This week's show is with the wonderful Bill Cumming and Grace M Smith. Bill is a thirty-year coaching veteran and Director of The Boothby Institute. He has been a coach, consultant and trainer to CEOs and the executive teams of health care delivery organizations, businesses, school systems and non-profit organizations. He is a key partner in the New Horizons Academy. This is the third time Bill's been on this show, he is an incredibly inspiring man and if you haven't listened to the previous ones then I so recommend you do so!

Grace is Creative Director of The Boothby Institute and Program Designer for A World that works for everyone.

Today we're talking about the amazing work Bill and Grace are doing to help create a world which works for everyone, how they define the being and doing of that work, and how you can be part of the movement too.

We’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation…  please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• There's the being and the doing of creating a world that works for everyone.
• The being is about treating people with dignity, respect and loving kindness - the more we come from that grounding of wellbeing, the more we create from that place and the more that feeling spreads
• The doing is to stop operating in silos and acting like any one of has the answer - we need to start listening to the solutions that people have created and are creating all over the world.
• It's then about how we - Bill, Grace, the people they work with and me and you - collaborate and put those answers into action. How we can all be that change.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• The practices of deepening into sacred intimacy is found across the world and throughout history, it seems like this something that's universal to humans.
• The three pillars that Justin spoke about are:
  • Presence: the embodiment of consciousness. We would love to be penetrated and held by a consciousness that we trust more than our own. We long to to be seen and loved in our totality. And whilst we want it more than anything in the world, its also the scariest thing in the world because opening that much comes with the risk of being hurt. The feminine heart will continually test that presence to see if it can be trusted.
  • Polarity: this is the creative tension that occurs between the poles of masculine and feminine, light and awareness, or form and formless and that in sexual relationships creates that juicy and exciting spark. This will typically be automatically there at the beginning of a relationship but can also be consciously cultivated in long term relationships. For depth, the first pillar of presence is necessary first.
  • Devotion: this is required to show up in this dynamic of intimacy over and over again. It isn't something that's forced upon us, in this modern world we can be independent and self-reliant, however if we desire something more than independence, we can choose into devotion to another person and to the path of deepening into spiritual intimacy with them.

 https://primalhappiness.co/podcast/episode229

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

It also airs live on facebook on the first Friday of every month at 10am (UK time).

In this episode, Lian talked about...

• What I’ve been loving lately: Watson, my new puppy, wish lists, and my monthly day off
•  And the main topic... Money magic: how to allow it in

* Why I see that your relationship with money links to your primal happiness (yes, I know it seems incongruous!)

* How we got here

* How we can create an empowered relationship to money (emotionally and spiritually and also practically)

* As ever, I’ll share all the intimate details of my own money story

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

It also airs live on facebook on the first Friday of every month at 10am.

In this episode, Lian talked about...

• What I’ve been loving lately: books, rocks, movement and more!
•  How to stop numbing your magic (Or... to remember who you are, you need to forget who they told you to be).

This week's show is with Dr. Tumi Johnson, M.D. Dr Tumi believes that to truly thrive means embracing our wholeness; and she embodies that through all of her work as a physician, poet and dancer.

Dr Tumi started out as a mainstream doctor who had a passion for dance that she originally kept very separate. Over the years in a series of twist and turns, dark nights of the soul and unexpected opportunities, she's blended her traditional training, her extensive nutrition expertise, her skill as a yoga teacher and her passion for dance into a unique, holistic and highly effective way of working with her patients, to achieve and sustain their most vibrant well-being.

Through her work, she has had many patients heal a myriad of issues ranging from diabetes to hormonal imbalances to persistent weight challenges.

This week's show is a very special one, it's a Lian & Jono Show in which we, Lian Brook-Tyler and Jonathan Wilkinson, go deep on a topic that's alive for us. Unless you’ve listened to Jonathan's previous episodes on this show or are part of one of our programs you’re might not be familiar with Jonathan - who’s actually the other half of Primal Happiness and he's the man behind the voice you just heard during the podcast intro at the beginning of the show. In this show, we explored Jonathan's recent experience of embarking on a vision quest. We explored what a vision quest is, why it's so beneficial to unplug ourselves from our conditioning and day to day habits, and power of the austerity and challenge.

