathan's story is actually relevant to almost everyone living in today's modern world and acts as a cautionary tale of what can happen to us and our children if we continue living the kind of disconnected lives that are considered normal today.

Whilst there's some pretty grim parts to Jonathan's story, I'll let you know in advance that it does have a happy ending. If you're anything like me you'll like to know going in that there's a happy ending!

I really think it’s a must listen show for everyone who is interested in understanding more about the little known challenges of living in today’s modern world and how to live a happy and fulfilling life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We typically think of trauma as an input of a traumatic event but there are so many people in the western world that are been brought up deeply traumatised by a lack of something, by a disconnection to something. There's been a normalisation of the 'trauma of lack'. 
  • Almost all dis-ease be it mental or physical has disconnection at its root cause. Health is actually natural and normal!
  • Jonathan recognised how he was lacking connection to several of the Primal Fundamentals - which is true for most of us living in this crazy modern world. We can remedy this disconnection and adapt... when we understand how. And that's where The Primal State Formula comes in!
Direct download: Jono_Podcast_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:29am EDT

This week's show is with Michael McCaffrey. He began the invaluable practice of meditation and contemplation in 2010. He now speaks publicly on the many benefits of meditation as well as the misunderstandings and misconceptions that act as a block to developing a practice. He also offers meditation in workspaces and runs retreats in the UK.

As I said on last week's show, meditation is something that I'm on a real personal journey with at the moment - I used to meditate years ago in the hope of calming my mind, and now when I have a calm mind much of the time, I'm interested in discovering whether I can still benefit from meditation and if so, how. I'm inviting you along for the ride with me.

In this week's show, I certainly got what I wanted... Michael shared his incredibly inspiring journey of going from crack addiction to becoming a meditation teacher - and he shares the insights and obstacles he experienced along the way.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Addiction to something (not just drugs) is almost always a way of escaping some kind of suffering. It's not a choice. Instead of demonising sufferers, how can we offer some support and understanding?
  • When we make the regular practice of sitting and noticing the thoughts - without distraction - we allow ourselves the powerful recognition of what's really going on for us.
  • From that recognition of our true self, we can move from searching for escape to an acceptance of what's going on in the moment.
Direct download: Michael_McCaffrey_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:14pm EDT

This week's show is with Alex Mill, a Zen Life Coach, facilitator, leadership trainer and public speaker. He spent nearly 14 years training in a Zen monastery and is now offering his years of experience to transform people’s lives and businesses through mindfulness, meditation and compassionate self-awareness practices.

In this week's show Alex agreed to me throwing questions at him about all things meditation. This is something that I'm on a real personal journey with at the moment - I used to meditate years ago in the hope of calming my mind, and now when I have a calm mind much of the time, I'm interested in discovering whether I can still benefit from meditation and if so, how. I'm inviting you along for the ride with me.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The benefits of meditation are typically that you're more in the present, more focused, less lost in thought, more able to direct your attention. I loved what Alex said: we are either here or not here.
  • Meditation gives the regular practice of noticing that your thoughts are not you and giving you access to the space of insights, peace and connection.
  • Take time for yourself to remove the barriers to meditating: just take 5 minutes to sit and focus on the breath.
Direct download: Alex_Mill_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:23am EDT

This week's show is with Victoria Kate. Victoria is the founder of Free2bme, the training for teachers and parents in mental health wellbeing for young people. Victoria is qualified as a Mind Calm trainer, NLP and Reiki Master and using her personal experience and expertise Victoria delivers self-development courses and one to ones for clients worldwide.

Victoria is a single mum, writer and lover of life. She lives by the sea with her 10 year old son and enjoys watching sunsets, eating chocolate and travelling this wonderful world. She is writing a book based on rebuilding yourself after a relationship breakdown, how to thrive single parenting (including travelling with them) and then on to meeting Mr Right! She provides compelling insight, along with other single parents, that one of the most challenging lifestyles can help you wake up and find great peace, serenity and joy in your life.

She also happens to be one of my very best and oldest friends!

In this show we’re talking about what happens after a painful relationship break-up: life afterwards. We explored all kinds of aspects including making conscious choices, forgiveness and letting go, authenticity, human vs spirit, life as a single parent, and creating a whole-hearted relationship with your ex.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's a time for grief and pain - allow yourself that time before you move forward into acceptance.
  • The importance of spirituality - allowing the space for intuition and connecting to your higher self and something bigger than yourself. From there acceptance comes which is the foundation for making conscious choices - large and small.
  • Holding a vision of what'd love life to look and feel like is what allows us to create a life that's in alignment with that vision.
Direct download: Victoria_Kate_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:02am EDT

This week's show is with Jaclyn Costello. Nothing is more satisfying to Jaclyn than helping people make breakthroughs to understand themselves more deeply. This is the heart of her role as a Spiritual Development Coach at Jaclyn's background in spiritual guidance evolved over years of personal work, immersion in sacred, shamanic ceremonies, and one-on-one mentorships with respected teachers & guides. Jaclyn is also an Assistant Professor in the Honors College at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. As well, she is a writer of poetry, fiction, and non-fiction. Her work has been published in a variety of literary journals & magazines; she just finished her first novel.

