The Primal Happiness Show

This week's show is with Kim Kaase. As a professional business coach, consultant and transformational trainer she supports her clients by working with them to craft a clear personal vision while creating results that are important to them. She uses her background as a designer to creatively solve problems and approach challenges as a coach from a very unique perspective. 

Kim’s experience in creating breakthrough sales results as well as executing company vision and goals melds perfectly with her coaching career. As a dealer principal, Kim led sales and sales support teams to grow the dealership from $14mm in 2003 to $38mm in just 4 years while industry trends were going in the opposite direction.

Kim graduated from the University of Houston in 1990 with a BFA in Interior Design and a certification in Transformative Coaching. Her career has included work with a vast array of professional services firms and successful entrepreneurs.. She is the Principal at her firm, LEAP Business Coaching. In her free time she enjoys transformational work, bird watching, cooking and creating memories with her son, Rex. Kim’s vision includes creating a world where everyone leads lives that they absolutely love!

In this show we explored Kim's experience of reclaiming her inner juiciness and intimacy with both herself and her partner. As ever, Kim was totally open and shared the insecurities and surprises that she has experienced and what this relationship has shown her about control and vulnerability. Although this show is particularly relevant to anyone entering the dating world later in life or after a break-up, I actually think this show is relevant to anyone at almost any stage of a relationship!

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • Falling into flow, into the space of presence just doesn't allow any room for thought-created baggage and insecurities. Kim said the strategies and techniques she'd tried in the past to get over her insecurities around sex didn't work, however when she felt fully engaged and in the flow, they just weren't there!
  • The need for control is very common because it's a way that we can feel safe, however it's that very safety that stops us really living and feeling.  Kim said she would now take juicy over safety any day!
  • When we let go of trying to be someone that we believe people will love, instead we radiate who we really are - and as Kim says, others will be drawn to us like a moth to a flame. It's totally attractive!
Direct download: Kim_Kaase_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:59pm EDT

This week is the second show in which the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the second part of the story of her life.

f you haven't yet listened to to Part One I would highly recommend you do so before listening to Part Two. But if you have, you'll know that part 1 was amazing, just packed full of crazy, funny stories of Lian's life up until her mid-20s.

And on this week's show we carry on that exploration and while there might not be as many of those types of stories, this show is full power. We get into some key events that rocked Lian's world - including her experience of being attacked and then the aftermath, the surprising impact of losing her father, and discovering what was really creating her feelings - these events were the catalyst for incredible growth and transformation.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved how Lian cured her chronic facial pain and panic attacks simply through seeing the nature of thought and how it was creating her experience of life.However it is worth saying that Lian’s experience is probably on the rarer side certainly in terms of how quickly she made a full recovery yet understanding the role of thought seems to always have a profoundly beneficial effect, even if it’s a more gradual one. It can be helpful to focus more on the direction you are going in rather than the speed at which you are traveling in that direction.

  • Lian shared how when her father died she became aware of her connection to something bigger than her sense of self. No matter what you wish to call the intelligence all-creating force behind life - whether that’s God, spirit, source, Universal Mind or what we here at Primal Happiness call the Spirit Fundamental - what is undeniable is that it exists. And once we open up and deepen our awareness of it we can’t help but feel more connection, joy, love, meaning, and guidance.
Direct download: Lian_Part_2_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 5:42am EDT

This week's show is with Jeanne Catherine-Gray. Jeanne is deeply committed to transforming the landscape of contemporary psychology and its applications in the real world, Jeanne earned her MA in Psychological Well Being and is currently working on her Ph.D. in the Neuroscience of Psychological Experience.

Jeanne has successfully built a community of practitioners and provides training programs for coaches and therapists. Her voracious intellectual curiosity and comfort with listening for insight are complemented by her capacity for action and genuine care for other human beings.

Jeanne values a principle-based understanding that naturally improves listening and well being; increasing peace of mind, community satisfaction, and desirable outcomes. With twenty-four years of experience working with groups, Jeanne’s willingness to go straight to the heart of the problem, and not be afraid of anything, reaps great benefits at work, as a host on the radio show, Waking Up: The Neuroscience of Awareness and as a volunteer mediator & parent educator in Charlottesville, VA.

In this week's show we're talking about Jeanne's transformation from trauma through PTSD to coming out the other side as someone who is now successfully helping others to overcome their challenges.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • When we talk over and over about trauma it means we experience the trauma again - with all of the same feelings as we did during the original trauma.
  • Realising that her thoughts aren't true is what made change happen in all areas of Jeanne's life - not as a practice but as a realisation that naturally occurred.
  • Our brains are always changing, we can go back to an old way of thinking (or an 'old neighbourhood') but understanding that we can move to a new way of thinking (or a 'new neighbourhood') is a powerful choice that we have.
Direct download: Jeanne_mixdown.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 12:56pm EDT

This week the tables are turned on Lian and she becomes the guest!

Primal Happiness co-founder Jonathan Wilkinson is in the host's chair and guides Lian through the story of her life. She covered her early years living as a single parent family with her father, travelling Europe, her struggles with fitting in at school and work, and discovering the possible reason for those struggles.

This show is packed with so many fascinating, inspiring, slightly weird :) and incredibly funny stories that I know you'll love. In fact, there was so much awesomeness that we had to make this a two part show so this is part 1 and part 2 will follow shortly. In part 2, Lian will share the surprising impact of losing her father, discovering what was really creating her feelings, and more.

What you'll learn from this episode:

  • I loved the example of how the universe always provides when you’re open and aligned to its flow. That’s something we have become so disconnected from in this modern world. And I appreciate for some that’s a hard thing to get your head around let alone believe, but it’s true. It’s only because of the domestication of the human animal that this law of nature has been hidden from view.

    Have a play with breaking free from your domestication and reclaim your alignment to nature’s great flow.

  • I also wanted to highlight the power of the Socratic approach to learning that Lian’s father used with Lian and Lian subsequently uses with her children. This approach is around drawing the learning out from the student as opposed to pushing it onto them. In this world of google where we've been conditioned to crave instant answers, instant gratification without first taking a journey of exploration ourselves to arrive at the answer is stunting the growth of our consciousness and the collective consciousness of the world.

    If you have children or even young family members the next time they ask you something, instead of just giving them the answer maybe take the time to have a mini adventure with them and simply reply “I’m not sure... what do you think?” and see where that takes you. 😃
  • And lastly, Lian shared her story of being a misfit and the challenges that came from that. And how as she’s got older she’s become more accepting of who she is and that’s allowed her gifts to shine brighter. As ever, when we accept and embrace our uniqueness and the uniqueness in others, it has the power to do incredible things in the world.That’s the design of the system that’s the default setting, it’s just that we've lost touch with how to cultivate inspire and nurture the uniqueness in humans. We no longer celebrate people's unique gifts as we’ve been conditioned to turn inward in a never ending and soul destroying pursuit of the status quo. A world where we are all trying to be the same simply does not work!

    How can you celebrate and nurture your unique gifts and how can you do the same in others?

Direct download: Lian_Podcast_mixdown3.mp3
Category:Interview -- posted at: 10:04am EDT