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topic: Caveats, Assumptions & Labels: how we hide (and what we can do instead)

This week's show is Lian's All The Everything where she jams on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions:

1. Dealing with conflict (thanks Jenny!)
2. How we create drama
3. Balancing being a mother and being yourself (thanks Hayley!) 
4. Raising children to love their bodies
5. Staying when you feel like you don't belong

This week's show is with teacher, consultant and change management expert Patrick O’Neill, author of "The Only Certain Freedom: The Transformative Journey of the Entrepreneur," an unconventional and highly-acclaimed business book that draws its teachings from the wisdom of the Hero’s Journey, and what modern entrepreneurs can learn from the ancient myths of heroes like Hercules and Odysseus.

This week's show is the first of a brand new monthly format! It's Lian's All The Everything where she'll jam on an eclectic mix of topics, including questions from listeners. It also airs weekly live on facebook. This is where you can get up close and personal with Lian, get inside her head and see what's she's up to and thinking about.

In this episode, Lian jammed on the following topics and questions:

My failure this week

Women’s circles

Asking for what you need (from Emma)

My explorations into hypnotism

What's your dream bio?

Are you For or Against

Being the lighthouse

This week's show is with Alison Armstrong, Alison’s exploration of human behavior began in 1991, with her decision to study men, “To find out how I was bringing out the worst in them. And hopefully, how to bring out the best.” Her success in understanding men naturally led to studying women’s behavior and making vital connections between the two.

Armstrong distinguishes human instincts that compel both men and women to behave in ways that contradict and undermine our own purposes, goals, values, needs and relationships. She offers partnership-based alternatives giving millions of people access to more fulfilling lives, loving relationships, stronger families and productive organizations.

Armstrong is a sought-after speaker and thought-leader amongst people with the desire to live empowered lives. Alison’s philosophy and approach is frequently referenced and taught by other authors, speakers, business consultants and therapists.

In this conversation, Alison and I explored what inspired her work in studying men to understand them better. We spoke about how we can live in a way that honours our natural strengths and allows men and women to complement each other instead of being in conflict or competition with each other.  This show went far deeper than I expected! Alison talked about our evolutionary instincts, how simply asking better questions can change our perception, and our growth in consciousness. This truly was a corker of a show!

This week's show is with Dominic Scaffidi, Dominic’s purpose is to inspire greatness.  He is committed to people and organizations being extraordinary and producing extraordinary results. 

Dominic has coached executives and senior leaders in a variety of organizations as they take on challenges including new roles, goals, dealing with significant change/transition and new projects.  He helps leaders engage the full potential of their people to achieve unprecedented performance.  His approach is to engage with leaders through intentional conversations that cause them to generate new thinking, create new strategies and produce new actions in areas that are most important.

As President and founder at HR Possibilities Inc., Dominic’s focus is executive coaching, team coaching, and training managers to develop coaching skills. 

With over 25 years of business experience as an HR executive, sales manager, entrepreneur, and consultant; Dominic has worked with leading edge global organizations across a variety of industries including consumer packaged goods, pharmaceutical, software, telecommunications, financial services, retail, public sector and non-profit. 

In this show, we spoke about Dominic's incredible clear understanding and personal experiences of abundance. In fact, he goes further than that to describe it as overflowing abundance - in that we can never use up all there is. This isn't about thinking positively or simply wishing for a new Tesla or whatever, it's simply understanding the design of life and how we can align ourselves with it to experience all the abundance that life has to offer.

This week's show is with Arthur Haines, who describes himself as a forager, ancestral skills mentor, author, public speaker and botanical researcher... but that's just because he's so humble! In reality, he's an oracle of deep knowledge and understanding of the natural world. He's been helping people explore human ecology for over 20 years, with the mission of developing deep awareness of and connection to nature, promoting individual health, and fostering self-reliance. If understanding botany was a super-power (and it probably is), Arthur is a true super hero!

He grew up in the western mountains of Maine, a rural area that was home to swift streams known for their trout fishing. He spent most of his childhood in the Sandy River Valley hiking, tracking, and foraging.