In this show we’re talking about the juicy topic of intuition. What it is, how we can listen to it, how we can get more of it showing up in our lives, and what we can do with what it tells us! In other words, how we can live our most congruent, aligned, and heart-centred lives.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We all have intuition and it's like a muscle that the more we use it, the stronger it gets. Find ways to get space for intuition into your life.
  • It's a choice: Check out or check in. Nearly everything in life is a choice and we have such creative power when we're aware of the choices we're making.
  • Sometimes our intuition tells us something we really don't like and are scared to act upon. It's helpful to remember that that tension is what something new can be created from.
Direct download: Jaclyn_Costello_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 1:09pm EDT

And this week's show is with Robin Charbit, one of the founders of Insight Principles. Although Robin is a chemical engineer by training, he has spent most of his 35 year career in the world of business, first as a the leader of one of Exxon’s large international businesses based in Europe, and then as the Director of a consulting practice in Boston, Massachusetts.

About 16 years ago, he came across the work of Syd Banks and saw it as the missing element in the world of business. That led him to found Insight Management Partners, to explore how to bring this understanding into business. About 10 years ago, he met Ken Manning and they joined forces to create Insight Principles.

In this show we’re talking about getting anything done at work or in life without bother or stress.

We all have had moments where we surprise ourselves, we leap that tall building without effort, we solve that issue with ease, or we just see what to do without apparently having to think too much about it. Most people agree when you say this to them. Most people also agree that this is a fleeting occurrence. Robin explains what this phenomenon is, where it lives, and how to have more of it. The interesting thing is there is nothing to do when you know where to look.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • There's an alternative to the bother and stress of today's busy lives and it's to live from an understanding of what allows us to access insight, ease and peace.
  • Remember a time when you were at peace on the inside. Psychologically peaceful. Try to remember what qualities were present in you at that time: Open, at ease, settled down. Were you doing them or did those qualities just show up? If they just showed up, where did they come from? Inside or innate. Not something to get - something to connect to.
  • How to connect to that space? The more we understand how the system works the less we get caught up in thought and have access to that space.
Direct download: Robin_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 6:55am EDT

This week's show is with Kelly Noonan Gores, Director and Executive Producer of the documentary HEAL, Kelly Noonan Gores had spent 20 years in front of the camera before deciding to turn her attention to filmmaking. In 2012, Gores launched Elevative Entertainment, an independent production company based in Beverly Hills, and transitioned into a career of writing and producing.

However, Gores’ time in front of the camera continued as she starred in and was the executive producer for the award winning films Beneath (2013) and Take a Seat (2011). Gores also produced the feature film Tooken (2015), a spoof of the Taken Franchise. She considers her latest project HEAL, her greatest passion and life’s work as it shares the powerful message that it is never too late for the body to heal. A combination of the books “Biology of Belief” by Bruce Lipton and “Dying to be Me” by Anita Moorjani, inspired and taught Gores that we are not victims of genes and biology but through our thoughts and beliefs we can recover and heal.

As a seeker of truth, Gores and her team have a passion for creative, consciousness raising projects. After taking a class at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York City, Gores learned how food effects our health and how no one way diet, toxin release method, etc. works for every person in the same way. Gores’ inspiration for the documentary HEAL stems from a collection of attending classes and conferences, reading and sharing her knowledge with others.

Gores is a Los Angeles native, soccer player and has been practicing yoga and meditation for 8 years.

In today’s show we spoke about the power of our thoughts when it comes to healing. Kelly's film reveals that we have more control over our health and life than we have been taught to believe. It features interviews with Deepak Chopra, Bruce Lipton, Marianne Williamson, Michael Beckwith, Gregg Braden, Anita Moorjani and other leading scientists, teachers and experts on the mind-body connection, who describe and highlight the relationship between spirituality and science.

It turns out that we are not victims of our family genes, but truly have the power to heal virtually any “dis-ease” through our thoughts, beliefs, perceptions and emotions.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The possibilities of the human mind and body are something we're only just starting to uncover but the examples in HEAL show that we're only limited by our beliefs.
  • The placebo effect actually creates the same chemical response as the drug it's controlling for. There's an incredible opportunity to better understand and exploit this effect.
  • The way we think about about something can have a greater impact on how it affects us than the actual properties of that thing. For example, whether we see our food as harmful or nourishing can affect whether it harms or nourishes us.
  • Happiness is a great indicator of whether we're in alignment
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 8:52am EDT

This week's show is with Shiv, who is a motivational speaker on self awareness and consciousnesses. His message emphasises Self Love as a means to inner awakening and deep meditation. 

Shiv believes that being our true self is what the journey of life is all about. Life is to be lived without any delusions stated in words from past experiences. True self cannot be stated in words but lived as an experience. Shiv refrains from attaching himself to any definable label, be it of status, gender, religion, nation or any other description that would define and therefore limit. All that he is, is.

In today’s show we spoke about judgement - why we judge, how it affects us, and what's possible on the other side of judgement.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We're born completely pure and without judgements and then start gathering judgements about ourselves and others - often starting with our gender.
  • We judge others in order to know ourself but it's a limited version of ourself - it's not our true self.
  • The first step to letting go of judgement is recognising that you can. Just observe your thoughts and notice that it's not the real you who is talking. Observe and be a witness.
  • Surrender to yourself and you will become who you really are. As Shiv said "Tension is who you want to be, relaxing is who you are."
Direct download: Shiv_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:08am EDT

James Tripp is back! James is an internationally recognised and respected educator, consultant and coach in the fields of personal transformation, hypnosis, influential communication and personal efficacy. Working from an eclectic background including philosophy, music, mentalism, martial arts, movement culture and NLP, James is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.

Beyond his work with private clients, James runs open workshops internationally, with his London and UK based workshops typically drawing students from around the world.

In today’s show we spoke about the Chaos Wave - or what James describes as how we choose to participate in life in a way that brings things into the world that we want, it seems effortless and allows us to dance with the chaos - it feels like magic.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The world doesn't work like a coffee machine - it doesn't work step by step following a set process. It's constantly changing and isn't something that we can plan for linearly - even though we convince ourselves that we can. Life isn't like a game of chess, it's like a game of Tetris.
  • Surfing the chaos wave is about letting go of focusing on all of the things that you can't control, choose how you meet the wave, moment by moment, co-creating with the wave. Knowing when to hold and when to fold (as Kenny Roger sang!)
  • Look at where you're struggling in your life - where you don't want to take the steps that you see as necessary to achieve the result you desire. Connect to your vision (your high vibration state) so you can come alive with enthusiasm. Allow your intuition guide you and allow your action emerge from your vision.
  • A pattern of chronic worrying is about trying to control the future - which is impossible. Connect into the trust that allows you to be in and respond to the moment.
  • Letting go of the 'cause and effect' model which doesn't apply to the social-psycho world. Stop struggling and start dancing.
  • When someone inspires themselves and speaks from their inspiration - that inspires others.
  • Vision - we are not who we think we are, we are not the stories that we tell ourselves. Self-narrative is destiny. We are living from our self narrative. Starting to create a sense of who you are - connecting to a self-narrative that's inspiring. Feel inspired by who you are. Live into your own personal inspiring myth. What's coming through you - how do you work with that and shape it? How do you co-create with what's coming through and what's out there.
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Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:28am EDT

This week's show is with Jez Hughes is a British shaman, having studied intensively the path of shamanism for nearly 20 years, he has worked full time as a practitioner for the past 12 years. He teaches and initiates people onto this path from the heart of the woods in the south of England whilst also working closely with indigenous tribes from Central America.

Jez’s passion is empowering people to reawaken their ancestors, the land where they reside and their spiritual heritages to heal the relationship between the human and natural world. He is the author of the book The Heart of Life- Shamanic Initiation & Healing in the modern world.

In today’s show we spoke healing and how we can better align ourselves to our natural, joyful nature. Jez says we're currently living in paradox - with dark, heavy times and trauma and juxtaposed with healing energies. Healing and growth doesn't come without friction - pain is often growing and part of the process. We spoke about how we can better align ourselves with the natural forces that are starting to come forth.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We have got out of balance with ourselves and the natural world, by opening our hearts and giving back to the land and the natural world, we can fall back into alignment with the way of things and experience the joy and peace that's natural for us.
  • The elements of fire and water are trying to get our attention - we can see this in global warming and rising sea levels - if we can give gratitude (through ceremonies, prayers and thoughts) for the elements then they can fall back into balance.
  • We are often so spiritually starved in western culture that we can cling and grasp at spiritual, mystical things and lose a sense of the physical, down to earth, practical side of the natural world that we're living on and part of. We need to come into our bodies and have a natural, real sense of appreciation and connection with the world and the elements.
Direct download: Jez_Hughes_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:41pm EDT

This week's show is with Cam Adair, a Speaker, YouTuber, and Founder of, the world’s largest support community for video game addiction, serving 25,000 members a month in 80 countries around the world. Born in Canada, he currently lives in San Diego, California.

In today’s show we spoke our digital/tech addiction - almost all of us are somewhere on that spectrum. We talked about why we've ended up this way and what we can do about it.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Almost all of us are somewhere on this spectrum of digital addiction - whether it's full on gaming addiction or just checking facebook a zillion times a day.
  • We do this because we're trying to meet four very human needs: Temporary Escape, Social Connection, Constant Measurable Growth, Challenge (Sense of Purpose)
  • Coming from a non-judgmental place allows for change and choices. Whether it's ourselves or others with an addiction, stopping to understand WHY this behaviour is happening allows us to make different choices, more in alignment with our values and vision.
Direct download: Cam_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week's show is with Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realised she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding.

So that’s exactly what we explored in this show - death. Why Kat sees it as one of the juiciest topics to explore, why our relationship with death actually affects how we live, and what we can do to get good with death.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We are so afraid of death and dying that it can make us close up and contract, not fully love our lives or be open to loving others.
  • Understanding that death isn't the end of the journey but is just a different experience of consciousness allows us to stop running away from death, to stop living in fear of it.
  • When we say yes to all of it - the dark stuff and the light stuff, love and heartbreak, life and death then we get to have the deepest, most juicy experience of life. So say yes to all of it!
Direct download: Kat_Courtney_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:16pm EDT

This week's show is with Tripp Lanier coach, consultant and host of "The New Man: Beyond the Macho Jerk and the New Age Wimp".

He coaches entrepreneurs around the world to get out of the shallow end of the pool, redefine success, and align their work with what they were put on this Earth to do. Over the years he’s designed several businesses to support a simple lifestyle focused on freedom, ease, and fun.

As a creative entrepreneur, Tripp created one of the first digital video post-production companies in the Southeast. For over twelve years, Tripp crafted TV shows and commercials for national and regional clients. Other contributions include working with Ken Wilber as Co-Director of Integral Institute Arts Center. On the artistic front, Tripp has written, performed and produced albums with his own rock groups.

So Tripp really been done there and done that and is still doing it when it comes to living a life of full of freedom, fulfilment and fun.