Arthur now runs the Delta Institute of Natural History in Canton, Maine, where he teaches human ecology, focusing on the values of foraging, wildcrafting medicine, and primitive living skills.  He continues to spend a great deal of his free time practicing his skills as a modern hunter-gatherer.  As a research botanist for the New England Wildflower Society, he recently completed a comprehensive flora of the New England region entitled “Flora Novae Angliae” and has authored over twenty publications in peer-reviewed journals and books, including naming species of plants new to science.  His series of YouTube videos has inspired thousands of people interested in foraging wild edible and medicinal plants.

In this conversation, we spoke about the importance of community - another of Arthur's passions and areas of deep knowledge... Arthur explains what he means when he talks about 'community' (and it might be a little different to your definition), why being part of a community is in accordance with our evolutionary expectations, and how these days most of us lack community (as Arthur said in this show 'Almost everything about the current structure of society stands in stark contradiction to how we lived as people prior to the agricultural revolution.'), and what the issues with that are.

We ended on a positive note with Arthur's practical suggestions of how we can all create community in today’s modern world.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• Human's real need for community sits alongside other aspects that we understand are critical to human health that have been formed by our evolutionary history, such as food and movement. The issues of going it alone include conditions that are considered the norm in modern culture such as anxiety, depression, shame, struggles and stresses.

• Arthur defines community as 'place and commons'. In indigenous communities, everyone held the land in common, they all have common landscape that they get to feed themselves from, heal themselves from, and get to connect to that place that they share with all of the members of their community.

• True communities are bound by a cohesion created by a common needs and is exemplified by real equality and wealth distribution, such as indirect reciprocal gift economy. Everyone is in it together and no-one gets to step outside the stresses that the community is experiencing.

• We are typically held back from creating real community because of our attachment to convenience and comfort - we are used to privacy and doing what we want when we want. We can take baby steps in this direction by keep our communities small enough so we can know every member deeply, have a connection to our common place, and no hierarchy: everyone is equal, no matter their age or ability.

This week is the first of its breed! It's the first Lian & Jono show in which we, Lian Brook-Tyler and Jonathan Wilkinson, go deep on a topic that we're seeing is coming up with our one-to-one clients. 

On this week's show, we’re talking about the super power vision. What we see comes up over and over in coaching sessions is the importance of having a vision, what happens when we don’t have one, and also why it’s vital to include all parts of life in your vision.

So many people don’t have a vision, And sometimes that just an oversight but we also know some people actually believe that it’s somehow a bad thing - or unspiritual even :)  to have one. So we’ll dig right into what’s going on there.  

When we have a vision it really acts as a powerful guiding light so you can be more present, open and adaptable to whatever’s showing up in the moment. 

We’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• Firstly, what a vision is: It isn’t: Goals or solely achievements or a list of material items and it is: An holistic and aligned sense of how you’d like to be showing up in the world.  
• Whether you’re aware of having a vision, you have one! You’ve either have a vision that you’ve consciously created or you’re living out the one you’ve been given by the culture you’re in. Why it’s natural to have a vision - Purpose/reason for being, for the good of our tribe, for the good of the generations to come, to honour our ancestors way, etc. So why not create vision that actually works for you?!
• Get it out there by writing it down, drawing it or creating a vision board
• And lastly, give yourself permission!

This week's show is with Zakiya Gayle, The Confident Woman's Secret Weapon. Her mantra of "every woman deserves to feel like a goddess" has led her to bring over 300 powerful women's inner Fire back to life on the beaches of Tobago, Barbados, and St. Lucia.

Zakiya understands intimately the power of connection and mystique. Using her signature Z Method, Zakiya helps a select group of women per year discover the secrets of true connection and learn how to use it to improve their business, relationships, and life.

I’d love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let’s carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• Most women today have been conditioned to cover up metaphorically and literally, to live small and to hide their feminine power - the pandemic of invisibility as Zakiya describes it. Zakiya talks about recognising that all women have the potential for creating life. When we recognise and embrace that creative, euphoric energy, we grow used to living that way and it feels like home.

• Get in touch with your body, give yourself pleasure and get to know your energy and your true self. Discover where you've hidden your soul. When you know the true beauty of yourself and your body then no-one can tell you anything negative about you or your body that has any impact. Conversely when you feel love for yourself then you don't need it from others but instead you can be open to enjoy and play with it.

• I loved how Zakiya talked about looking in the mirror and feeling love and appreciation for yourself - ask yourself "What's my favourite part of myself?" That's something that I've been trying recently and initially it was surprisingly alien but has already become more natural.

• Lastly, I could really feel what Zakiya talked about women's communities and connection and how much we lack that in today's modern world. That role of the community has been removed as if we can somehow continue function well without it. Let's see how we can start to grow together, support each other, talk to each other's souls... and let's see the awesomeness that we can create together then!

This week's show is with Angela Mastwijk. After a short career in international banking, Angela became a stay-at-home mom, freelance translator, journalist-with-a-weekly-newspaper-column, private tutor and a spiritual seeker.

When her 14 year old son stopped eating and was diagnosed with anorexia, she decided to look for and speak to his innate health, refusing (most of the time at least) to buy into all the fearful thinking surrounding this label. She wrote a book about his swift recovery and their joint journey of uncovering their well-being and clarity.

Later on, stumbling across the Three Principles, Angela gained a deeper understanding of the workings of the human experience, which profoundly changed the nature of the conversations she now has with adolescents struggling with eating disorders, their parents and other people seeking guidance via the ShiftAcademy, a company she co-founded with colleague Linda Spaanbroek to bring the inside out understanding to the Netherlands.

Angela has written four books; her latest (children’s) book is Inside Out Izzy, a story about a very ordinary, nine year old girl discovering the inside out nature of life.

In this show we talked about Angela's experience of her own son's recovery and of how she helps parents and their children who are struggling with eating disorders, anxiety and other challenges.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• We can either look at a child's labels or we can look at their innate health which is always there... regardless of what appears to be going on on the surface.

• When a child is struggling, we can either jump in our own boat of fear and start rowing desperately alongside them or we can be the lighthouse which beams love.

• When we see a child as having its own inner strength, we give them the space to flourish in their own unique way, free of our expectations and judgements.

This week's show is with Craig Polsfuss, MA, LP, MSW, LICSW (Emeritus), an Integral Psychologist with three decades of experience. Craig has advanced training and is a published national leader in both the Three Principles psycho-spiritual (non-religious) understanding and the Higher Brain Living neuroscience “New Human” program.

Craig is totally convinced that both will contribute to the healing and well being of millions, and to an eventual shift in global consciousness unlike anything seen previously in human history.

In this show we spoke about what Craig's seen about the potential to live from our higher brain.

What you'll learn from this episode:

• The higher brain or the prefrontal cortex is little used in most of us (except monks who have meditated for decades!) but the potential is there for all of us.

• We can release the energy that's in the body up into the higher brain and then into the heart. Our circuity becomes integrated and the two hemispheres of the brain become more coherent.

• Even when we're already living a happy fulfilling life, Craig's experience of switching on his higher brain shows that we can discover even deeper levels of contentment.

I’m speaking to international Speaker, trainer, coach AND former rapper (he opened for the Wu-Tang Clan!) Jason Goldberg.

Jason is all about Art of (Self) Leadership… how to take ownership of your spirit, your energy and your life to take action, become more prosperous and have a bigger impact in the world!

We had a ball recording this and I think you’re going to love it.

What you’ll learn from the show:

How self-leadership is all about ARC…

• Awareness: Recognising the situation and our part in it for what it is. Recognising that the trigger ‘out there’ and our feeling in here don’t have a direct connection, our feelings are created by our thoughts.

• Responsibility: our ability to respond. Which means that no matter the circumstances, the triggers, the past and how we’ve always done things, once we have awareness we can respond in all kinds of ways.

• Choice: Now we’re aware of what’s going on and recognise our ability to respond in many different ways, we get the opportunity to make a choice:  “What actions and behaviours will move me towards where I want to be?”

The lazy way to massive success.. with Anthony Davis

This week I'm speaking to Anthony Davis, coach, writer and curious pioneer in the field of practical and productive simplicity. Anthony's background is in systems planning, ecology, and business coaching and over the years has seen the genius of simplicity and doing less. 