In today’s show we spoke about how to be a human in today's crazy world where we are being domesticated, pushed in all kinds of directions and don't have the relationship, career or fulfilment we want.  So we're talking about how do we cut the crap, get rid of the shell we've created for ourselves and be more of who we really are.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Most of us are too scared to say aloud what we really want but when we do, it's incredibly powerful - and in fact, we may find that we don't even really want that thing once we've been able to say it and see it from another perspective.
  • Understanding and accepting that discomfort is likely to be part of the deal of anything that provides growth means that we can stop shying away from the unknown through fear.
  • The expectations that we live by are often just domestication - the conditioning that comes from what we imagine others expect of us - often, they are completely untrue
  • Ask yourself "What would the 80 year old me think of how I'm living my life?"
  • Instead of trying to 'be someone', let layers drop away and just be you, living however it is that you feel called to live.
Direct download: Tripp_Lanier_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:58pm EDT

This week's show is with Katie Abbott. Katie's a therapist and coach, she's been running the Lewis Clinic in Harley Street for the last 8 years, runs retreats abroad and events in London. She's written for The Guardian, Observer, and Psychologies Magazine.

Katie is passionate about giving people the experience of being welcomed, accepted and loved. She enjoys exploring the space beyond words.

In today’s show we spoke about how we can live a life rich with purpose - and do it from a place of deep presence and love. In other words, how we can find that Holy Grail of having it all!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Openness and honesty - the power of being OK with who we are and whatever shows up.
  • The importance of mentors - people who can tell us that we can do it and "Why not you?"
  • Opening ourselves to love and be love - we are all loved and connected.
Direct download: Katie_Abbott_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:25pm EDT

This week's show is with James Tripp, an internationally recognised and respected educator, consultant and coach in the fields of personal transformation, hypnosis, influential communication and personal efficacy. Working from an eclectic background including philosophy, music, mentalism, martial arts, movement culture and NLP, James is also the developer of the critically acclaimed Hypnosis Without Trance approach to hypnosis.

Beyond his work with private clients, James runs open workshops internationally, with his London and UK based workshops typically drawing students from around the world.

In today’s show we spoke about finding the 'change point' - that moment when our lives can change massively - what creates that moment and how we best bring about the circumstances for it to happen.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We are constantly changing, we try to make sense of that by seeing things as fixed. When our attention is brought to the fact that everything is changing we have awareness of our ability to change too.
  • We lose sight of the fact that we're these exquisite learning, growing, changing creatures who have access to an innate intelligence. When we connect back into that intelligence, we're able to feel the power of change that we all have.
  • We need to knock down the metaphorical tower that's keeping us safe but is also restricting us so that we can experience our freedom to grow and change.
  • As we become aware that we are looking at the world through our 'map' (or our own way of conceptualising) it allows us the freedom to be more in 'direct experience' with the world.
Direct download: James_Tripp_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:35am EDT

This week's show is with Kristian Verde Haganes, Kristian is a dedicated father and husband, a licensed physiotherapist and certified CLARITY coach working within the public health service in Sandefjord, Norway. As the project manager of a Healthy Life Center, Kristian supports people at risk of developing non infectious chronic disease overcome their limitations and blossom. He is passionate about the science of personal transformation, and about how to arrange the contingencies of reinforcement responsible for it.

In today’s show we spoke about the way our own behaviour is shaped and is constantly developing as a person engages in an environment.  And also how we affect each other as we speak but maybe more importantly how we affect ourselves as we speak.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Listening to our own sound allows us to become more aware of our own sound and also how it affects us.
  • Our internal chatter (i.e. our thinking) is our sound turned right down - we have more of that chatter when we’ve been exposed to - what Kristian calls - noxious verbal behaviour, and feel unable to speak our sound aloud.
  • When we engage in 'sound verbal behaviour' with others, we enjoy it, its reinforced and we therefore do more of it.
  • This digital age is the worst time for us to express ourselves in writing - more disconnected, more unaware of our sound and how it affects us and others.
Direct download: Kristian_mixdown_V2.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:51pm EDT

This week's show is with Jamie Smart an internationally renowned writer, speaker, coach and consultant. He shows individuals and organizations the unexpected keys to clarity; the ultimate leverage point for creating more time, better decisions and meaningful results.

Jamie is a gifted speaker, equally engaging in front of large audiences and more intimate groups. He’s passionate about helping individuals and businesses to deepen their understanding of CLARITY® and to create the results that matter to them. In addition to working with a handful of coaching clients and leading selected corporate programmes, Jamie runs professional development workshops for business leaders, trainers, coaches and consultants. He has appeared on Sky TV and on the BBC, as well as in numerous publications including The Daily Telegraph.

In 2003, Jamie started the company Salad, quickly growing a tribe of over 80,000 people who devoured his articles and personal development products. Salad soon became the world’s leading NLP product business, and he was acknowledged by his peers as one of the world’s finest trainers. Then, in 2008, Jamie shifted his focus to a new paradigm, the principles of CLARITY®. He stopped teaching NLP and in 2012, sold Salad. Prior to starting his own business, Jamie led multi-million pound organizational change programmes and was also brought in as a troubleshooter to rescue struggling projects. His client list includes the Guardian newspaper, Sweet & Maxwell, Payzone and Dun & Bradstreet.

In today’s show we spoke about How to be happy in these modern times of complexity and uncertainty! Which of course is a topic very close to our hearts on this show.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Knowing that at the core of your being you'll be OK, no matter what happens you can't be harmed psychologically, allows you to move with changes, complexity and uncertainty.
  • Your true 'essence' isn't your body, it isn't your cells, it isn't your name, it isn't your thoughts - it's the one who experiences the body, cells, name and thoughts.
  • We innocently believe that our feelings are letting us know about the outside world, our friends, our family, the future... when our experience of the world is actually thought-generated.
Direct download: Jamie_Smart_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:57pm EDT

this week's show is with John El-Mokadem and Karen DiMarco, RN, BSN, iRNPA. John's a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps them to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is. Karen is a healthcare visionary with more than 20 years of nursing experience who has been a catalyst for transforming the way we deliver and conceive of "health care" and personal wellbeing. Her work blends functional and integrative medicine - which targets root causes as opposed to treating symptoms of disease - with a strengths-based approach to wellbeing. 