Today we're talking The Principle of Least Action and how it creates an amazing life. His projects include: simplifying business, simplifying projects, simplifying skiing, simplifying life. And all with taking the least amount of time and energy.  In essence, Anthony shares his secrets for success the lazy way. Oh and it ends with a real gem! :)

What you'll learn in this show:

• Anthony believes that if something looks difficult then you're just not seeing it right. If we take the time to really understand what's going on then awesomely simple and easy opportunities will arise.

• The genius of following natural tendencies - how something will play out if left alone or with little intervention - we allow the system to do the work for us - Anthony gives a great example of his dad's lawn on this one!

• I'll let Anthony sum up the last gem in his own words...

  "Now a phobia is something where we get a reaction without the stimulus being present. For example, someone with a spider phobia feels uncomfortable experiencing the thought of spiders without them being present. And, we all know it’s not the spider creating the reaction, because there isn’t a spider present. So we don’t blame the spider or try to change it, because we know it’s not the spider that’s creating the feeling and experience. Well, it’s the same with all thoughts. We can blame people, food, work, money, relationships, events in our lives, backgrounds, or whatever as the cause of our feelings.  But that’s a phobic reaction. When you’re not at work, but feeling uncomfortable or worrying or stressing about work, like the spider, it can’t be the work that’s the cause, as it’s not present.That’s a phobic reaction. They’re all phobic reactions. And the cause? It’s never the spider or thing. Just our thinking in the moment that we’re experiencing.

  Oh, and happiness and feeling good. If you think that’s coming from someone or something (and not even present), then logically that has to a phobic reaction too.It can only work one way. It’s always an inside job"

This week I'm speaking to the amazing Amir Karkouti! Amir suggested today that we talk about: F*CK THEORY: How The Principles helped my Marriage, Erectile Dysfunction and Patients Who Were On the Verge Of Suicide!

Amir is a Transformative Coach and the owner of a chain of restaurants in San Diego. Along with being a coach and a business owner, Amir also volunteers for people who are struggling with Post Finasteride Syndrome (PFS).

So in this episode Amir shares his story about how he took a prescription drug (Finasteride) for prostrate cancer prevention and which completely messed up his complete endocrine system, resulting in all kinds of physical issues including erectile dysfunction.  According to doctors, Amir was supposed to be a depressed suicidal... they couldn't figure out how he could possibly be happy in spite of what the drug had done to his body. He shares that 'how' with us.

Oh and the story has a really happy ending too... you'll have to listen to the show to find out. :)

What you'll learn in this show:

• Something is only a problem when we think it's a problem. Circumstances are neutral but will look like a problem when our thinking is making it a problem.

• When we understand that circumstances don't create happiness or unhappiness we become open to the fact that gifts are available in any circumstance, even the hardest, strangest ones!

• As we understand that we only ever experiencing a thought created reality, that understanding in itself creates different thinking and a different experience - Amir gave some really powerful examples of this fact.

What success really is (and why meaning matters!)... with Peter Fallenius

 This week I'm speaking with Peter Fallenius. Peter is an elite coach, entrepreneur, innovator and creator of Genius is simple. 

Peter asserts people rarely even stop to think about what success really is and then really don't have the first clue how to go about getting it. So in today's show we're going to be talking about what success really is (and why meaning is critical).

What you'll learn in this show:

• Realise what creates meaning (from Deci and Ryan's self-determination theory):

1. To Learn, and Create, if not for survival.... (Competence)

2. To make Choices for survival in a changing world... (Autonomy)

3. To Connect, for company, but also because ability to form teams is crucial in a changing world... (Relatedness)

• Notice the same things that create meaning also put people in a brilliant position for success.

• Decide if you are going to leave meaning to chance.

• If meaning matters, then do more of what creates it, less of what undermines it.

Why insomnia is all made up... with Jen Lucas

 This week I'm exploring insomnia with Jen Lucas.  Jen is a mental health educator, and she describes herself as recovering from many years of overactive seriousness! One of the ways that seriousness showed up in her life is dedicating years of her life to solving her insomnia. She now says 'insomnia is made up'! If you think that's a ridiculous statement then this is the show for you!