In this show we explored John and Karen's recent work conducting a study around the effectiveness of using a fresh approach in treating chronic fatigue. We dived deep into how and why a deeper understanding of how the mind works can be effective in people recovering from chronic fatigue, leading to measurable improvements in health and wellbeing.

This is two part show, in this, part two, we focused on Karen's personal journey of overcoming chronic fatigue, their study and its results. This is such an interesting and inspiring show that it's one that's worth listen to whether you suffer from chronic fatigue or not.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • How we think about something has a huge effect on whether it impacts us negatively or positively. Just stress is only bad for us if we believe it is, much of the natural fluctuations of our body's cycles only become harmful when we think they are.
  • They talked about overcoming chronic fatigue using the metaphor of a leaky bucket. You can fill the bucket up with the right supplements, diets and lifestyle but unless you plug the holes in the bucket, you'll likely still suffer from chronic fatigue.
  • Karen talked about man as part of nature rather than apart from nature. Just like trees know when drop their leaves and animals know where to find their food, humans have the manual to their own happiness built in.
Direct download: John_and_Karen_part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:29am EDT

This week's show is with John El-Mokadem, a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps them to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is.

In this show we explored John's recent work conducting a study around the effectiveness of using a fresh approach in treating chronic fatigue. We dived deep into how and why a deeper understanding of how the mind works can be effective in people recovering from chronic fatigue, leading to measurable improvements in health and wellbeing.

This is two part show, in this, part one, we focused mainly on John's own experience of chronic fatigue and his incredible recovery, and then next week in part two we'll go deep into the study and its results.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • John's own story of going from life-limiting chronic fatigue to recovering from it completely in a short period of time shows what's possible for everyone.
  • Living in a cultural norm of experiencing chronic stress means that we tend to misunderstand its negative effects on our bodies.
  • The more we try to take control and manage our health, the more we experience stress rather than allowing our natural resilience and wellbeing to surface.
Direct download: John_Fatigue_Part_1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:28am EDT

This week's show is with Sabrina Lynn, founder of ReWilding for Women. She's a passionate and deep-diving personal development facilitator. Her transformational work has impacted the lives of thousands of women across the globe.

Having taught in some of the largest organizations in Australia (Commonwealth Bank, Tourism Australia, UNSW, BHP Billiton, QBE and WNBN) she combines her common sense, down-to-earth approach with depth, wildness and raw power; which are the unique signatures of her ReWilding work. She facilitates at a depth where remarkable transformations, healings and openings in women's lives are a common occurrence.

Sabrina brings 10 years of teaching, facilitating, consulting and coaching experience into her work. She's studied, practiced and taught archetypal psychology, neuroscience, leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, astrology, tantra, physiology and mind-body connection.
In this show we spoke about Sabrina's understanding of conscious relationships, she gives an exclusive account of her own journey to having a relationship with a conscious man,  and there's also a special guest appearance of Medusa. ;)

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Women say they want a conscious man but Sabrina says that most women aren't ready for that man - they need to do the work required first.
  • Years of patriarchy mean that we've got some deeply held beliefs about men, their role and women's roles - this means that women are often held back from opening up to their full selves.
  • When women explore their deep primal essence and how it shows up (or doesn't) in their lives, they can clear out the 'rubble' that was blocking parts of themselves and instead allow all of themselves to be expressed.
Direct download: Sabrina_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:41am EDT

And this week's show is with Sarah Louisignau, an empowered sensuality & fertility coach. Sarah has over a decade experience helping women (and men!) reclaim healthy, happy sex lives, and discover deep wisdom, love, and trust through the process of decriminalising pleasure and sensuality. She’s had her own podcast, led workshops & retreats, coached individuals and groups, and created a complete program for women looking to reclaim sensuality & fertility.

Sarah's been around the block, searching for the best non-dogmatic methods and philosophies to empower women and men in their search for wellbeing.

In this show we explored why human health and wellbeing is all about fertility!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The cement blocks that get in the way of fertility: the taboos we have sensuality and sexuality
  • To feel more sensuality, sit in nature, feeling the environment on your skin: there's a thousand ways that the environment is interacting with you, such as feelings the hairs on your arm being moved by the breeze.
  • This conversation around fertility is also just as relevant for men and also anyone who isn't necessarily focused on having children. Fertility is ultimately about vibrancy and creative energy and is true for all of us at any age.
Direct download: Sarah_Louisignau_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:13pm EDT

this week's show is Kat Courtney, an Afterlife Coach. Kat first received the term "Afterlife Coach" after one of the many times she experienced death. She had been working as a Spiritual Life Coach and Shamanic Apprentice for a decade, and felt that her life's purpose was still a little. . . off. As she sat in her 999th or so Ayahuasca ceremony, it dawned on her that there are three things she love most in this world: Connection to soul, Ayahuasca, and death.

After the craziest of journeys with this medicine, she finally realized she was not meant to be an Ayahuasquera - she was meant to be the before and after guide. She also works with people in hospice. She adores shadow work. She's in love with death. Ayahuasca only made that a deeper calling and understanding. 

In this show, we explored what Kat calls the 'dark stuff' in our lives such as death, fear and suffering. We also got into what's 'soul' versus 'spirit' and the journey of our souls.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The difference between soul and spirit - spirit is all light and oneness whereas soul is our own individual snowflake of consciousness.
  • Why we have this 'dark stuff' in our lives - if there wasn't a sense of separation then there would be no motivation or curiosity to move forward and uncover the mystery of consciousness.
  • As we grow more in tune with our soul then we will be guided as to the lessons and experiences that are going to be most rewarding in this life.
Direct download: Kat_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:27pm EDT

This week's show is with Angela Mastwijk. After a short career in international banking, Angela became a stay-at-home mom, freelance translator, journalist-with-a-weekly-newspaper-column, private tutor and a spiritual seeker.