In this episode you'll learn:

• Just because something seems real, it doesn't mean it is real - we can make so many things seem like a big serious struggle and devote a lot of energy to them, but that doesn't mean that there's anything going on other than a belief that we have.

• When Jen saw that she'd made up a story about sleep - she became a lot less interested in creating any stories about it at all - either good or bad. This is true in so many other areas of life. Can you see where, completely innocently, you've created a story?

• Techniques can create even more issues - Jen and I talked after the show about the various approaches that she's been recommended for good sleep such as using the correct lighting or not using devices before bed. She said that none of them worked (and in fact I know people who have ended up creating OCD around their sleep techniques) because it isn't those things that create our body's ability to sleep. Our body is designed to sleep all on its own! Just like it's designed to do so many other things very naturally and easily!

How to choose a purposeful life... with Samuel Hershberger

This week I'm exploring purpose with Sam Hershberger. Sam is a life coach who works with entrepreneurs, coaches, and engineers and helps them create extraordinary lives.

Sam believes that living with purpose is a choice we can all make.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Choosing the experiences which feed the mechanism - just like feeding your body with good food is more likely to create great health, Sam was speaking about feeding your mind with things that are more likely to trigger the kind of thoughts that will create a great, happy experience of life.

• If you were going to die tomorrow, is this what you'd do today? When the thought of death scares us it's often because we're doing things that we don't want to be doing with our life. When we live each day and each experience in a way in a purposeful way then we're present with our own mortality. We're aware that each day could be our last and we're OK with that.

• Using higher consciousness! When we notice we have clarity, it's a great time in which we can make the choices that will serve us in times of lower consciousness.

Life as a teenager with anxiety... with Sebastian Eck

Sebastian Eck realised that he was struggling with anxiety in social situations and dating when he was in his teens. Sebastian has since found a natural calm and confidence and has gone on to run workshops for people who are homeless and has created online resources for people seeking peace of mind.

Sebastian and I spoke about all kinds of areas relating to anxiety and the causes of it. Here were my best bits:

Seeing through his story of anxious
Sebastian realised that his anxiety was purely a belief that he'd created and believed. He believed he didn't know how to make a connection with others. He now sees he already has everything he needs - he can naturally connect with others, we all can once we drop the beliefs that are in the way.

The struggle to become whole
Sebastian described doing lots of self-help and self improvement work. He created a mask which allowed him to go out and socialise and talk to women but it felt like a struggle. What he has seen since he's already complete and that we all already  have happiness inside us.

Realising that he's not running the show
Sebastian described the huge shift of realising that he isn't the one who needs to make things happen, life is just coming through him, there's a force that's playing out and making life happen, without him needing to be in control.

This is the second time that we get to be a fly on the wall to a coaching session between certified transformative coach John El-Mokadem and his new client Kate who wants coaching around issues in her relationship.

Kate believed that past trauma had set her on the course for her current relationship issues but she discovered in this session that the past isn't always how it appears.

This episode was a wisdom-bomb-a-minute but here were my absolute faves!

• Kate's big insight! "I realised that there was never anything wrong. I was always OK, I just thought I wasn't"
  This is a huge realisation that her past self wasn't broken and that means that the past can't dictate her life in the present or the choices she makes going forward. Yesssss!

• How do we meet our partner's needs without subjugating our own  needs?
  John described how the more of his beliefs about needs have dropped away, the less he seems to need on the outside and the more he sees that his needs are already met on the inside. Life doesn't need to be a certain way for him to feel happy.

• How do we get into a quiet space?
  John explained how the very act of noticing an icky feeling and realising where it comes from [thought], the more he seem to settle down and start to look into the direction that fresh thought and insight comes from.

• How do we stop just drifting along in life?
  Kate's concern is that she needs agency - she needs control over her life and circumstances, John described how he's seen that his happiness doesn't come from illusory control, and his previous attempts at control were making him less happy. The destination that we're all working towards, it's all here in this moment.

• What about dealing with real life issues like a shortage of money?
  The more we're coming from insecure thought (life has to be like x, I need to be like y, i need to earn z) all get in the way of allowing success and happiness to flow through us. Life is already being handled, we don't need to make it happen. The more we let go of insecure thought, the more ideas, answers and opportunities that we notice.

This week we're listening in on a business coaching session between transformative coach Piers Thurston and his new client Vicky. Vicky wants to create a successful coaching and personal development business and wants to be coached around her lack of confidence about making decisions.

I loved how Piers guided Vicky to see that she'd managed to overcome other perceived obstacles in other parts of her life, it happened naturally as soon as she stopped putting weight into her thoughts about them. The same can be true of any of our beliefs, fears and limitations.

This episode is a fabulous example of how an understanding of the three principles allows us to easily see how the principle of Thought is creating our reality and our perception of issues, regardless whether it's in business or anything else.

Vicky reaped such useful insights from this one session that she's asked to postpone the follow-up conversations to a later date so she can focus on her studies in the coming weeks.

"I really enjoyed my session with Piers as it was so useful to have someone make me see the two hurdles I was specifically finding with my new business are ultimately all part of the same thing, the made up story.  Something I am very aware of with some parts of my life but had never associated it with these other areas; this was very freeing and fun to play with and to trivialize the impact of them."

Sorry, I know it's a shame not to hear how Vicky's journey continue next week but we'll catch up with her again in future. We've got a fab show lined up for you next week with the transformative coach and all-round bit of awesome Eirik Grunde Olsen. Eirek and I are talking about business (and all sorts of other things!) on the show - I know you'll love him!

The final and truly transformative session between coach and money expert Viv Barclay and her client Emma around Emma’s debt issues and how she can find happiness.

What a brilliant episode this was – a must-listen for anyone with any kind of addictive thinking. These were my favourite parts:

•  All thoughts are lies
  Our thoughts only have the meaning that we give to them.
• How our thoughts create our feelings and experience
  And it looks really real! Nothing has changed physically for Emma but she feels completely different! I loved the bit where she talks about realising how amazing she is!
• Thoughts fall into two categories: insecure and secure
  If the feeling isn’t good then it’s pointing to the fact that our thoughts are insecure and are going to be less helpful to take seriously
• All addictions are created by addictive thoughts
  An understanding of the three principles helps us to see this

Speaking to author, coach and speaker Julian Freeman about the three principles, seeing through our thoughts and fears about money and returning to our default setting of happiness.

My favourite take-aways:

The hamster wheel of life

• We can be so focused on working faster and harder to get 'somewhere' that we don't even realise we're on the hamster wheel.
• The hamster wheel is not our true identity.
• Life isn't about the money that we as individuals are busy creating on our hamster wheel. There's a flow of money and so we're always only playing with the casino's chips. It might feel like it's our money but it came from somewhere else and then will flow on somewhere - we're just holding it for the moment.

Just showing up as you

• There's no blueprint or technique to make money work for everyone - the power is in who we are as individuals.
• How we are is what we attract to us.
• We just have to show up as ourselves to get off the hamster wheel and to see the abundance of opportunities, money and experiences.

How we're like our Phones

• We have a default setting - we mess with the settings, we try to improve ourselves. One button can take the phone back to default and likewise one realisation can take us back to our default setting - our true self.
• Our auto-pilot takes care of things better than when we're trying to control things.
• We have have an inbuilt, self-righting mechanism. We all have a super-power of resilience!

Amy Hardison is the wife of the acclaimed 'Ultimate Coach' Steve Hardison. Steve suggested we interview Amy for The Born Happy Show as she's the happiest person he knows.

It was fascinating speaking to Amy and to hear how natural happiness is for her. Amy spoke about:

• Her parents both being very happy and her upbringing being full of happiness, love and self-esteem. Amy said feels that we don't need to be perfect to be amazing parents.
• Navigating difficult times in life is easier when you recognise that you won't feel the same way forever - even by tomorrow you'll probably feel differently.
• Happiness comes from having acceptance both for who we are and also what we aren't (accepting that others will be better at some things).

It's worth saying that we had a lot of issues with the phone line during the interview, getting cut off several times, but Amy was just so calm and wonderful throughout!

Enjoy!
Lian xo

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom and happiness... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching her client Emma in their second session, using the three principles understanding.