When her 14 year old son stopped eating and was diagnosed with anorexia, she decided to look for and speak to his innate health, refusing (most of the time at least) to buy into all the fearful thinking surrounding this label. She wrote a book about his swift recovery and their joint journey of uncovering their well-being and clarity.

Later on, stumbling across the Three Principles, Angela gained a deeper understanding of the workings of the human experience, which profoundly changed the nature of the conversations she now has with adolescents struggling with eating disorders, their parents and other people seeking guidance via the ShiftAcademy, a company she co-founded with colleague Linda Spaanbroek to bring the inside out understanding to the Netherlands.

Angela has written four books; her latest (children’s) book is Inside Out Izzy, a story about a very ordinary, nine year old girl discovering the inside out nature of life.

In this show we talked about Angela's experience of her own son's recovery and of how she helps parents and their children who are struggling with eating disorders, anxiety and other challenges.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We can either look at a child's labels or we can look at their innate health which is always there... regardless of what appears to be going on on the surface.
  • When a child is struggling, we can either jump in our own boat of fear and start rowing desperately alongside them or we can be the lighthouse which beams love.
  • When we see a child as having its own inner strength, we give them the space to flourish in their own unique way, free of our expectations and judgements.
Direct download: Angela_Mastwijk_mixdown.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 2:24pm EDT

This week's show is with John El-Mokadem, a Breakthrough Coach who helps people to overcome the challenges in their life, such as anxiety, chronic fatigue, relationship and business issues. John helps his clients to reach a level of insight to make a significant breakthrough to allow them to move forward and past whatever their particular challenge is.

In this show we explored creating from the unknown - both as a topic and literally on the show! We didn't plan what to talk about but we wound up talking about creativity, purpose, unconditional love and surrendering to what's happening!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we show just show up, open to the moment and how we can possibly help then all kinds of surprising and awesome stuff can happen!
  • We never know what's going to happen or how long things will take... but apparently we find ourselves doing what we're doing. We can ever only join the dots backward as Steve Jobs once said.
  • What about when we have got something on it? Maybe ask yourself... "Is there another way this could play out? Can I be open to life unfolding in another way?"


Direct download: John_El-Mokadem_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:32am EDT

This week's show is with Jason Goldberg, international Speaker, trainer, coach AND former rapper (he opened for the Wu-Tang Clan!Jason is very passionate about community involvement. He is the Vice Chair on the Board of Directors for the PACE Center for Girls, Director of the Central Florida (Tony Robbins) Thanksgiving Basket Brigade which delivers Thanksgiving meals to over 600 families every year and serves on the advisory board for several local colleges including the nationally-ranked (#1 in Florida; #22 nationwide) Crummer Graduate School Leadership Advisory Board. He also happens to be one of my all time favourite guests on the show.

In this show we had a ball exploring the link between creativity and play, and how you can use Jason's 3Cs to bring more creativity back into your life.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Calmness: Looking at everything that’s going on for you right now, how can you slow down and allow yourself to settle down so you’re not so caught up in a spiral of thought where you’re taking it all so seriously? Calmness opens up the space for more consciousness...
  • Consciousness: What’s really going on in the situation? What else is it possible for you to be aware of? And the more conscious we are the more able we are to take the next step...
  • Courage: This could be the courageousness to say no to things that aren’t right for you, to speak your truth, to set boundaries… What would the most courage version of you do?


Direct download: Jason_Goldberg_Round2.1_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:40pm EDT

This week's show is with Dave Booda, a writer, teacher and musician. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest, an annual festival in Southern California that celebrates connection, sexual self-expression and community. He writes weekly at and his work has been featured on ABC, NBC, National Geographic, Elephant Journal, Good Men Project and Thought Catalog. He is the host of three podcasts, Dude Panel Radio, Darken the Page and Boodaism. 

In this show we spoke about one of Dave's real passions... intimacy. How can we be with each other deeply and experience this thing we all want?

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Playing the game 'What's between us?' allows us to see all of the stuff that's getting in the way of us feeling close to someone.
  • We often do things as a way to get intimacy but it's something that we can all have very naturally anyway.
  • Our beliefs about sex (both as a society and personally) are often the thing that most gets in the way of intimacy.
Direct download: Dave_Booda_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 7:27am EDT

This week's show is with Craig Polsfuss, MA, LP, MSW, LICSW (Emeritus), an Integral Psychologist with three decades of experience. Craig has advanced training and is a published national leader in both the Three Principles psycho-spiritual (non-religious) understanding and the Higher Brain Living neuroscience “New Human” program.

Craig is totally convinced that both will contribute to the healing and well being of millions, and to an eventual shift in global consciousness unlike anything seen previously in human history.

In this show, which is a follow-up to our last conversation about Why turning on your higher brain is the answer to happiness, we spoke about what Craig's understanding of history of the human mind - how our brain has evolved over time, why we have a higher brain, how our brains actually work, and what we can learn from some indigenous cultures still living on the planet today.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The lower brain has done a great job of helping us to survive and procreate, middle brain evolved for relationships and emotions, the cortex for thinking functions and then according to modern science, the prefrontal cortex (or the 'higher brain') evolved around 50,000 years and is what allows us to access our highest potential (as we spoke about in our last conversation).
  • Our brain has no life of its own without an 'enlivening energy' which brings it to life. The brain is like the servant to our ongoing experience and is being continually updated according to our experience.
  • Our potential gets expressed any way it can. For example, the way people throughout recorded history have had spontaneous 'enlightenment' experiences and how in the book Original Wisdom, the band of hunter foragers appeared very much as though they were living from their higher mind. It's cool to see how this is natural for all of us.
Direct download: Craig_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:00am EDT

This show is with Pam Grout is a world traveler, a loving mother, a best-selling author, a millionaire and an inspiring witness to everyone she meets.