It's a golden episode and there were SO many great points. These were my top three:

• Thought addictions
  When we don't understand that thoughts create feelings we can get addicted to certain thoughts thinking that they're causing the great feeling. We can also swap an addiction from one thought for another.Emma's BOOM! Insight was:  "Wow! you could totally switch shopping for being addicted to exercise."Even though it seems that exercising makes us feel good, the feelings aren't coming from the activity, they're still coming from inside: our thinking about the activity.

Looking at those thoughts and fears around money and debt so we can realise Financial Freedom... we've got the Transformative Coach and Money Expert Viv Barclay coaching a brand new client, Emma using the three principles understanding.

Emma bears her soul in this session and I could identify with so much of what she was saying. I imagine you will too as I think most of us have felt the way that she's felt, even if the visible expression of it isn't issues around money.

Viv was incredibly insightful! In particular, I loved these three key points she made.

• Our thought of not being 'enough' and that other people are better than us in some way is often the root of us getting into debt. Seeing that all we're doing is engaging in the specific CONTENT of thinking brings acceptance for how we are, just as we are.
• The more we resist how we're feeling, the more the state persists. Rather than wrestling and trying to change how we feel rather we can welcome the feelings in. We can allow ourselves to get drenched in the feeling like we're walking in the rain. The feelings will dissipate all by themselves.
• Notice how much the outside world, the media and adverts are tapping into our deepest emotions, and especially fear. Making it easy for us to spend money 'buy now, pay later'. Telling us that we need 'stuff' to be happy, whole and valuable.

I also loved Emma talking about being able to see the humour in some of her thoughts, such as 'surfer girl' thought and how seeing the funny side of our thoughts, in itself makes life feels happier, lighter and less serious.

We'll catch up with Emma and Viv again on next Thursday's show!

The third and final coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an expert on weight loss and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her client Amy.

Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives, through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains:

• Although it was clear that Amy had made many positive changes, Amy had not seen them herself. Change sneaks up on us because we quickly take for granted our new habits of thought.
• There’s no such thing as failure and sabotage. We’re only ever testing ourselves against our own made-up thoughts.
• There’s no end state or conclusion to weight loss, or indeed, anything else in  happiness or life! Every day is a new one and every day we will have fresh thought and will feel differently.

Show notes:

This is the second coaching session between Elaine Hilides, an experienced Wellbeing Facilitator and the author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book ‘Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book’ and her new client Amy.

Elaine’s approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it’s very, very effective – she’s helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives through sharing the three principles. In this episode, Elaine explains:

• Seeing through the ‘I can never eat that again’ thought allows us makes choices about what we really want to eat
• How our bodies tell us when we’re full – it’s when the taste declines (is it just me who completely misses that signal?!)
• That we’re all perfect and happy :) and how we can let go of the negative self-talk as we see it’s just thought

We’ll be catching up with Elaine and Amy in a month’s time to see how Amy’s getting on.

Elaine Hilides, an experienced Wellbeing Facilitator and author of No.1 ranked Amazon Kindle book 'Mindfulness: The No-Diet Diet Book', coaches a new client Amy around the thoughts that are creating her eating and weight issues. This is the first of three sessions, all of which will be released as Podcast episodes over the coming weeks.

Elaine's approach is a revolutionary step away from the usual world of diets and self-denial and it's very, very effective - she's helped hundreds of people to lose weight and go on to live healthier, happier lives.

Being a fly on the wall to this coaching session, was mind-blowing even to me, coming to it as a coach with an understanding of the same three principles of Mind, Thought & Consciousness that Elaine shares with her clients.

In this episode, Elaine explains:

• How we often eat to create feelings that recapture memories or pleasant associations with certain types of food
• The benefits of eating 'mindfully', i.e. checking in with your thoughts and feelings before you reach into the fridge
• How we can move from that typical dieting mindset of deprivation and willpower, to a sense of happiness, freedom and choice

Above all, Elaine is all about people enjoying the food they eat and their lives as a whole. As Elaine says "Using the Mind-Fullness approach, you will have the body you want easily and effortlessly and much sooner than you thought possible.  This approach will change the way you think about food and your weight."