Actually, only four of those are true so far, but that line is an affirmation she started using 20 years ago before she’d ever had a child, before she became a travel writer, or an author and, for that matter, before she even liked herself all that much. Evidently affirmations work, because now she can proudly say all but one of the above are true. I’ll let you guess which one is yet to manifest.

Pam's a prolific writer of articles and books - she has 15 published books so far (including the incredible e-squared and e-cubed, both of which I adored) and articles for dozens of publications.

In this show we spoke about how even those of us living in this crazy modern world can reclaim and retain our connection to primal energies, intuition, and pure presence.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Reconnecting to the 'divine buzz' (which is what Pam sometimes call the divine energy source) is a very easy, natural thing to do - understanding this and believing this is a powerful hypothesis to start with!
  • Test the hypothesis: try doing the first experiment. Give the divine buzz 48 hours to provide you with a sign. Pam says that the more open we are to this energy the bigger and more mind-blowing the sign can be!
  • If we're looking for a story that life is hard then we'll 'download' that reality and act it out. What Pam is talking is about is taking baby steps to opening us up to allowing first generation reality to wash over us.
  • Train your mind like house training a puppy! Keep taking it outside and showing it a different reality. Pam reads (and does the exercises every day!) of A Course in Miracles. Make seeing a new reality your priority! :)


Direct download: Pam_mixdown2.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:07pm EDT

This week's show is with Craig Polsfuss, MA, LP, MSW, LICSW (Emeritus), an Integral Psychologist with three decades of experience. Craig has advanced training and is a published national leader in both the Three Principles psycho-spiritual (non-religious) understanding and the Higher Brain Living neuroscience “New Human” program.

Craig is totally convinced that both will contribute to the healing and well being of millions, and to an eventual shift in global consciousness unlike anything seen previously in human history.

In this show we spoke about what Craig's seen about the potential to live from our higher brain.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • The higher brain or the prefrontal cortex is little used in most of us (except monks who have meditated for decades!) but the potential is there for all of us.
  • We can release the energy that's in the body up into the higher brain and then into the heart. Our circuity becomes integrated and the two hemispheres of the brain become more coherent.
  • Even when we're already living a happy fulfilling life, Craig's experience of switching on his higher brain shows that we can discover even deeper levels of contentment.


Direct download: Craig_mixdown.mp3
Category:general -- posted at: 3:05pm EDT

This week's show is with Rene (Renay) Brent is Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, an #1 International Bestseller author of the book How Big Is Your BUT?, International speaker and on faculty for The Institute of Interpersonal Hypnotherapy. Rene has been an RN for over 25 years and has worked in ICU, Trauma/ER and Recovery Room

She helps her clients use the power of the deep inner mind to release blocks and reach personal and professional goals.

In this show we spoke about the impact that subconscious blocks (or: our 'buts') can have on us and what happens when we let go of them.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We almost all have subconscious blocks (which could also be described as stories, agreements or beliefs) that get in the way of us doing the things we want.
  • Start listening to what your mind and body are saying… and notice when you say 'but' - that's a clue to your block.
  • When you feel anxious, scared or whatever, listen to your body 'Touch the place you feel the emotion, breathe in, say relax and breathe out.'
  • As you begin to recognise your ‘but’, you can also notice that you have the capacity to open up to new solutions and ideas.
Direct download: Rene_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:05am EDT

This week's show is with Darcia Narvaez, Professor of Psychology at the University of Notre Dame. Darcia publishes extensively on moral development and education. Author or editor of 13 books, her most recent authored books include Embodied Morality: Protectionism, Engagement and Imagination, and Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture and Wisdom, which won the William James Book Award from the American Psychological Association.  She is a fellow of the American Psychological Association and the American Educational Research Association. She is executive editor of the Journal of Moral Education. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today (“Moral Landscapes”).

Her academic scholarship has moved from work on nonconscious moral rationality, to moral character education in the schools, to the neurobiology of moral development, to the study of evolved parenting practices, and the study of small-band hunter-gatherers who represent the type of society in which humans evolved.

All this comes together in a moral developmental systems theory that emphasizes the ongoing epigenetic plasticity of how we develop our humanity and our morality. We are co-constructed by our families and our experiences. Ultimately, Darcia's concerns are for developmental optimization and fulfilling human potential—actionable communal imagination.

In this show we spoke about how a sense of  connection is so vital to humans ability to thrive (so much so that 'Tribe' is one of our 7 Primal Fundamentals in our Primal State Formula). What's morality and cooperation like in our ancestral, indigenous setting? What can we do to reconnect in this crazy modern world?

Darcia takes us through the experience of children who are raised in line with ancestral indigenous ways, what this looks and feels like, and what kind of adult that results in. We then got into the consequences when children aren't raised in this way (ie the norm for most of us being raised in a typically Western way). And lastly, what we can do to change things for the better - how we can become more connected.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we're raised in an 'evolved nest' (which is typical of our ancestral, indigenous way of parenting) then we grow with a sense of deep connectedness to everything (literally everything!)
  • To move away from this disconnected and egoic way that most of us are living we need to change how we're raising babies and children - we need to make them our true priority.
  • Follow your instincts... that you're connected to everything, play more, be silly, use your imagination to have empathy for others. That way we can create a better world for us all.
Direct download: Darcia_Round_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:46am EDT

This week's show is with Briana and Dr. Peter Borten. They have made it their mission to create a more peaceful world by helping individuals reestablish a sense of inner peace and balance. They are the founders of The Dragontree, a wellness organization with holistic spas in Portland and Boulder, online courses, natural body care products, and resources for vibrant living.

The secret to living an exceptional life — with fulfilling work and leisure, meaningful relationships, and time for oneself — is finding balance. Briana and Dr. Peter Borten have the strategies you need to achieve this all-important balance in your life — even in the face of chaos.

In this show we spoke about how to incorporate wellness into our work lives. In this show we spoke about how to incorporate wellness into our work life. It’s often where we most struggle to create and maintain the practices that serve us.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Sweetness: the things in our lives that feed our life, body and soul.  Are you making the space for sweetness in your life? What sweetness do you already have in your life that you can bring into your awareness. Bring your full self to your work - more present we are the more we can find the sweetness that's already there. Remembering the why of what you're doing at work. Focus on what's important. We're more efficient, we get more done, and we enjoy work more.
  • Structure: the architecture of our lives - how we organise what we do. Is your structure getting you to where you want to go? Is it supporting having sweetness and space in your life? Spend time planning your work what you want to do every day in your week - that allows you to be more present. When you know what you need to do and you've done it, you know you're done and can celebrate! And don't forget... you deserve to keep your agreements to yourself. :-)
  • Space: perspective to see the bigger picture and to not react to your thoughts, also being out in nature and reconnecting to the natural world. Make sure you have time for Space in your schedule. When we're more present we naturally create more space. Discovering your life purpose and your greatest gifts will open up spaciousness.
Direct download: Briana_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:13pm EDT

This week's show is with Molly Patrick. Molly is the co-founder of Molly's expertise used to be drinking red wine and is now on the Whole Food Plant Based diet. She guides people on their journey of changing what, how and why they eat in a way that sticks. Losing weight, getting off from medication and falling in love with life is just a taste of what Molly has to offer.

In this show we spoke about what gets in the way of us having acceptance of our body and what Molly's seen about how we can how to overcome our issues with body image and fall head over heels in love with our body instead. :-)

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Molly found that for her taking steps to remove unhealthy habits from her life was what led to her falling in love with her body, whilst she was still drinking heavily she lack the clarity to see herself differently. It isn't always necessary for it to happen in exactly that way or that order but as Molly said, seeing clearly is what allows us to see ourselves how we truly are.
  • We don't always need to follow a 4 step 'how to' plan to change, often simply having openness to something changing often seems to bring about an insight or an idea that allows that change to happen.
  • Reconnecting to what's more natural for humans, such as grounding our body in movement, connection to others and to nature, can be a powerful catalyst for feeling more love for our bodies.
Direct download: Molly_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 11:45am EDT

This week's show is with Rudi Kennard. Rudi is a Three Principles Facilitator and film-maker who has been travelling the world, interviewing other facilitators, teachers and people who have had their lives transformed through understanding the principles. After spontaneously experiencing a profound shift in consciousness 22 years ago, Rudi ‘searched’ to explain this insight with others so trained in many mind technologies including NLP and hypnotherapy, then went on to teach Chi Gong and mindfulness meditation.

Thirteen years ago he came across the three principles and trained with the originator Sydney Banks and it’s pioneer Dr Roger Mills. Rudi spent over three years full time voluntarily creating the web site as a free resource for the world, and now trains facilitator in the understanding internationally.
Rudi has written for magazines, spoken on the radio, and trained others in this understanding within the fields of addiction, business, education, to prison and jail inmates, and more recently with earthquake survivors in Nepal. Rudi is currently writing a book and filming a worldwide cinematic documentary on the three principles paradigm.

So on today's show, Rudi’s talking about how breaking up with his wife Jenny allowed him to understand relationships and the human experience more deeply, so in this show we explored the truth about love and also loss.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • We often think that we need a great relationship to be happy however we're never experiencing any relationship directly, we're experiencing our thoughts about relationships - and we can think differently about everything!
  • We all have natural resilience - when we get out of our own way, we can bounce back stronger than ever.
  • People often believe that a happy relationships is created by compromising and moulding yourself to fit what you think is your partner's idea of someone they would like to be with but it's worth exploring the truth of that and what else is possible.
Direct download: Rudi_3_Final_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 2:15pm EDT

And this week's show is with Tamsin Hartley. Tamsin worked as a physiotherapist in the NHS for ten years before taking time out to bring her young family up. She then retrained to work as a coach, trainer and workshop facilitator. She has always been drawn to using metaphor in her work, and when a friend introduced her to Clean Language it wasn’t long before she was hooked. Here was a respectful way of working with people’s metaphors that is both resourceful and richly creative.

Tamsin has combined the principles of mindful awareness with exploration using Clean Language to create the Listening Space – a new approach to listening to yourself and others that can help transform your life. She is author of the book ‘The Listening Space: A New Path to Personal Discover’ which is due to be launched in January 2017.

In this show we spoke about Tamsin's approach to empowering people to explore what's going on their subconscious and to provide the space for new perspectives, ideas and solutions.

What you'll learn from this episode:

The power of asking 'clean questions': 

  • (And) what kind of ... is that?
  • (And) is there anything else about ...?
  • (And) where/ whereabouts is ...?
Direct download: Tamsin_Hartley_mixdown_3.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 9:11am EDT